Guest Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 It is not a rule but most older men likes younger women and older women likes younger men although the men looks for younger women more often than women search for younger man. (That is the fact in our country). In our country and culture people are less "shocked" if older man has younger women, but they are greatly shocked if the older women has younger man. Our dear friend is dating 6 years older guy. Some of her acquaintances and relatives said that he is a bit old for her and that 5 years difference is "tolerable". Everything above it is not normal. In our culture it is OK if male has 5 years younger girlfriend, but it is abnormal if woman has 5 years younger man. Another extreme: Prince's father had a friend on faculty who was his age and he dated and married 16 years older women. Great majority of people judged them and disapproved their relationship and marriage. My Prince and Ivy wouldn't date and have love relationship or sex with 10 older people then us, but we do not judge those who will. I would like to know is it a global thing or only in certain cultures like ours and if you are women would you have relationship with 10 and more years older man. Same question is for males: would you date or marry 10 and more years older woman? How people in your country react on it?
Guest Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 18 minutes ago, EvalovesEP said: It is not a rule but most older men likes younger women and older women likes younger men although the men looks for younger women more often than women search for younger man. (That is the fact in our country). In our country and culture people are less "shocked" if older man has younger women, but they are greatly shocked if the older women has younger man. Our dear friend is dating 6 years older guy. Some of her acquaintances and relatives said that he is a bit old for her and that 5 years difference is "tolerable". Everything above it is not normal. In our culture it is OK if male has 5 years younger girlfriend, but it is abnormal if woman has 5 years younger man. Another extreme: Prince's father had a friend on faculty who was his age and he dated and married 16 years older women. Great majority of people judged them and disapproved their relationship and marriage. I would like to know is it a global thing or only in certain cultures like ours and if you are women would you have relationship with 10 and more years older man. Same question is for males: would you date or marry 10 and more years older woman? How people in your country react on it? I must live somewhere where age differences aren't as big a deal, the young hate the old universally, or maybe that's only after 8PM. My wife was older than I but she was very social. We got along so well because she was so social, and very active. My sedentary and very shy lifestyle pissed her off no end. So it depends. Are we talking 21-45 or 45-60? Either way, I doubt people care here.
Guest Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 11 minutes ago, 2dk2c said: I must live somewhere where age differences aren't as big a deal, the young hate the old universally, or maybe that's only after 8PM. My wife was older than I but she was very social. We got along so well because she was so social, and very active. My sedentary and very shy lifestyle pissed her off no end. So it depends. Are we talking 21-45 or 45-60? Either way, I doubt people care here. Thank you for your answer. Are you from USA?
Newbie2015 Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Hi, i tried few times to "get closer" with older women (50+, i'm 33) and answer was the same every time - you are like a son to me i cant.
Alter Native Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 I think nobody is "shocked" about larger age differences, it's just uncommon, that's why people are more curious about it. Even though older man - younger women is more common, there are famous examples of the opposite, such as the French president Macron, who married is former teacher who is 24 years older.
sn4kedsn4ke Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Well, that's a complicated question. If we switch to economic terms, then there is a high demand for younger women both from young guys and from older guys in Russia. According to population pyramid, there are significantly lesser women from 14 to 22 than men of same ages. Therefore lots of guys meet some competition with other guys for girls. More experienced and more funded guys are taking the best lol. But honestly said, I tried to have a romantic relationship with younger girls and with older (when I was 20 and she was 28) girl. There is not a problem with age. There is a problem in mindset and brains. Older girls are more preferable to date because they are confident, they have life experience, which they can share you, they know what they want and they won't check you on competition, on hunter instincts and other manipulations which young girls love to do just because they have no time for that . So, answering your question - yes, I would date older woman.
KoolHndLuke Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Age only has as much relevance as you give it- unless we are talking about legalities. I've been in relationships with women half my age and older than me. So have plenty of women I know. Fuck anyone who thinks there's something wrong with that.
Jazzman Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Since it is the result of neuronal stimuli I don't care much about the half-open age interval, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee...
Guest Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 1 hour ago, Jazzman said: Since it is the result of neuronal stimuli I don't care much about the half-open age interval, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee... I agree with you. Can you tell me, please, how does people in your country see that kind of romance? You are from Brazil, right?
gregathit Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 While it varies from region to region in the US, most don't care much if the age gap is 5-7 years, provided both are of age. That gap can be bigger if you are older (say one is 30 and one is 45). There are the usual stereo types, cougars, milfs, dirty old men and so on, but whether it is scandalous depends more on how young the younger party is mostly. Bigger than a 15 year age gap and folks assume it is a money grab thing. As with anything else, it depends on multiple things.
Jazzman Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 19 hours ago, EvalovesEP said: I agree with you. Can you tell me, please, how does people in your country see that kind of romance? You are from Brazil, right? In Argentina they see it through the patriarchal glasses of the underlying monotheistic religion they grow up with - the larger the gap is, the less admired and more suspect it gets with older female partners always coming off second best, diplomatically speaking. In Jamaica it isn't much different. No idea where it actually is much different,
Guest Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 2 hours ago, Jazzman said: In Argentina they see it through the patriarchal glasses of the underlying monotheistic religion they grow up with - the larger the gap is, the less admired and more suspect it gets with older female partners always coming off second best, diplomatically speaking. In Jamaica it isn't much different. No idea where it actually is much different, Thank you for your response. I see that reaction on very large age difference between romance couple is similar as in our country.
Guest Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 Here no one really cares, just some "old" folks, who cares about those relics of past anyway. Otherwise, if the person I date is older than me, not gonna bother me.
Sarathis Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Even here in the U.S. large age difference will get you looks and whispered stereotypes. That's all there really is to deal with, though. So long as they're both over the age of consent it's between the two people and everyone else can go screw. The biggest issue with age differences is maturity level and being able to relate to one another. People of different generations often have difficulties relating to one another culturally. They've got different experiences and different upbringings. If they get passed those types of issues, are comfortable with who they are, and can love and find happiness with one another, though, more power to them. Some people will get shit from their family but if one's family really loves and supports them, they shouldn't judge. Love is hard enough to find without worrying that one's partner is much older or younger than oneself. So long as no one's being seriously hurt, grab happiness where you can.
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