EllaNoir Presents - FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM - A BDSM Mod For The Sims 4

[Crotalus Horridus]

9 hours ago, Mooz22 said:

Thanks for the most robotic AI driven response. So what, bot accounts responding to "criticism" as to what, enforce a fake sense of positivity?! Just what are you? 

Pardon me? What exactly are you so bent out shape about? I made what I presumed was a sensible and reasoned response and you reply with... this? Seems like a slightly irrational reaction. Accuse whoever might have a different opinion than you of being a "bot." Not sure how that strengthens your argument, but hey, you do you.

 

I will, however, answer your last question. Just what am I? I'm someone who hasn't the time to continue this obviously pointless discourse.

 

Go ahead and have the last word. I've said all I need to.

[Horny.Werewolf]

Hello! I have some questions related to eachother: 

 

1- Does the "BDSiM" need replace social, right? In my game its in the social spot, but social is also displaying, on the energy spot. Energy its on the hygiene spot, and hygiene bar its missing.

 I didn't like the BDSiM need bar, so I removed the trait with shift + click commands. The BDSiM need bar didn't disappear, even restarting the game. I think then is when the hygiene bar disappeared and BDSiM need bar migrated spots.

2- There's a way to avoid the BDSiM need bar? I love the whole mod and I've been enjoying having fun with it, but I don't like when it changes something so crucial for the game like the need bars.

 

Thank you for your time!

 

 

Here is my sim's needs (In spanish, but they're organized in the same way)

 

And here is a normal werewolf needs page (From google)

[mme634278]

I've noticed that the collaring option doesn't work. Is there a way to fix it?

[thf]

Hi! How do we get rid of the BDSiM meter? It falls extremely fast. The only real way to get it back up is jogging, because the social route involves clicking 5 (!) times to get into the BDSiM conversation menu. Each social interaction doesn't raise the meter much, so you have to do all that clicking through about 8 times in a row to get the meter back up if it's fallen halfway. This means that, if your sim is pregnant or can't jog for some other reason, this mod expects you to sit there clicking 40 times in a row. Roughly twice per sim day. 

 

Can we get rid of that without uninstalling the rest of the mod? If a single social interaction maxed the BDSiM meter this would be an interesting feature, but as-is I need it out of my game ASAP. 
 

[ArxiDemon]

I remember author once wrote that he would eventually make a key to unlock incest. I take it he hasn't done that yet?

[Mooz22]

On 5/10/2025 at 9:01 PM, thf said:

Hi! How do we get rid of the BDSiM meter? It falls extremely fast. The only real way to get it back up is jogging, because the social route involves clicking 5 (!) times to get into the BDSiM conversation menu. Each social interaction doesn't raise the meter much, so you have to do all that clicking through about 8 times in a row to get the meter back up if it's fallen halfway. This means that, if your sim is pregnant or can't jog for some other reason, this mod expects you to sit there clicking 40 times in a row. Roughly twice per sim day. 

 

Can we get rid of that without uninstalling the rest of the mod? If a single social interaction maxed the BDSiM meter this would be an interesting feature, but as-is I need it out of my game ASAP. 
 

Seek out the "3.31" (march 31st) version of last year, it is basically the version prior to any of the relationship panel UI glitches and the introduction of whatever broken feature every one obviously dislikes in its current state. I can't tell you how or where to find it but that is the date/version title I have/still use, so look for that if you want a better version of this mod. 

[PC Naughty Gamer]

Kris LOVES to be playfully Dominated & playfully Dominate her Sex Ed class at Copperdale High but BECAUSE OF THE WAY SHE DRESSES FOR WORK EVERY DAY, she'll soon find herself Dominated in ways she won't like by AT LEAST one of HER OWN SONS similar to how Teenager Kyle Dominates his retired Pornstar mother Mary, which will in turn lead to THE CLASS TEACHING THE TEACHER some of the things THEY have learned 😍🤩

Edited May 16, 2025 by PC Naughty Gamer

[PC Naughty Gamer]

On 5/11/2025 at 2:30 PM, ArxiDemon said:

I remember author once wrote that he would eventually make a key to unlock incest. I take it he hasn't done that yet?

 

Looking for THIS??

 

 

There's also THIS (Though as I have yet to fully playtest this, I can't attest to what it does)

 

 

[allie_of_chaos]

I had a corrupted household - The relationship panel wouldn't show people, opening relationship details would show the details for the wrong person, the game was extremely slow and would keep crashing. I did the 50/50 method until it was clear, this mod was absolutely the cause. Every mod other than this one being in the game and iit all works normally. Add this one: Errors and crashing. Something's definitely wrong. (Also agree with the others, the BDSiM meter is the WORST)

[Crotalus Horridus]

3 hours ago, PC Naughty Gamer said:

Looking for THIS??

 

YOU... are a frakkin rock star! Thank you!

[SamanthaTraynor]

The Mod has One BUG, when i order Books Submissive all three i dont get even one Book, even the Message shows up Thanks blabla your Books findable in the Bookcase, but thats not the Case neither in the Bookcase nor in my Inventory.

So idk why, but i tryed it dozend Times, the Submissive Teach Books dont arrive no matter how often i order them!

Tysm for help or whats goin on there. 👍

 

Edit: Yea my Mods are set on Check Alllowed cause i got dozens of other Mods.

Edited May 28, 2025 by SamanthaTraynor

[pizzazz]

On 4/29/2025 at 2:58 AM, Mooz22 said:

Sad to see this mod appears to be tossed aside by the creator. Makes fantastic mod, one UI glitch/update breaks things, and the owner seems to be unable to fix it and instead publishes a brand new feature that clearly users are not in favor of.

 

If you want to continue enjoying this mod the way it was, I still use the March 31, 2024 version. No UI issues. Cannot say with full certainty it is 100% stable (given we have had many game updates since then), but I get no Exception Errors, and social/trait interactions work fine. 

 

I do not know where you can get it, but the file name as I show reads as "EllaNoir_FlirtyFetishesBDSiM_March_3.31"

 

it's on the same mod download page. go down to "What's New in Version" at the bottom, click on "See changelog" and choose March_3.31 May 15, 2024. then click the "Download" link next to it.

 

or just click this link https://www.loverslab.com/files/file/17801-ellanoir-presents-flirtyfetishes-bdsim-a-bdsm-mod-for-the-sims-4/?do=download&version=23356

[PC Naughty Gamer]

This will go GREAT with Wicked Pixxel's Dirty Talker Mod 😍🤩 (I want to make my Sex Ed Teavher Kris more Submissive while one of her Teenage boys works on becoming her Dirty Talking & Degrading Master)

[Faolon]

On 4/30/2025 at 7:37 AM, Horny.Werewolf said:

Hello! I have some questions related to eachother: 

 

1- Does the "BDSiM" need replace social, right? In my game its in the social spot, but social is also displaying, on the energy spot. Energy its on the hygiene spot, and hygiene bar its missing.

 I didn't like the BDSiM need bar, so I removed the trait with shift + click commands. The BDSiM need bar didn't disappear, even restarting the game. I think then is when the hygiene bar disappeared and BDSiM need bar migrated spots.

2- There's a way to avoid the BDSiM need bar? I love the whole mod and I've been enjoying having fun with it, but I don't like when it changes something so crucial for the game like the need bars.

 

Thank you for your time!

 

 

Here is my sim's needs (In spanish, but they're organized in the same way)

 

And here is a normal werewolf needs page (From google)

 

 

I'm having the same issue. I've got a male that still has their social need. The BDSim motive replaces Hygiene instead of Social.

This is causing them to shower endlessly. I was trying to figure out why the sim stayed in the shower literally all sim day. Then I realized he had no Hygiene motive. So it wasn't being filled by showering, which means the shower became endless.

 

It seems to work on the female sim, but I can't tell if it's because she also has the Service motive from Dreams of Surrender.

[Yotix]

The mod seems to work only for dominant player characters, right?

 

Created a female sim, gave her Submissive and Brat, gave all males the Dominant trait and set the Dominant and Assertive skills to 5 on some NPCs, and no new interactions happened. My sim was able to practice her sub skills and giggle, none of the NPCs did anything new.

Next I tried the "BDSim training session", set my sim as the one to be trained, and found it requires a female "mistress". I used an NPC sim for that and my sim as the trainee, and got an unplayable situation that told me perform dominant interactions. 

 

Is there any mod that lets the PC be a sub?

 

Tried "Dreams of Surrender" but the creator doesn*'t seem to understand the meaning of the word surrender ... (the mod is for doms only). [Sorry for that comment, I'm in a crap mood with a throat infection and angry at how I spent four hours figuring out how to remove a werewolf's shoes. Close to going back to S3.]

 

 

 

Edited June 22, 2025 by Yotix

[WHICKEN WHIMSY]

I'm able to create a dynamic and 2 aftercare options but I cant do anything beyond that. I tried just deleting this mod and redownloading it and I'm still having the same issues.

Edited July 4, 2025 by WHICKEN WHIMSY

[menloving]

I have been having a problem with the books. I buy them and it says, it was delivered to bookshelf, but when I press read it doesn’t pop up. I see that they get put into my household inventory, but whenever I try to read them after putting them down it doesn’t work. Am I doing something wrong?

[0Thoughtz]

has the UI bug with this mod been fixed yet so its safe to update it?

[unbekannterNummer1]

It is still buggy and the Sims version 1.117 will destroy your savegames. So no more Mods if you used this mod. It's terrible all savegames are corrupted. The game always crashes to world selection screen when trying to load a game. The patch 2.2.9f does not fix this behaviour.

[member654]

On 5/8/2025 at 6:26 AM, mme634278 said:

I've noticed that the collaring option doesn't work. Is there a way to fix it?

You can collar without a ceremony via D/s Dynamic//Collar but collaring works only with Submissive and Dominant 10 but the "submissive without a collar" moodlet stays. Maybe it s bugged.

Test it by cheating Sub and Dom at 9 and skill it up but don't cheat it to 10 directly, this way doesn't work.

Edited September 17, 2025 by member654

[wynenje]

Love the mod but its not workig for my i try evryting but i cant the menu's pls sobady help my

 

[Darksideofmmon]

13 hours ago, wynenje said:

Love the mod but its not workig for my i try evryting but i cant the menu's pls sobady help my

 

You should uninstal the mod, its not worked 100% since last year.

[neneasyu]

On 5/23/2021 at 12:24 AM, EllaNoir said:

EllaNoir Presents - FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM - A BDSM Mod For The Sims 4

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Issues? See *Troubleshooting at the bottom!

 

 

* The difference between the TWO .package files:

 

AllTraits = Any Sim can have ANY and ALL BDSiM Traits. A Sadist can also be a Masochist.

 

ConflictingTraits = Only Sims with Dominant Type Traits can have Dominant Type Traits and vice versa--the way it has been.

 

Choose only one!

 

 

Are your Sims tired of the same three relationships: Friendly, Romance, and Dislike? Do they no longer enjoy the sexual activities they once did? Do they experience emotional discomfort and pain but like it?

If you and your Sims find the average 24-minute day mundane and boring, there is help available.

 

Hi. I’m EllaNoir and I am the creator of the expanding BDSM mod for The Sims 4, FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM.

This NSFW mod has been put together with your Sims in mind because everyone knows when your Sims are horny, you are too.

So put down that cowplant and download FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM today!

 

 

 

 

 

FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM Official Guide & Info

 

FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM is a mod for The Sims 4 created to simulate the real-world BDSM lifestyle. My goal is to go beyond the sexual aspect that is received in BDSM and bring forth other great elements such as special relationships, training, various events, and so much more.

 

 

COMPATIBLE WITH ALL MODS!

(To avoid conflicts, please just ensure all mods are the most current version and compatible with the latest game patch, always, forever, no excuses, indefinitely, because I fucking told you to!)

 

Traits & How to Begin

To initiate FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM, begin by adding traits to your Sims through the Rewards Store or Wicked Whims' "Wicked Attributes".

 

 

 

For Sims who prefer the Dominant role, there are 3 traits available to be added:

 

 

For the submissive role of Sims, there are 3 traits as well:

 

 

And for Sims who enjoy being both, there is the Switch trait:

 

 

*The Switch trait activates the Dominant trait and Submissive trait skills and social interactions.

 

 

 

BDSiM Skills & Moods

 

 

 

Every trait comes with its own skill, moods, and social interactions. As a trait's skill is increased, more social interactions will be unlocked. Using a trait's interactions will increase the trait's skill progression.

 

For an example:

A Sim with the Dominant trait will start with 3 social interactions. Every time the Sim uses the Dominant socials, the Dominant skill will increase. When the Dominant skill progresses from level 1 to 2, more Dominant socials will be unlocked and available to use.

 

 

*Sims can only use BDSiM social interactions with other Sims who also have BDSiM traits.

 

 

Sims with BDSiM traits will begin to increase the major skills for whichever role they have. For example, a Sim with the Dominant role traits has an overall skill for the Dominant role that is increased for every Dominant act the Sim does. This is the same for Sims with the submissive role traits.

In our world, can one say they are a Master/Mistress simply because they said so? I think not. Therefore, the Dominant major skill is to see that your Sims must also earn their honorific!

But more on this later and what it means for your Sims with the FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM mod. In the meantime, be aware that the Dominant skill and the Dominant trait skill are two different skills with different purposes. And this is the same for the submissive skill and submissive trait skill as you can see examples below from the skill panel.

 

 

 Moods are unique to each BDSiM trait and will appear from certain acts or occurrences relevant to that trait.

 

 

 

 

D/s Dynamic

 

Now that we have discussed how to begin FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM and your Sims are happily situated with their BDSiM roles and traits, it is time to move on to the BDSiM relationships offered in FlirtyFetishes.

 

The first relationship that is available for your Sims is called the D/s Dynamic--Dominant/submissive Dynamic.

 

 

For this relationship to be created, you must have one Sim with a Dominant role BDSiM trait (i.e., Demeaning, Dominant, Sadist) and one Sim with a submissive role BDSiM trait (i.e., Degraded, Masochist, Submissive). These Sims will then need to have at least 50% progress in their Friendship AND their Romance:

 

 

Once this occurs, your Sims are ready to become a BDSiM item in a D/s Dynamic. A new pie menu category called “D/s Dynamic” will appear within the FlirtyFetishes Pie Menu Category.

 

 

Within the D/s Dynamic pie menu, you can “Ask to Create D/s Dynamic”. Fantastic! If the other Sim agrees, these two lucky Sims will now be in a D/s Dynamic. Congratulations! If not, keep trying. Sometimes it may take a bit more time to convince another Sim to engage in BDSiM; just like in real life, eh?

 

 

Titles & Ownership

Now, remember those major skills we were discussing earlier—the Dominant and submissive role skills? Increasing these skills will come in handy for the next relationship: Ownership.

Ownership is a wonderful commitment between two Sims, even more so than the D/s Dynamic. One Sim must be a Master or Mistress and the other Sim must be a slave for this relationship to be established.

For a Sim to become a Master/Mistress, the Dominant skill must be maxed. There are 10 levels.

 

 

For this skill to progress to completion, your Sim may use Dominant role socials i.e., any socials of the Dominant role like Demeaning, Sadistic, Dominant trait, etc., and the Dominant skill will increase. Or they can study with the BDSiM skill books by purchasing them from any bookcase:

 

 

 

For a Sim to become a slave, the submissive skill must be maxed.

 

 

Just as with the Dominant skill, this skill will increase with submissive role socials are used, such as from the Degraded, Masochist, and Submissive socials. Skills books are also available to purchase and read from any bookshelf!

 

 

 

Once the role skill is completed, your Sim has earned their deserving title! How exciting!

 

 

*The Master trait is the title given to a Sim with masculine gender preferences and the Mistress trait is given to Sims with feminine gender preferences.

 

It is now time for your Sims to begin their relationship known as Ownership in FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM. This relationship will start when a Master/Mistress collars a Sim with a slave trait.

 

*Please be aware Sims must already be in a D/s Dynamic before collaring and Ownership can be initiated.

 

There are two ways a Sim can be collared. If your Sims want to have a big event and show the rest of the BDSiM community your commitment to each other, then having a Collaring Ceremony is the way to go!

 

 

Collaring Ceremony

Simply go to “Plan a Social Event” under the “Social” category on your Sim’s phone. You will see the option to have a Collaring Ceremony. Select all the required parties for your event and location.

 

 

Now the Ceremony can begin! With this event, it has a main goal and other goals to complete.

 

 

To collar your slave, all your Sim has to do is simply open the D/s Dynamic pie menu and select “Collar {1.SimFirstName}”.

 

 

This will prompt the Ownership relationship and now your Sims are committed to one another!

What if a big ceremony isn’t your Sims’ style? No worries! Once the Master/Mistress traits are added to your Sims and they are in a D/s Dynamic with a Sim with the slave trait, the “Collar” social will become available. Then you may collar a slave Sim in the comfort of your own home…or wherever you please!

 

There are also buffs and whims that occur throughout FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM gameplay.

*Whims are a new addition I am still learning, so some socials may complete whims and there may be other bugs—but nothing to harm your game!

 

 

Creator’s Note: There are plenty of things in FlirtyFetishes that are not yet completed. Some photos may be empty and there may be other elements that are lacking. Please understand that I am adding updates monthly to fill and grow this mod. Your patience is appreciated!

 

Your feedback is greatly valued so please let me know if there is anything you would like to see added or different. I am happy to take most things into consideration.

And if you see anywhere that has a typo or is empty where there is mostly supposed to be a description or other writing, please let me know ASAP with a screenshot if possible!

 

*Troubleshooting: I am always willing to help resolve any issue that is affecting gameplay with FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM. But before you contact me, please take these steps first to save us both time and resolve the issue as soon as possible!

 

1.    Is the .TS4SCRIPT file only ONE folder deep?

The bar in your File Explorer should look like the photo below:

2.    Is your game updated? Are all your mods up to date—including FlirtyFetishes? Prove it.

3.    Have you removed all your mods EXCEPT FlirtyFetishes and loaded the game to see if the issue still exists?

4.    Have you read through this guide, like really read it, to see if maybe you are missing something?

5.    If you have done steps 1-4 and the issue persists, then please contact to me! For the quickest response for support, contact me via Discord. (Gain access from Patreon) If not, try X(Twitter) before LL. Whichever path you choose, I will do my best to get you and your Sims back on track!

 

Credits:

 

TURBODRIVER because duh.

 

Marysal: Creating the custom animations for FF!

 

S4S

 

TheSimKid

 

And of course, players like you.

 

 

 

Get Monthly Patreon EARLY ACCESS here 

Or get updates for what's coming by following me on Twitter

 

 

 

DISCLAIMER: FlirtyFetishes: BDSM is a modified addition created for The Sims 4 by me, EllaNoir. All icons, artwork, visual elements, etc. have been edited from pre-existing TS4 icons by myself to keep the flavor of the Simlish flavor but to create the BDSM theme for this mod. Please do not claim anything within this mod as your own. And credit me wherever you may show my mod! Please.

 

 

 

 

To Download:

 

·         Click “Download this File” in the upper righthand corner

·         Unzip/extract the archive file

·         Place .package file within mods folder

·         Make sure you have allowed mods in the Other Settings of The Sims 4

·         Replace FlirtyFetishes: BDSM with the updated version when it becomes available.

·         Enjoy!

 

 

 

This BDSM mod does not have any requirements and is base game compatible.

Wicked Whims by TURBODRIVER is suggested.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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• Submitter
  EllaNoir
• Submitted
  05/23/2021
• Category
  Other
• Requirements
   

 

so i collard my sub but it keeps saying not collared or not wearing it how do i fix that

[tusyok07]

I'm sorry, if anyone tried using both - how does this mod compare to Dreams of Surrender? The latter one seemed to be very nice but a bit intrusive, imo (though it is good too).

Thanks!

[JoeWizzypoo777128]

Has potential but keep having last exceptions and MCCC exceptions as well. Goddess Enchant ability only works if both sims are not in the same household. Considerable number of jank that needs fixing.