Arousal Based Match Maker [ABMM]

[Yinkle]

What's New in Version 2.4.2

MCM overhauled - requires MCM helper, or it won't work, adds persistent settings - check your settings if updating from an older version of ABMM.
Translation files added.
Optional player's choice setting - enables a message pop-up asking if you want to continue when the player character is selected for a sex scene.
Flagged as ESL.
Sexlab P+ compatibility - let me know if there are any issues.
Requires Backported Extended ESL Support for older game versions.

 

Note: It's been a few years since the last version I uploaded, and there are most likely other changes that I can't remember. Don't update from an older version until you want to start a new play through, as it will likely break your save. Should be fine to install mid-game if an older version isn't installed.

 

Let me know in the comments if you encounter any problems with 2.4.2 and enjoy!

Edited July 17, 2025 by Yinkle

[20140104]

On 3/27/2019 at 1:23 AM, Yinkle said:

Arousal Based Match Maker [ABMM]

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A simple sex mod based on Ashal's matchmaker, I decided to share it in case anyone likes the idea. There are a lot of other mods that initiate sex but none that do it in as simple a way as Ashal's matchmaker. This mod expands on it a bit but keeps it as simple as possible.

 

What this mod does:

Runs a polling script on the player which evaluates the nearby npcs (and player) for arousal level and if conditions are met initiates sex between viable characters.

If the player is already involved in a sex scene there is a chance that nearby npcs will be driven crazy and start masturbating.

Key condition settings can be set in the MCM (polling rate, minimum arousal for participants, chance that a character will want sex)

 

Credits:

Ashal for SexLab Framework and MatchMaker

ZAZ team for optional dance animations: version 1.4.6+

Monoman1 and Lupine00 for the SLEN interface soft dependency method.

 

Recommended:

Sexlab Eager NPCS (SLEN)

 

NB I made this for myself as I couldn't find a mod that did what I wanted without adding a myriad of other stuff.  I decided to share it in case it appealed to other folks. There are loads of mods out there that probably do a better job.

 

If you have Random Sex mod installed I'd advise against using this at the same time, there may well be other mods that it could conflict with.

 

Note: A few have asked why the Creature option is greyed out in the MCM. If Allow Creature Animation & Match Creature Genders are not enabled in SexLab MCM animation settings then this option will be disabled.

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• Submitter
  Yinkle
• Submitted
  03/26/2019
• Category
  Other
• Requirements
  Sexlab framework SE, Sexlab Aroused Redux SE, powerofthree's Papyrus Extender, MCM Helper
• Regular Edition Compatible
  No
• Install Instructions
   

 

 

ABMM Chinese translation copy(no main file documents).rar

[Bigglsby]

On 7/17/2025 at 3:13 AM, Yinkle said:

What's New in Version 2.4.2

MCM overhauled - requires MCM helper, or it won't work, adds persistent settings - check your settings if updating from an older version of ABMM.
Translation files added.
Optional player's choice setting - enables a message pop-up asking if you want to continue when the player character is selected for a sex scene.
Flagged as ESL.
Sexlab P+ compatibility - let me know if there are any issues.
Requires Backported Extended ESL Support for older game versions.

 

Note: It's been a few years since the last version I uploaded, and there are most likely other changes that I can't remember. Don't update from an older version until you want to start a new play through, as it will likely break your save. Should be fine to install mid-game if an older version isn't installed.

 

Let me know in the comments if you encounter any problems with 2.4.2 and enjoy!

 

Not sure if it's a problem/bug, or intentional change - but the enable creatures toggle in the MCM is perma-greyed out.  Not an imperative for me, but it's an observable change from the previous version, so mentioning for that purpose. 

 

Thanks for the update, been using the previous version for years.  Permanent resident of my ever-changing load order.

[Yinkle]

7 hours ago, Bigglsby said:

 

Not sure if it's a problem/bug, or intentional change - but the enable creatures toggle in the MCM is perma-greyed out.  Not an imperative for me, but it's an observable change from the previous version, so mentioning for that purpose. 

 

Thanks for the update, been using the previous version for years.  Permanent resident of my ever-changing load order.

It checks for 1: "allow creatures" (Sexlab) 2: "match creature genders" (Sexlab) 3: Creature framework installed. If 1 and (2 or 3) are true, it won't be greyed out. This hasn't changed, but the way it checks has changed due to MCM helper. I'll look into it, thanks for letting me know!

 

Edit: should be fixed in 2.4.3 (it wasn't checking for changes to SexLab settings, a blunder on my part). 

Edited July 19, 2025 by Yinkle

[Jack005]

Does this mod works with the npcs from hydra slave girls???, it always bother me that the masters and other rich people dont do that even having a mod that to exactly that, the only mod that works is PamaYarm_Matchmaker, but is way chaotic, they fuck in the middle of the city even normal npc or stant marker sellers like Carlota or the old lady selling Eorlund, also this mod has like a way to exclude actors????

[Yinkle]

1 hour ago, Jack005 said:

Does this mod works with the npcs from hydra slave girls?

Never tried that mod, but probably not if those NPC's aren't supposed to be allowed by SexLab.

[Jack005]

14 hours ago, Yinkle said:

Never tried that mod, but probably not if those NPC's aren't supposed to be allowed by SexLab.

well I always use match maker spell on them (master and follower slave) to do animations while I'm too long on a place be an inn or a Jarl castle, and they do their animations without an issue, so probably right?, I have been toggling around with this mod and it seems that I can exclude actors (wich I'm quite please with this option) but it seems that I can't exclude my self from the equation, I would like my char to be approched, not my char go and approach someone, or just exclude my char out of the equation if isn't posible, is there a way to acomplish this?? or am I asking too much??

Edited July 24, 2025 by Jack005
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[Yinkle]

24 minutes ago, Jack005 said:

well I always use match maker spell on them (master and follower slave) to do animations while I'm too long on a place be an inn or a Jarl castle, and they do their animations without an issue, so probably right?, I have been toggling around with this mod and it seems that I can exclude actors (wich I'm quite please with this option) but it seems that I can't exclude my self from the equation, I would like my char to be approched, not my char go and approach someone, or just exclude my char out of the equation if isn't posible, is there a way to acomplish this?? or am I asking too much??

In the MCM there are 2 options: In the main settings, "Player Choice Message" - you can have a message pop-up asking if you want to be in a scene, and in the "More" tab: "Player Allowed" - toggle whether the player character can be selected for ABMM sex scenes.

[Unknowing-e]

Hey Yinkle, not sure if this is an issue with ABMM or P+. But whenever there are 3 or more actors. The game crashes. On the last version i think 2.2.3 it was, the matchmaking worked fine up to 4 actors.

Does ABMM have a debug log that i can look at?

Edited August 8, 2025 by Unknowing-e

[Unknowing-e]

This has me thinking it P+ due to RNDSEXNG having the same issue. But it works up to 3 actors.

[Unknowing-e]

The Crash is from ABMM not knowing how to handle P+ returning a no animation found message. If abmm tries to pull actors for animations that are not in P+. abmm will crash.

My problem was I didn't have animation for 4 males. Whenever abmm tried to set up animation with 4 males, I would CTD.

[conquesti]

I think it's a great mod, but I'd like it if, when a sex scene starts, the NPCs would look for a more intimate place away from people, or a bed, like the Flower Girl does.
Is this possible?

 

Edited August 21, 2025 by conquesti

[conquesti]

Is this mod compatible with the fertility mod?

When an NPC is inseminated, checking the inseminated or pregnant NPCs or loading the game, the insemination disappears.

Edited September 15, 2025 by conquesti

[The Lonesome Spirit]

I think an option for NPCs looking for beds would be nice i.e "NPCs use Beds" (Always - Sometimes - Never)

 

If I think of any other suggestions I'll edit this post!

[Yinkle]

On 9/29/2025 at 9:48 PM, The Lonesome Spirit said:

I think an option for NPCs looking for beds would be nice i.e "NPCs use Beds" (Always - Sometimes - Never)

That is one of SexLab's MCM options, and therefore not needed in this mod.

[pleaseletmedownloadstuff]

The MCM doesn't seem to give me options, I have all dependencies. I am playing on SE

 

Edit: My MCM Helper was installed for the wrong version. After reinstalling with the right version, the MCM works, though I have yet to see the mod in action.

Edited November 4, 2025 by pleaseletmedownloadstuff
Problem solved

[Vonpire]

EXACTLY THE PERFECT MOD i WANTED So far works flawless. Thanks !!!

[SmashNGrab]

I downloaded and installed the mod and its requirements, but only the bunny logo appears in the MCM on the SE

[Yinkle]

On 2/17/2026 at 4:39 PM, SmashNGrab said:

I downloaded and installed the mod and its requirements, but only the bunny logo appears in the MCM on the SE

Make sure you have the correct version of MCM Helper for you game version.

[Dorabella]

The MT_Idle of arousal/masturbation, activates on my character even while running Sexlab , yes, the one that allows NPCs to masturbate

How to stop it without compromising its functionality?

 

Spoiler

 

[MereFJ]

OMG, I finally got this to work again after installing the full AE.   I've set up the MCM menu and now let's see if it matches anybody.   Didn't care much for the random sex mod being used as a replacer for this.  

 

Now if I could only get the lastest version of sexist guards to work!  I found a very updated version and I also found a different mod with similar goals but just didn't like the implementation.

 

Still haven't gotten SLEN to work in my AE version of Skyrim

[Yinkle]

On 3/24/2026 at 8:36 AM, Dorabella said:

The MT_Idle of arousal/masturbation, activates on my character even while running Sexlab , yes, the one that allows NPCs to masturbate

How to stop it without compromising its functionality?

 

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ABMM checks if characters are in the SexLab animating faction to prevent this from happening. Which version of SexLab are you using?

[Dorabella]

1 hour ago, Yinkle said:

Which version of SexLab are you using?

1.66

[Yinkle]

5 hours ago, Dorabella said:

1.66

Are you sure that it's a SexLab scene? Some other mods start animated sex scenes too. I honestly don't know why this would happen otherwise.

[Dorabella]

18 hours ago, Yinkle said:

Are you sure that it's a SexLab scene? Some other mods start animated sex scenes too. I honestly don't know why this would happen otherwise.

In fact, it shouldn't interfere . .It's almost certainly ABMM related, once I disable the mod the problem goes away . In the meantime, I tried reconfigure the mod and, it seems, the problem has disappeared.