AwfulArchdemon Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Clearly, you're not as attracted to them as you say. I've had many female friends. It's only a matter of time. Gender will become more apparent to you when you see them in lingerie... It's different when they know you like them before you become friends. The topic will come up again, and it will be awkward. IF you actually like them that way, or find yourself highly attracted to them. Sometimes, the girl you're friends with is exactly what you're looking for.
Nonsense667 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Clearly, you're not as attracted to them as you say. I've had many female friends. It's only a matter of time. Gender will become more apparent to you when you see them in lingerie... It's different when they know you like them before you become friends. The topic will come up again, and it will be awkward. IF you actually like them that way, or find yourself highly attracted to them. Sometimes, the girl you're friends with is exactly what you're looking for. Heh.
Koko.Hekmatyar Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I don't know I think some of that is personality and personal self control more then anything else. My friend Richard has made it clear he likes me more then once but I don't feel the same way and have told him such. However, even though he is attracted to me he has also seem me in just my underwear more then once but it isn't awkward to me for a man to see me like that attracted to me or not (call me strange I don't have a problem with my body go figure) and by his speech and actions during those times it doesn't appear to be for him either.
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 @Junko: I uhh...wouldn't wanna be in his shoes. Poor guy...that's exactly what I was talking about. Precisely what I was talking about. He told you repeatedly that he wants you, you said no, and then you roam around in your underwear?? I've been there, and just because he played it cool, and acted like it was no big deal and totally normal, does NOT mean he wasn't uncomfortable. He looked. I guarantee it. You're making things harder for him than you realize. Cut it out. Or show him the night of his life. That always made things a lot better for me, when I liked someone who said no. Unlike popular belief that sex complicates things, sex told me this: She does indeed find me attractive, but just doesn't want to get in a serious relationship with me. I can definately live with that. You'd be surprised at the new man you'll see when you've made him happy that way. It's all about ego. I hate to say it, but there you have it. If I have a girl on the left telling me she want to f*** the sh** out of me, and the girl on the right shuts me down hard, I'm left baffled, and dumbfounded. How can I be both hot and butt-ugly?? It leaves me a kind of limbo, unable to use my mojo. Sex clears that right up, and makes a new man out of a fella. @Mogie56: Gonna have to agree with you there. However, a way out doesn't seem to the case. When I go to school, I'll be living in the dorm. The moment I graduate, I'm moving to a different state, and getting a job in gaming, or animation of some kind. I'll be staying with family at 1st, until I get my job started, and save up for a place of my own, and she knows all that. I would never ask my family to let a girl move in to their house with me. She only knows so much about me because everyone there is very nosy, and ask me a hundred questions about myself. To them, I'm the young, talented guy in the room. Everyone else there is a bum with no hobbies, or interests. Not my opinion, but cold hard fact. If you knew where I work, you'd understand. No ambition anywhere in that place. Talking to him, is the same as talking to her. They are usually both present at the same time, and she is very public, vocal, and just plain blatantly obvious about her feelings. She'll shout it from across the room. I try to stay extra busy when she's around, but now, she just thinks I'm an excellent worker!
Koko.Hekmatyar Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 well....with regards to looking to be honest any guy who doesn't try to look at a woman who is only wearing her underwear I'd have to consider the possibility that they were gay. No matter how polite a guy is that is far to great a temptation to pass up.
Guest airdance Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 you guys are always saying "bitches they be crazy" after reading this thread I can see why. You drive us crazy. Rule one:- women speak a different language than you do. we do not understand you, and you do not understand us. When attempting any form of communication between us, always refer to rule number one.
Captain Cobra Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Just wear a pony shirt. Works in 3 weeks or you get your money back, guarantied.
Mephisto_VI Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 @AwfulArchdemon Well now that you've tried tactful by telling her you'd like to focus on studies you can possibly tell her something like "If you truly care about me, you'd respect the fact I want to wait. I respected you enough to be honest with you that I am not ready for a relationship at this time. but if you do not want to respect me back there can be no hope for a relationship" And I wish you luck in this. I won't be in a good position to offer advice after this post as I will be needing some myself.
Emily Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 There is another way (...) but emily doubt you will like it. When Emily doesn't like someone to get close. she will say that 'I'am Gay, sorry. Hun' This break any hetero deals off. But girls network are vast, words spread like wild fire in dry forest among her connections. Either this could end badly for you or her own account.
Dragonjoe69 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 This guy should respect you, if he judges you for employment on the basis of you not "fucking' his friend , He need to be bitch slapped for being an ass hole, In my opinion you are more a man to not take advantage of such situation, stick to your morals another job will come. You don't need idiots like him
Dragonjoe69 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 There is another way (...) but emily doubt you will like it. When Emily doesn't like someone to get close. she will say that 'I'am Gay, sorry. Hun' This break any hetero deals off. But girls network are vast, words spread like wild fire in dry forest among her connections. Either this could end badly for you or her own account. Emily I have to disagree with this, I've seen the I'm gay thing totally backfire as suddenly the aggressor / interested party want's to convert you and just makes the situation worse
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 There is another way (...) but emily doubt you will like it. When Emily doesn't like someone to get close. she will say that 'I'am Gay, sorry. Hun' This break any hetero deals off. But girls network are vast, words spread like wild fire in dry forest among her connections. Either this could end badly for you or her own account. Emily I have to disagree with this, I've seen the I'm gay thing totally backfire as suddenly the aggressor / interested party want's to convert you and just makes the situation worse Some guys pretend to be gay, just to get ladies. It works. I haven't tried it (what if they wanted proof?), but I've seen it work. Sad.
Emily Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 So it was the other way around. Sexual Orientation are confusing.
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Now you know not to try to get with "gay" guys. It could all be a ruse. btw, I saw "old girl" again, and...nothing. Maybe because I restrained myself when Bruno Mars played on the TV? Who knows. I've got something to say to her if she flirts again, based on responses I got here. Thanks everyone! If this doesn't work......I'll just ditch her at a gas station.
nonusnomeni Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 and blow up that gas station just to be sure
StayFrosty Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 You want female replies?...Well I am an older woman with teenage daughters (oldest one 20)....I have been through having to turn down men nicely and so have my girls, I will tell you the same thing I tell them....It's you you have to look at in the mirror every morning, do you want to be proud of the man you see before you or disgusted? It's all about your own integrity, how much your integrity is worth to you and who you want to be. No one can tell you how to deal with this girl, you need to search inside yourself for the answer to that...though admittedly she sounds like a real pushy pain in the *ss...The best I can offer is 'be honest, no matter the price', it's you you have to live with, not her or this other man involved. What I would do is tell her firmly, keeping firm eye contact, "I am sorry, but I really am not interested, I really do hope for the best for you though and hope you find what your looking for but it is not me". Be sincere in wishing her the best and maybe give her a quick light friendly touch on her forearm for her troubles (supportive gesture) and a way of apology from you for lack of feelings returned....Sincerity and eye contact being the most important elements...but remain very firm and show yourself to be decisive. If she persists afterwards, just keep firmly saying "(insert her name) No" until it finally sinks in for her. I wish you all the best in dealing with this issue AwfulArchDemon.
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Thanks, but if I simply say "not interested", and the other stuff you said, she'll likely bust out the "I thought you said it was because of school..." line, so that would be changing my story. She seems to be getting it, but she still sneaks in sly offers from time to time. It's not as bad as it was, but she hasn't backed off entirely yet. Baby steps, SF...baby steps. I'll get there. Thank you for the reply. I wish you and your girls luck in turning people down politely too.
...0... Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Most women know when guy don't want them and most wil leave at that and move along. Or is there something else going? Come one be honest you can tell us Obsession? Foulplay? You both love playing this kind of games? In few years you laugh at this and thinking " what the hell was i doing, i was such a fool at that young age " Good luck.
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 ^ Nope. Nothing like that (I hope). We have basically nothing in common. A total mismatch. To be honest, the first time she ran game on me, I didn't take it seriously. I thought for certain she was just messing around. She literally said "I bet you be gettin' tired, working all those hours. You could come to my house, and take a nap my couch", to which I replied "Heh, that would be nice!" while stretching out, and yawning. Then she added "or my bed...", I was like.................................................. I literally said "I...I'm not sure how to respond to that", as her mom busted out laughing in sheer joy. She continued flirting with me like crazy, saying all kinds of "interesting" things, to the point where I actually blushed, out of pure embarrassment. When she left, I was baffled, but I still didn't think she was serious. She COULDN'T have been. We are really really different, in ever-so-many ways, so it seemed completely impossible to me. A few days later, she was doing it again, and specifically turned to me, looked me in the eyes, and said "I'm serious". That cleared that right up. I've never lead her on, or flirted back, or anything like that, so at least she can't pin any "quotes" on me. The guy who does the job placement came to my work today. We talked a bunch, so that's a bit refreshing. He's actually a really cool dude. He doesn't seem at all like the type to screw me out of a job over his sister-in-law, but this is still a situation that needs to handled carefully. I'll be alright. Maybe I'll even learn the proper tricks to turning a girl down. How many guys can say that!? Girls got it down to a science.
AKM Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Your initial response, I think, was a mistake. "I...I'm not sure how to respond to that", may have been what you were thinking, but to the mind of someone who's interested, it sounds like you're on the fence, and if you're on the fence, all you need is a push, of course (or, as she's been trying to do, a hard shove). I've had plenty where the little things have been not intentionally ignored, but certainly seen past in the hopes that it might work. They were there, but I just didn't see them at the time. Should have done more research ie gotten to know the girl better before asking her out; (who is she really?).
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Maybe the initial response seemed if-y (it was actually quite comical, with a shocked expression on my face), but I have a not-so-subtle way of brushing off her "flattery". Everyone can see it, so I'm sure she's noticed it too. I'm still nice about everything, but I tend not to respond much to her attempts. Maybe just the famous "not interested" smile. The kind you recognize easily as a polite no thank you. I've certainly seen that look before.
AwfulArchdemon Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Hmm, she hasn't been coming in. Did it work? Am I free!? I feel like I should celebrate!
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