How do you behave on the internet?

[Ark of Truth]

I'm doing some research for a project into social interaction and how the internet is evolving how we develop relationships, bonds and even our lives. I need some help and ask if some of you could do the polls above and leave a comment about each question. 

 

 

Question 1: How do you act on the internet? Do you act the same way as you would do in person, such as polite, caring etc or do you act totally different? If not why don't you, what are your reasons? Is it a defensive thing? Are you shy?

 

Question 2: Would you consider dating someone you have met online? If not why not?

 

Question 3: Would you be willing to enter a long distance relationship or even one across the seas? If not why not?

 

 

Here is a example:

 

For me I act the same regardless if I am standing in front of you or talking to you over the computer, I would consider a relationship with someone I have met online and would be willing to go the distance if I knew they had the same feelings for me and I had known them for at least a year. For me the maximum age difference is 5 years either younger or older.

 

 

The more information people could provide the better The final project will be uploaded here for others to read and criticize.

 

Thank you all for taking the time to complete the poll and provide your thoughts.

[Erinaea]

I pretty much act the same as I would in person, if I end up actually talking to you, that is.

 

I am far more introverted and shy in person than I am on the internet. Otherwise though, yep, this is how I act.

[Mailamea]

At first no, but in time yes.

[TheoryoftheDead]

Do you act/behave the same on the internet as you would in person?

I'm often told that I seem a lot more polite on the internet, by friends that know me from outside cyberspace(And some would even suggest surprisingly so). Personally I'd say that I act pretty much the same though. Never given it much thought, so if I indeed do act different, it's probably something subconscious.

 

It's worth to note that the following replies are hypothetical, based on the assumption that It'll be a person that I'm compatible with in the first place.

 

Would you ever considering a relationship with someone you have met or know online?

If it's a person that I know well enough, and have met in person a couple of times, I guess so.

 

Would you consider dating or getting involved with someone from another country/state you have met onlne?

Really rather depends, but if it's a person that I really fancy, then I guess so.

 

What is the maximum age difference you would considering during dating?

Probably +/- 7 years

 

 

[Strelky]

It's very difficult for me to accurately say. You say something anywhere, but without eye contact and body language its hard to judge someone's meaning, this happens to me a lot. Often, I find people don't know how to interpret me unless they've either known me a long time or in real life. But no, i act completely different. In real life, I'm reserved, and only talk if I need to. On the internet, I shout and argue just for the hell of it. I often find people dont care.

I wouldn't use online dating and I'd only meet someone face to face if he/she lived close by and I've known them a long time.

 

I would maintain relationships across distances if i could, but I dont think I could if I tried.

[Ark of Truth]

Added two more questions, everyone above this post would need to check the OP again.

 

If you have already comment please can you read the OP again and edit your existing post with the answers to questions 2 and 3 rather then create a new post for them Cheers

[nonusnomeni]

yes, yes and yes

1 to be polite yes but polite lie is still a lie

2 even if i am well aware of fact that internet is full of cats

3 why not; both of my grandmas and one grandpa are born in foreign country's, different nations, different religion, so...

[Thulas]

I for myself try to be both sceptical and good-willed during my stays inside the web. Not quite easy to belieave nothing someone tells about "himself" and still be a good conversation-parter as if I would. Mostly I am too sceptical though, a few other members might verify this out of their own experiences with me.

 

The second question is a but hard to answer since you never know what the other one actually feels and I myself am an emotional cripple who can't stand the word "relationship". Still I'd say yes under the right circumstances. For example when you talked to each other for many months, maybe even years, got closer together and shared your feelings since a long time.

 

To the third question I'd also say yes, even with my bad experience I had with it. But those were more common problems than specific online-dating-ones, so I don't see a reason why not if the circumstances are right; same as question two. After all the distance may raise the simple "relationship" to a higher desire, a star shining above from the firmament to light the life; may the thorny old word "love" become to the one dream that drives you further.

[Astaroth-Lite]

I don't act the same on the internet as I do in person; with how shy I am, it's a lot easier to share my thoughts and feelings by typing them out in a text box than to speak them out loud. And people treat me differently on the internet than they do in person; I tend to get taken more seriously and some people even find me intimidating. Nobody finds me intimidating when they're looking me in the eye.

 

As for those other two questions, tried it, would not recommend it. That's all the details you're getting out of me.

[Osiris1]

In response to question one, I act about the same online as I do in person. 

 

For question two, absolutely.  As long as I can meet with them regularly, I am happy.

 

As for question three, no.  Meeting someone through the internet and dating someone through the internet are two entirely different things, and I honestly wouldn't be willing to make that effort. 

[Ark of Truth]

OK just to clarify on question 3.

 

I am talking about if you had the ability to live together but one of you would have to move to the other ones country would you be willing to do it.

[Thulas]

OK just to clarify on question 3.

 

I am talking about if you had the ability to live together but one of you would have to move to the other ones country would you be willing to do it.

 

Still yes.

[Ark of Truth]

Added another question.

 

EDIT: Corrected a mistake the last one on age was supposed to be 5+ years younger or older.

[windpl]

1. 4  Online = total random behaviour depending on mood

2. 3 lol no.

3. 2 As it is written, not worth the stress.

4. 3 Whatever.

 

Where is my prize?

[FallenWarrior]

1. Yes, better to be yourself instead of someone you're not (unless you're into RP)

2. Sure, when it happends

3. Why not, depends on how long I've known that person though and how well we get along.

4. Same answer as Mogie56

[Vulon]

Just voted, but to go into a bit more depth...

 

1. Sometimes. While I'm reasonably confident in myself, I also suffer from social anxiety. Which sounds like a contradiction, but that's simply the way it is for me. In "real" life I often experience a sensation of being observed, judged, or scrutinized by others. If I'm with friends, I act entirely different. When I'm alone in public, I sometimes almost feel panicked at the sense of 'exposure' I feel. Alone on the bus, for example, when it's particularly crowded, I get very tense. I've had times when I broke out in a sweat, heart began beating much faster, and I'd have to close my eyes and just pretend to be asleep or something. I wouldn't call myself claustrophobic, either, because I can handle being in a packed club with friends just fine. It's odd, but it's entirely a matter of context for me. My immediate situation dictates my sense of self, more or less. 

 

More to the point, none of those factors really exist online. I've always been fascinated with communication over the internet; it can on one hand be highly intimate, which I attribute primarily to the relative anonymity of online interaction. And on the other hand, it can also be severely disconnected for that same reason. Anonymity makes for a very impersonal setting. Emotional investment can be kept at an absolute minimum, and there's an inherent distance factored in that's just not present in verbal / face-to-face interaction.

 

I stumble over my words quite often in my everyday life. Online, that's not something I have to worry about. The internet presents me with an opportunity to project myself in ways that I often can't in daily life. Which isn't to say I lie about myself, necessarily. Rather, I'm more free to express myself without the constraints of societal norms and feelings of anxiety, so I divulge more than I likely ever would in similar situations outside of the internet. So while it's not as though I pretend to be someone I'm not when I'm online, I would definitely say I act differently than I often do in real life. 

 

2. Meh, not so keen on the idea. Under the right circumstances, though, I don't see why not, so I voted 'maybe'. Can't say I've ever met someone I've had a truly romantic attraction to through the internet. 

 

3. Kind of falls under the same category as the above, but I'd be a bit more hesitant if they lived in another country. 

 

4. Well, I'm only 21, almost 22, so someone 5 years younger than me isn't really an option here in the U.S.  

As for older women, though, absolutely, haha. Older women seem to be more attracted to me, anyway. That actually goes for younger women, too (in the 16+ age range), but I'll chalk that up to raging hormones. I'd have no problem dating an older woman. 

[Happysparkles]

Do you act/behave the same on the internet as you would in person?

1. Yes

This is because on the internet I feel people should uphold the same etiquette they show in person, though in real life I am much more shyer. The internet is an outlet for me to come out of my shell a bit more, though I still do act as I would with more comfortable acquaintances.

The key for me is we must live to treat others as we'd want to be treated and respect is important be it online or in person.

 

Would you ever considering a relationship with someone you have met or know online?

 

Maybe

This answer was a little mis-answered on my part. I would say yes, I think if you and the person have a connection and feel the same for each other then yes, but I will not do dating sites. I am rather old fashioned and believe true love happens naturally as opposed to running around looking for someone to be that person. (This is how I met my wife). A Good friendship and blossom into a good romantic relationship if all the needed variables are correct.

 

Would you consider dating or getting involved with someone from another country/state you have met onlne?

Yes, if I knew they felt the same way about me and were willing to try and make it work.

This is a good question, I think everyone is different.  I look at it as kind of the same response as the last question, simply because online we never know where the person is from until they tell us (I could say I live in Korea but is it true?). Going on with the topic I myself found love near my but my wife is Japanese and she actually went to Japan the first 3 months of our relationship and we lived our relationship for the first year online. I am a firm believer that love can strike at any moment between any two people, especially if they put prejudices aside.

 

What is the maximum age difference you would considering during dating?

0 - 2 years younger or older

 

 

This was me being biased, I would say any tbh. But for me 0-2 years is my preference, I feel like in more of a growing stage it allows for a better connection. Granted we may both lack the wisdom of one being older but still we can grow together and this is in it's own right a strong bond there. Though you can learn alot from someone from a different generation. I dated a 31 year old when I was 18, learned quite a bit from this person, but my wife is just two years older now.

 

On a totally random side note, I wish you the best of luck with this. And if it helps would you like me to put a posting on my blog to see if I can get a few more votes (even if just 1 or 2) if it helps you to have a more in depth analysis I will be happy to help

 

Much luck to you Ark,

-Happysparkles

[StayFrosty]

1. Mostly...though I am more likely to communicate on the Net...I am socially inept and uncomfortable...it's easier to deal with on the Net rather than face to face...but otherwise I am much the same, polite, diplomatic, but with a biting temper if my ganders up.

 

2. I have before and he was 16 years my senior. I am female.

 

3. The above mentioned Man lives in America, I live in Australia. We had been firm friends for about five years and in contact almost daily before we chose to enter a relationship....but no, it didn't end up working out.

[Jerbsinator]

1. No and yes. If I don't know you I'm a little quieter than usual, get to know me though and I'm a loudmouth asshole, like I am on the internet. I'm often more outspoken on the internet though, I can't really think fast on the fly sometimes so any witty comments I think of transfer better over the internet since I can take my time. 

 

2. Maybe, if it wasn't a long distance relationship.

 

3. No, unless they moved closer or things got really really serious.

[Someone92]

1. Do you act/behave the same on the internet as you would in person?

In person who can communicate in a lot more ways than online, e.g. mimic, tone of voice, body language and physical contact; because of this I don't see how anyone can act the same on the internet as in person.

 

2. Would you ever considering a relationship with someone you have met or know online?

This question misses the answer option "I'm or was in a relationship with a person I've met online".

 

3. Would you consider dating or getting involved with someone from another country/state you have met onlne?

Not anymore; from my experience you cannot build up the bond and trust you need for a long-distance relationship to last if you weren't close beforehand.

 

4. What is the maximum age difference you would considering during dating?

This question is imo pointless if you don't ask for the age, too.

Back when I was around 20 I wouldn't even considered dating someone two or three years younger than me because compared to me they would still be a child; during those years you would graduate from school, do your mandatory military or community service (if you're male) and have started to work or study. However when you're 30 five years in either direction doesn't make much of a difference anymore.

[mkprovince]

1) Do I act the same online and offline?
Pretty much yes. However, I'm also quite a straight person so most can easily guess if I dislike them.

 

2) Hooking up an online relationship?

That would take some time but would most probably be a yes if I can be sure that person I'm talking to is not a 2D wallpaper.

 

3) Long Distance Relationship probability?
Pretty high, I guess. The start may not be much of a hard push. It's the maintenance that worries me as there are far too many factors involved (I manage the paperwork in a law firm and lately it has not been very encouraging). Still, maintaining a relationship doesn't factor in the distance. It's literally how much effort you put in to make things work.

 

4) Age Gap difference?
Two years max. Any older and there might be a difference in thought processes. Not necessarily a bad thing but I would like to think that I can spend more time together in the end.

[jonas_opines]

I'm a sarcastic, caustic bastard who thinks everything is a joke in real life, and pretty much the same thing on the net.  The only difference is the people that I'm actually willing to talk to (or troll) about certain topics on the internet is a good degree broader than real life.  There's a certain type of idiot and jerk that I'm willing to mock on the internet, but who if I met in real life I'd just walk away from.  

 

Already married so the dating part doesn't really apply, but if I was single I could see the possibility of meeting somebody who I had known on the internet, provided I had been friends with them long enough to have a degree of legitimacy.  

[Adam Jensen]

I try to be as civil and courteous as I can, but I'll let you guys decide if this true.

[Emily]

Emily behave strange on internet.

It's strange not to be strange.

 

Other people affairs are not Emily concern.

she only care about:

 

1. Time Travel 101
2. Advanced Spy Photography
3. Bonnet Basics
4. doppelgangers
5. Intro to Germ Theory
6. Care and Feeding of ’Squito Fish
7. Fundamentals of Black Rock
8. Spiderweb Embroidery
9. Historical & Contemporary Felines
10. Pop Quizzes
11. Foodstuffs of the 1790s
12. Thwarting Ancestral Enemies
13. Techniques in Parallel Universe Management

[Dude500X]

I behave like a dick.