Am I the only one that's lonely?

Azurashi · March 14, 2022

Hi, even though it is a bit late to reply to this, I wanted to share with you anyway.

First of all, you are definitely not alone.

Second of all, you might be too focused on your loneliness that you dont see the world around you.

I (f) also sometimes feel lonely and I would love to have a partner, however the idea of me having sex with him (or with toys or people in general) in real life is a bit uncomfortable for me, so I try to be happy by myself.

Befofe anyone starts: It may sound like I was degenerated by the sex mods etc. But hey sex in game is also uncomfortable for me, so the problem is elswhere. ?

Idyll · March 14, 2022

8 hours ago, Z0mBieP00Nani said:

I think it has more to do with becoming accustomed to jacking off as opposed to having sex, if that makes sense. Basically when you are with a new partner or even the same one there exists the possibility for performance anxiety and I think that if the anxiety is bad enough then you can't get your peepee hard when you need to... or at least that was my experience once (then againI was also at a party and there were other factors involved). When you kack off there is no anxiety other than the risk of getting caught, but otherwise there is no pressure to impress someone else. Then I guess there is the idea of over saturation, or basically seeing SO much tits and ass of "perfect physical quality" that you become desensitized to the form of the opposite sex and have difficulties getting hard for that reason.

I guess that's the part where I reveal I was screwing around, typing that line, but yes, I guess there's a certain depth to flaccid dicks.

AKM · March 15, 2022

17 hours ago, Resdayn said:

mind you, I'm from europe and in the eastern side, things different here.

Not to put too fine a point on it, but, when Chads are asked "Where do we U.S. males go to find "reasonable" women, if the U.S. women are so skewed?", the answer is often 'Eastern Europe'. So yes, things are very different there, apparently.

You have a strong point in mentioning the problems with dating apps, too.

You're absolutely correct about how bad those apps are due to their limitations as well. Unfortunately I've found that showing any interest in women here in the U.S. can not only often be met with outright hostility (from both sexes), but also can be very dangerous to one's life, whether that be freedom, income, or just flat out other males ganging up on you to "defend her honor". It wasn't a pleasant experience, that's for damn sure.

Idyll · March 15, 2022

1 hour ago, AKM said:

Unfortunately I've found that showing any interest in women here in the U.S. can not only often be met with outright hostility (from both sexes), but also can be very dangerous to one's life, whether that be freedom, income, or just flat out other males ganging up on you to "defend her honor". It wasn't a pleasant experience, that's for damn sure.

That's because, according to my observations, america's people tend to be leagues more hypersensitive to many topics, including women and the ways females are treated, than the rest of the world - not saying that it isn't a thing elsewhere, just that it seems to me to be more pronounced there. Sometimes I feel like the chivalry people show towards females, like we're to be put on pedestals, obnoxious. We're just people, like the guys but in a different format, nothing more nor less.

It's pretty sad to see the world stigmatize males for the stupidest things, in the dumbest ways or for cases to exist where men cannot defend themselves against an abusive woman by fear of being the one charged with abuse and I say "the world" because it happens everywhere that's somewhere, as far as I last could tell, although there are varying degrees depending on the location.

People seem to willfully misunderstand what those who fought for female rights wanted, other than voting rights and the like, which I believe was mostly to simply be treated as equals; not for people to take initiative and "protect" us each time something happens around us, without us even seeking to be safeguarded. We shouldn't be given special treatment just because of our physical difference, that's like saying you're pro-feminism then spit on equality and I don't mean the new kind of feminism and equality where they just wanna flap their tits in the wind and complain about the way males simply exist, I mean the old kind where women actually had real reasons to fight for themselves. (Although I must agree on the ability to not wear a top, but that's because I'm a degenerate.)

A dumbed-down example of how I think people should interact would be that...

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I'd want my friendship, with a male, to not pay mind to barriers like "she's a girl so I can't do certain things". Like, if I give him a friendly shoulder bump then I'd expect one back or something instead of him pondering over whether or not to do anything since I'm a girl or the skin of my shoulders are exposed and for people to not antagonize him over it if he were to bump back - "fun between boys/girls" is an illusion, it's perfectly fine and possible to have "fun between friends" regardless of one's in-betweens.

This example is about friendship but you get the idea. Unfortunately, most don't seem to apply or even comprehend something as simple as true gender equality, which is a pity.

Splendor Solis · March 15, 2022

6 hours ago, AKM said:

I've found that showing any interest in women here in the U.S. can not only often be met with outright hostility (from both sexes), but also can be very dangerous to one's life, whether that be freedom, income, or just flat out other males ganging up on you to "defend her honor".

This is something I've noticed too. There's this weird mindset that everything male is predatory and coercive, and anything we enjoy is seen as offensive and exploitative. I honestly get the impression that they'd straight up castrate men if they could; they're already playing around with chemicals and hormones.

March 15, 2022

I don't even have regular friends. I can't even imagine how it is to have a "significant other"

KoolHndLuke · March 27, 2022

Hmm... let's weigh things here;

Relationship advantages = Having someone other than your family to bail you out of jail. (they'll get around to it... eventually)

Having someone to fuck. (may not always want to and may hold the sex hostage for various petty reasons)

Better credit score. (though that just means you can get yourself into bigger debt buying the stuff that it is inevitably needed for a long term relationship- even minus 'love')

Someone 'loves' you besides your mom. (Don't even get me started on that mess)

Someone you can share intimate secrets with. (that may or may not come back to haunt you later)

Someone to do actual RL things with. (Why not a friend or two to hang out with?- same thing)

To feel complete as a person. (until the breakup that is- which is a special kind of fun all it's own)

Sure I missed some, but that's all I could think of right now.

VS.

Single life advantages = Coming and going, playing games, hanging out all night getting wasted, etc. when you feel like it without having to 'check' with your SO. (i.e. total freedom)

Having actual RL sex whenever the opportunity arises and not feeling guilty about it. (it actually does happen you know)

Not having to pretend you like something when you really hate it.

Having more money to spend on yourself. (the complete opposite of relationship debt- and that's if you manage to keep anything in a possible divorce)

Telling your boss to go fuck himself because the only person you're responsible for is you. (and you got skills, baby!)

Not pretending to still be in love when that ship done sailed many a moon ago. (assuming you were dumb enough to fall for them in the first place. Hey! It happens to the best of us!)

Saying "No, not tonight" and NOT spending a week trying to explain your utter failure as a human being and begging for forgiveness. (note that you will be saying "sorry, love" a minimum of three times a day- five if you go dancing)

And... yes, jerking off to porn whenever and however long you like to in privacy without any nagging feelings of impending doom if you keep it up and don't find a SO soon. (unfortunately requires one shitty relationship to appreciate)

March 27, 2022

I'm definitely not perfect, but I'm happy, slutty, and fun. I'm cool with that.

mopsyd · March 27, 2022

When I was between relationships in my 20’s it definitely felt like a void, but in my 40’s I really find solitude to be tranquil. I chose not to have children, so the mental gymnastics of maintaining an ongoing relationship or dating are just not very appealing. I have nothing against women in general. I just don’t have any practical use for a relationship. I’ve had deep meaningful relationships in the past. I don’t feel any kind of void exists for not having one now.

I think a lot of this is just a combination of perspective and immediate sex drive for most people. If you haven’t had it before it’s probably a lot more to grapple with. That does tend to tone down over time though.

March 27, 2022

17 minutes ago, mopsyd said:

When I was between relationships in my 20’s it definitely felt like a void, but in my 40’s I really find solitude to be tranquil. I chose not to have children, so the mental gymnastics of maintaining an ongoing relationship or dating are just not very appealing. I have nothing against women in general. I just don’t have any practical use for a relationship. I’ve had deep meaningful relationships in the past. I don’t feel any kind of void exists for not having one now.

I think a lot of this is just a combination of perspective and immediate sex drive for most people. If you haven’t had it before it’s probably a lot more to grapple with. That does tend to tone down over time though.

I get this, different strokes for different folks.

Fiend71 · March 27, 2022

Heck no - you are definitely not the only one.

I'm coming up on six years without so much as a peck on the cheek.

I'm also fully aware that I'm next to impossible to live with, so don't ever expect that. Yes, a GF would be very nice - hell even some sex - once, but not happening here, so either I mope and kick the dirt, or just keep going.

Not fun. Very boring, and isolated. I either go looking (rejection hurts more sometimes), or just sit here.

It is what it is though.

I do feel the pain though Dude.

AKM · March 28, 2022

On 3/27/2022 at 5:34 PM, mopsyd said:

When I was between relationships in my 20’s it definitely felt like a void, but in my 40’s I really find solitude to be tranquil. I chose not to have children, so the mental gymnastics of maintaining an ongoing relationship or dating are just not very appealing. I have nothing against women in general. I just don’t have any practical use for a relationship. I’ve had deep meaningful relationships in the past. I don’t feel any kind of void exists for not having one now.

I think a lot of this is just a combination of perspective and immediate sex drive for most people. If you haven’t had it before it’s probably a lot more to grapple with. That does tend to tone down over time though.

Yep. Every bit of what you said. The "I choose not to have children" part; the legal landscape here in the U.S. makes it absolutely crystal clear that the woman is the ONLY one with reproductive rights. If she wants a kid, there's only one answer, and that is 'don't get involved'. Not fun, but oh well. Add to that the hatred, spite, vitriol etc. when things start to unravel, and getting involved just doesn't make sense to me. Unfortunately, for me, there is a "void", but all it takes is looking at how often, and thus how likely, it is that it all goes wrong, and how bad it can get, and it's just - no. Do I want it? Yes. Is it worth the problems that come with it? No.

It does get easier with time, but I think that's more of a "It is how it is, and that's how it is. Your choices are take it or leave it." Eventually, one just accepts what is.

AKM · March 28, 2022

On 3/27/2022 at 6:09 PM, Fiend71 said:

I'm coming up on six years without so much as a peck on the cheek.

One of the things that females in general tend to not understand (until they hit 30+, and things start dying down for them) is just how little physical contact many (most?) men get. If they're not in the 'desirable' category, they're invisible. Even when not them as a person, but what they provide for society (their job) is absolutely critical, they're still invisible. Here they are being the ultimate provider, of a critical asset to society, and it still doesn't matter.

It's absolutely atrocious that when my buddy the cat (my closest friend) was diagnosed with cancer, it was my boss (effectively) who was there as the shoulder to cry on. Thing is, she's a she. My actual boss? Men don't do physical contact, especially of the emotional kind, unless they've known each other for years and are more like brothers than friends.

"Suck it up and be a man! (Men aren't human and don't get emotional pain!)" Such a lousy attitude this society has. Sure, you can't come apart at the seams when the shit hits the fan, but don't you dare show emotion in front of a female ever if you want any chance with her as a "partner"!

Fiend71 · March 28, 2022

3 minutes ago, AKM said:

One of the things that females in general tend to not understand (until they hit 30+, and things start dying down for them) is just how little physical contact many (most?) men get. If they're not in the 'desirable' category, they're invisible. Even when not them as a person, but what they provide for society (their job) is absolutely critical, they're still invisible. Here they are being the ultimate provider, of a critical asset to society, and it still doesn't matter.

It's absolutely atrocious that when my buddy the cat (my closest friend) was diagnosed with cancer, it was my boss (effectively) who was there as the shoulder to cry on. Thing is, she's a she. My actual boss? Men don't do physical contact, especially of the emotional kind, unless they've known each other for years and are more like brothers than friends.

"Suck it up and be a man! (Men aren't human and don't get emotional pain!)" Such a lousy attitude this society has. Sure, you can't come apart at the seams when the shit hits the fan, but don't you dare show emotion in front of a female ever if you want any chance with her as a "partner"!

Well put. I do have other issues preventing me from being more active, but am not prepared to discuss that in open forum ATM.

It's kind of true though. We're expected to be stalwart, emotionless rocks for the most part. Not to say that there aren't strong capable females...that is a minority though.

It just kind of sucks not to be even included anymore. For that, I can totally relate to the OP.

AKM · March 29, 2022

Warning: tangent

On 3/15/2022 at 12:03 AM, Idyll said:

That's because, according to my observations...

Hypersensitive, yes, but there's a reason for that, and it has to do with mob culture, group think, "cancel culture". It's entirely possible for the mob to destroy someone's career.

Example, 10:00-10:16:

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10:00-10:16

Individuals can be smart. Individuals can think for themselves. Groups? Not so much. And it doesn't take many to start the herd mentality rolling.

As for chivalry and pedestals, that's what boys are taught to do by the system. Only the smartest/most observant it figure out in time that the standard teachings of how boys are supposed to interact with girls are almost all wrong. That's changing with the arrival of Youtube and various other platforms that are giving middle aged and old men a place to tell young men where they went wrong. It's too late for many of these men, but the young men (and hopefully boys) might be able to see the truth in time to do something about it to make their lives better. I'm assuming the same goes for the women.

As for "just people", not according to the legal system. There are very clear distinctions between men and women so far as the legal system is concerned. I'd be happy to point you in the direction of any number of men who have been screwed over by the system. The basic problem is that when women demanded "equality", the laws didn't change to reflect that "equality".

The following paragraph is in no way intended as a personal attack. Simply a statement of fact.

Why do I say "equality"? Simple: Did YOU have to sign on the dotted line saying that you'd be shipped off to war if necessary prior to being granted your "right" to vote? Didn't think so. That's NOT equality. ("Right" because there are stipulations, like serving jury duty, and in some U.S. states, you can't get a driving license without signing on the dotted line, either. It's not a right if there are stipulations of any kind, whatsoever.)

That said, you're absolutely correct about men intentionally not defending themselves against women here, for exactly the reasons stated. The law will almost always take the women's side, no matter the evidence, or lack thereof. Kind of like the state providing stated (verbal) evidence versus you doing so. If the state does so, it's admissible in court. If you do so, it's hearsay, and thrown out.

"People seem to willfully misunderstand what those who fought for female rights wanted" Of course they do. They do so because twisting the facts serves them personally. Just ask any politician anywhere in the world what's more important, the truth or a twist to make it work for them as they see fit. The big problem is that while it may serve the individual at the time, it sets a precedent, and sets in motion things that have far reaching consequences that the people who set things in motion probably not only don't see, but won't live to see.

"Unfortunately, most don't seem to apply or even comprehend something as simple as true gender equality, which is a pity." Except that true gender equality doesn't exist and never will because of physical differences, among other things. You can't have equal, but you can have symbiotic. That's what it should have been all along. You do what you do best, I do what I do best, and together we get the job done, with half the effort on the part of each individual. Instead, we have more and more of the population purposely not getting involved, and thus most of the population gets to all of the work themselves, effectively doubling the work load.

From where I stand, that is the foundation of all the problems between men and women today. We lost sight of the fact that we each bring specific things "to the table", and that we work best when we work together, and work to our individual strengths, instead of fighting, demanding that "we're equal" (which has come to mean "we're the same") when that's clearly not the case.

mopsyd · March 29, 2022

I have a bit more philosophical reason for my position. I do agree that the US family court system is absolutely not favorable to men. I don't have any basis for comparison elsewhere because I have not spent a significant proportion of my life living in any other country. But I don't really think that either the left or right political narratives realistically capture the problem. There is a conspiracy against you, but it is not a government conspiracy, it is a biological conspiracy. The government part is just a subconscious reflex that extends the underlying biological one. Biologically speaking, men and women both get a raw deal. Nature just demands that we routinely crank out babies, just as it does off any species. It is not particularly fair or kind in how it prods us to do that. But it is effective. And to nature, that is all that matters. Men and women's sexuality is essentially pitted against each other on purpose. Men have a much higher sex drive than women, but women get more actual enjoyment from sex than men do, if whoever they are with is doing it right. For women, the very honest apprehension about sexual encounters due to the probability of immediate personal life complications is offset by by sex being just a little more kickass for them than it is for us. In our case, it's much more like a nagging itch that demands an occasional scratch and can't be ignored, but when it is scratched it is rarely ever mind blowing. I think this accounts for a lot of mens resentment of women in general. It's not the women that they really resent, it's realistically that they resent having to deal with this constant irritating buzz demanding that they go fuck which can't really be ignored, which requires female participation to scratch properly for the vast majority of us. And it definitely doesn't help that perspective that women are a bit skittish about the whole thing, which from their perspective makes quite a lot of sense. For us, we can just do our business and be done with it. For women, if they get pregnant they have a huge shift in their entire life trajectory on their hands alongside possible health complications which are often permanent. Neither one is wrong for having a little bit of resentment about being biologically shackled to the other. It's a pain in everyone's ass, men and women alike.

The nature thing goes a lot deeper than that though. I am sure you are aware of the tendency of relationships to fail somewhere around the seven year mark. What happens in seven years? Or rather, what has been the universal constant for the better part of human history? Seven years is about how long it takes for you to meet, mate, have a kid, and raise them to adolescence, at which point they are probably fast enough to get away from a hyena or at least smart enough not to try to go pet it and become lunch. In a primitive society, a seven year old is roughly how old you would need to be to be autonomous enough to not need constant 24/7 care anymore. And from nature's perspective that means your relationship has run it's course already. It already did what it was supposed to do. So you are programmed to move along about then, and you are also programmed to be really pissed off and jealous about it because that increases the probability that you will shack up with someone else quickly and do this little dance again promptly. You are supposed to fail, you are supposed to be really mad about it, and you are supposed to believe it shouldn't happen like that. All of those are purposeful, and so is it not really working out beyond that point. That is what gets babies made reliably, and nature couldn't give a rats ass if you like the process or are even aware of what it is doing to you. Society's response, which includes both our morality as well as our legality, is a collective mirror of this underlying objective. We are wired to make this happen. And all things we come up with will at least on some subconcious primordeal level be aligned with that.

There is also of course a certain faction that is politically scheming too. It is basically a universal constant that the fastest way to get anyone off their ass doing what you want is to threaten their offspring or seize control of them and dangle them over their parent's heads like a carrot on a stick. Whether that threat is direct or existential is mostly irrelevant. Interfering in the family unit is probably humanity's single most motivating tactic for forcing group conformity, and this extends all the way back through every civilization in recorded human history in one extent or another. Turns out that forcing conformity is kind of a big deal to us on both an individual as well as social level. None of this is really anyone's fault, it's just the hand we got dealt. Make your peace with it however you need to, because it's bigger than you or I, and it's not going to change for our sake. Back in the day when life was actually really fucking hard for the majority of humanity, that made a lot of sense. It really doesn't anymore for anyone blessed with a first world habitat, but we have some 40,000 years of human history, and for maybe a century and a half of that we have had a mostly non-lethal environment. Our wiring just doesn't change that fast.

So anyways, I'm really not mad at anyone about this. I really think I am fortunate to have busted out of this cycle. For anyone still in it that it's working out for, more power to ya. But if it's not working out for you, I want you to know you aren't doing anything wrong. The deck was always stacked against you. Doesn't even matter what sex you are, we all get a bit of a raw deal from it so the whole of the species doesn't get a raw deal. It's just bigger than us, but thankfully it's enough bigger that participation is pretty much optional, and it's not going to fuck up anyone else if you opt out.

Idyll · March 29, 2022

@mopsyd

Holy... Spacing, mate, spacing. I don't mean to be mean but I just got a headache to hit me like a truck when I saw such high-density grey matter.

Like, a paragraph that's over a dozen lines that's not in an article or other such, let alone 8 lines and in such a tightly knit visual format, ought to be shortened.

It's far from easy on the eye regardless of glasses and would repel most people, consciously or not, as it tends to give off disorderly vibes.

You can even be creative and call it socially distancing your phrases. Nice depth really, it's great you use your head but for pepe's sake, do it like a cake and slice then part it with one blank line when it reaches 6 lines long...

AKM · March 30, 2022

Back to the whole "lonely" bit, the thing I've found is that you must push yourself to get out and meet people. Incredibly difficult for an introvert like myself, but you have to look at the big picture. Sure, being alone now might be okay, but what about later? What about when you're older and you don't have those strong friendships built on years of knowing each other and being friends? Of course, you have to be careful about who your friends are, too. Who you expend the effort to become friends with. As the saying goes: 'You are the sum of your three closest friends." Quite true in my experience. I recently had an example of this, where someone I have known for years insisted on talking politics. Okay, no problem. I consider myself pretty middle of the road, I can talk politics with most anyone - IF they let me. See, this individual wanted to talk politics. What they didn't want was to listen to someone else's take on the particular subjects they brought up. You can only listen to someone effectively rant on for so long without being given the opportunity to provide any input, positive, negative, or neutral, before enough is enough. Thing is, they were the one who cut all ties, not me. Which is great, because I don't have that hanging over my head. It was out of my hands.

Also, people change. I only had two childhood friends who I had any interest in maintaining contact with. One did, the other did not. The last I saw the one who did not, there was no question that the old friendship was over. No animosity, just... it wasn't there. Last time I saw them, it was the same old them underneath, but the friendship was obviously dead. It happens.

How to meet people: Different things, but mostly, for me, getting into new hobbies. Find something you are genuinely interested in leaning, find a group that does that thing, arm yourself with well thought out questions (as well as some base level knowledge, though this isn't an absolute requirement), and then go to those groups. Don't be a pest, of course, but when people get the impression that you're genuinely interested in whatever the subject matter, you'll find that they're usually happy to share their knowledge. Impart your own knowledge when and where you can, learn earnestly, and eventually, you might find yourself with some new friends. Just don't push specifically for the 'friends' outcome; more for the 'knowledge acquisition' outcome. Remember, most people love talking about themselves, and many who really enjoy a particular subject also really enjoy sharing their knowledge of that subject with people, much more so with people who are also interested and eager to learn.

On 3/29/2022 at 3:16 AM, mopsyd said:

women get more actual enjoyment from sex than men do, if whoever they are with is doing it right.

Saw a documentary about this subject a long while back. It was interesting to see the "Doe Eyes" this gal was giving the guy (both early 20's). She'd talk about how "I've had sex with a lot of guys, and it was "okay", but this guy! Holy shit, it's unbelievably good!" The documentary talked about how, when paired "correctly", the enjoyment by the female leads to physiological changes during sex that increase the chances of pregnancy. Quite interesting stuff; too bad I can't remember who/what/when of the documentary.

On 3/29/2022 at 5:11 AM, Idyll said:

Holy... Spacing, mate, spacing.

Wall of text, incoming! Heh.

AKM · March 30, 2022

On 3/28/2022 at 7:48 PM, Fiend71 said:

We're expected to be stalwart, emotionless rocks for the most part.

'Tis nothing new (August, 1965):

Fiend71 · March 30, 2022

BAH! Stymied by "this video is not available in your country" - again.

beefers · March 31, 2022

Count me as lonely on the romantic front. Sure, I have friends and try to be social but as a person with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and social anxiety, "just get out there" is nearly impossible. Add to that I'm what's called "demi-sexual" meaning I can't engage in a romantic relationship with someone I don't feel a deep bond with and you get a 47 year old virgin who has never really had a girlfriend.

I've dated in the past but the last decade has been one of getting my mental health under control. I feel I'm ready for a relationship now but don't know where to start other than the internet and I can't afford any of the prescription-based, more serious dating sites. I tried 'Plenty of Fish' for a while and it was full of scam profiles and the only women who would reply were not the kind I was looking for.

I don't even really care about having sex, what I really crave is intimacy. The touch of a woman and just being comfortable around each other. I've never really had that since I don't like being touched most of the time and don't let people get into my space. Only good friends and family get hugs from me.

Idyll · April 1, 2022

6 hours ago, beefers said:

Count me as lonely on the romantic front. Sure, I have friends and try to be social but as a person with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and social anxiety, "just get out there" is nearly impossible. Add to that I'm what's called "demi-sexual" meaning I can't engage in a romantic relationship with someone I don't feel a deep bond with and you get a 47 year old virgin who has never really had a girlfriend.

I've dated in the past but the last decade has been one of getting my mental health under control. I feel I'm ready for a relationship now but don't know where to start other than the internet and I can't afford any of the prescription-based, more serious dating sites. I tried 'Plenty of Fish' for a while and it was full of scam profiles and the only women who would reply were not the kind I was looking for.

I don't even really care about having sex, what I really crave is intimacy. The touch of a woman and just being comfortable around each other. I've never really had that since I don't like being touched most of the time and don't let people get into my space. Only good friends and family get hugs from me.

Platonic love, a beautiful form of affection that doesn't care about sex (nor infidelity, in the best cases).

Well, one doesn't have to "get out there", people with a more intimate approach should, I think, seek to further their relationship with whoever's most suitable, and shows some degree of interest, that they know of and are on good terms with and meet often already. I believe true love is at a point beyond the physical level, so love itself doesn't require sex to act as a proof of love or even be there if the love is deep and real at all.

Fiend71 · April 1, 2022

I agree with you, Idyll, but go years without any contact whatsoever.

You'd be chomping at the proverbial bit, I suspect.

Hard to remain philosophical and even clear-headed at that point - for me at least.

I USED to be a VERY sexual person, and quite active. Go from that to zero overnight.

You are correct though. Do I NEED sex? No. Do I WANT sex? Hella yes.

Idyll · April 1, 2022

13 hours ago, Fiend71 said:

I agree with you, Idyll, but go years without any contact whatsoever.

You'd be chomping at the proverbial bit, I suspect.

Hard to remain philosophical and even clear-headed at that point - for me at least.

I USED to be a VERY sexual person, and quite active. Go from that to zero overnight.

You are correct though. Do I NEED sex? No. Do I WANT sex? Hella yes.

Naturally, time invites routine thus eases one into a stable going life.

And trust me, I know what being sex starved is. I don't know what the future holds for me and my lusty debauched lifestyle but I placed my complete trust, love and devotion in Master's hands the day my nape was branded with Master's Seal to be a devoted, dutiful and reliable slave for Master to sate whatever whims or desires, wicked or strange. Because here's the catch: whilst most people simply roleplay their slavery to some extent, my enslavement is true and real, there to provide Master with any thrill asked or expected of me and more. It's a willful choice, of course.

In my case, I Need sex, physically. My body gets kind of restless and my mind occasionally muddles when I don't have any - but I rather meant for it to be next to meaningless thus optional in a true romantic front with a deep connection so I don't need to give nor expect it from someone who I consider a lover.

Do I Want sex? Absolutely, it's not even a question. It's just great, I could explain just how much and why, but I'd keep rambling at it for much too long for most to bear with my obsession. It's just so amazing I don't feel like bothering with explaining it either, like, if you know: you know.

KoolHndLuke · April 1, 2022

13 hours ago, Fiend71 said:

I USED to be a VERY sexual person, and quite active. Go from that to zero overnight.

Comes and goes in waves I was once told. It's true. I think the secret to always having a healthy sexual life is already having someone- or at least making ppl think you already have someone. Confidence is sexy and humans are very competitive/curious.

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