How Do You Please a Crowd that's Experienced It All Before?

[KoolHndLuke]

7 minutes ago, Reginald_001 said:

I was the same a month ago.

The first week was hell and I relapsed. Then I tried again and I relapsed again. Then I became despaired but I tried again. Then suddenly I was without PMO for 7 days. No porn, no masturbation, no orgasm. My biggest 'streak' was 8 days. But I'm going to go for my first long one of 30 days soon. Anything beyond 21 days should 'completely' reset your dopamine levels and remove all delta-fos-B from your brain.

 

(When you watch porn, dopamine is released, this feels good, then delta-fos-B is made, which makes you crave more porn and orgasms, this loop continues and becomes stronger and stronger).

Damn, I'm going to have to put clothes on all my girls in my games! Ehh, maybe I'll like it better somehow. 

[Reginald_001]

2 minutes ago, KoolHndLuke said:

Damn, I'm going to have to put clothes on all my girls in my games! Ehh, maybe I'll like it better somehow. 

Do you know how hot real girls become if you don't engage in porn?

Let me tell you.. porn can't beat that feeling, ever.

[KoolHndLuke]

4 minutes ago, Reginald_001 said:

Do you know how hot real girls become if you don't engage in porn?

Let me tell you.. porn can't beat that feeling, ever.

Why is this just a problem for men? Don't women have as strong a sex drive? Do women get addicted differently or to different things than men?

[Reginald_001]

17 minutes ago, KoolHndLuke said:

Why is this just a problem for men? Don't women have as strong a sex drive? Do women get addicted differently or to different things than men?

There are 99 pages of women trying to get away from porn on NoFap (vs. nearly 2000 pages for men) there's a special registration procedure so it's 100% sure that many women face this problem.

 

But women and men are (very literally) wired differently, along a spectrum, where the extremes 'touch' each other. So imagine a Sinus wave, that's what's called a 'normal distribution'. So along that distribution, most men are attracted to visual stimuli (not all men, because it's a normal distribution), and most women are attracted to erotic ideas and moments/fantasies (again not all women, because it's a normal distribution).

 

Many women on NoFap are rebooting from erotic literature. Having written a lot of it, I can tell you, it's a whole different beast.

So it's worse for most men, because they are simply more attracted to visual stimuli than most women are.

 

Image of a normal distribution.

 

 

But what will really blow your mind, to go back to your topic is this little fact:

 

5% of all producers in any creative domain produce 50% of the content of that creative domain.

 

This is called the Pareto distribution. The reason why so much crap out there in media sounds the same these days, is because literally 50% of ALL OF IT is made by a handful of people.

[Guest]

19 minutes ago, Reginald_001 said:

But women and men are (very literally) wired differently, along a spectrum, where the extremes 'touch' each other. So imagine a Sinus wave, that's what's called a 'normal distribution'. So along that distribution, most men are attracted to visual stimuli (not all men, because it's a normal distribution), and most women are attracted to erotic ideas and moments/fantasies (again not all women, because it's a normal distribution).

 

Many women on NoFap are rebooting from erotic literature. Having written a lot of it, I can tell you, it's a whole different beast.

 

Ohhh shit.

 

My brain is indeed wired differently holy shit lol, fantasy and erotic writing can get me seriously aroused ohh dear.

 

Even before the hole gender realisation I did, my brain working differently, cause I self interted myself to the women's place always in those videos and my favored ones are the very thing I wanted do and that was years ago.

 

No wonder anything what close my fantasy get me off that easily and written things.

 

Yikes, this hit me hard.

[Reginald_001]

12 minutes ago, Resdayn said:

Ohhh shit.

 

My brain is indeed wired differently holy shit lol, fantasy and erotic writing can get me seriously aroused ohh dear.

 

Even before the hole gender realisation I did, my brain working differently, cause I self interted myself to the women's place always in those videos and my favored ones are the very thing I wanted do and that was years ago.

 

No wonder anything what close my fantasy get me off that easily and written things.

 

Yikes, this hit me hard.

I spoke with a woman on NoFap. She is a successful business woman who will remain unnamed.

 

She eats, because she feels bad about herself and lonely. Then she goes into town to buy clothes, because it gives her a dopamine kick. Then when she comes home she knows she spent too much money. So she reads erotic literature on the internet and eats chocolate to feel better. Then she becomes horny and realizes that if she has sex on a webcam, she can make money. So she disguises herself and sales her body on the webcam. Then she wakes up the next morning, sees the webcam equipment and she feels bad about herself, so she eats.. Then she goes into town, to buy clothes.. and she reads hours of erotic literature.. and it goes on and on and on.

 

What's interesting is that many women say they 'don't engage in pornography' yet they ready very pornographic literature, which activates the same brain centers as visual pornography does for men. They very likely feel extremely similar while engaging in their respective activities. I always chuckle when I see a woman read '50 shades' in public.

[Guest]

5 minutes ago, Reginald_001 said:

I spoke with a woman on NoFap. She is a successful business woman who will remain unnamed.

 

She eats, because she feels bad about herself and lonely. Then she goes into town to buy clothes, because it gives her a dopamine kick. Then when she comes home she knows she spent too much money. So she reads erotic literature on the internet and eats chocolate to feel better. Then she becomes horny and realizes that if she has sex on a webcam, she can make money. So she disguises herself and sales her body on the webcam. Then she wakes up the next morning, sees the webcam equipment and she feels bad about herself, so she eats.. Then she goes into town, to buy clothes.. and she reads hours of erotic literature.. and it goes on and on and on.

 

What's interesting is that many women say they 'don't engage in pornography' yet they ready very pornographic literature, which activates the same brain centers as visual pornography does for men. They very likely feel extremely similar while engaging in their respective activities. I always chuckle when I see a woman read '50 shades' in public.

She certainly have self destructive tendencies, but I don't think the porn the main issue in her case, now obviously it causes problems to her, but get ridding that not solve her actual issue.

 

Im suprised how people can masturbate and watch porn in depressive periods, for me I have no libido or arousal during those periods.

 

I not really hide the amount of erotica and porn content, but I can say first hand and amoungs my friends, yeah erotic literature is pretty commonly consumed, I do write and consume it as well myself too and not in small number ohh haha.

 

However it not really causing massive issues.

 

I would chuckle too if I saw a 50 shades in public, cause thats a horrible book >.<

 

Now to stay in topic.

 

Pornography is interesting case in the subject, it is the most consumed thing in the world with serving all niches, can be unique and awesome. and jaded, boring and stale the sametime.

 

Videos itself aka the irl produced ones is the most flawled source and pretty stale, nothing exciting or interesting, few ones were hot, but it need some fun scenario to be interesting.

 

Arts, writing are different it is almost limitless in term of porn, only true limit is creativity and the mind itself.

 

I guess we can say to everything the same haha.

[KoolHndLuke]

3 hours ago, Reginald_001 said:

Do you know how hot real girls become if you don't engage in porn?

Let me tell you.. porn can't beat that feeling, ever.

Thinking about this and...... I don't buy into it. If "real" girls were that fucking great, then we wouldn't need porn. I had my share of sex and I can say without a doubt that I can get myself off better than ANY woman I've met can. Porn- no matter whether in a game or in movies- is the safe and gratifying alternative to having to deal with all the bs in relationships nowadays. That's why I've said more than once that I wish prostitution was legal everywhere- another alternative.

 

 What I'd be looking for in a girlfriend is a friend and companion.- with no pressure on the sex since it seems men usually want/need it more than women do anyway. I don't give a shit about being in love since it ain't worth the jealousy/fighting later. You can care about a person very deeply, but not be in love with them and that's as much as I want to deal with.

 

 Also, I can't just drop sex like that. It becomes too much of a distraction from what I need to concentrate on- so I have to do something about it. It just so happens that when I do something about it, I feel much more relaxed and focused afterwards (until I get horny again that is, lol).

 

Now, I don't understand why some people get addicted to porn because I really don't think I'm one of them. I could just as easily jack off to my imagination if I so desired. So in my case, porn is more like a visual aid. Life without sex when I want it ain't worth living I have always said. 

[winny257]

On 10/3/2019 at 4:20 AM, KoolHndLuke said:

Hmmmm.......let me explain another way. There is no more "magic" for me. Why? Because I sought the answers in an effort to shatter the illusion. Am I better off for it? Maybe. But, plenty of other people are still in the stands happily enjoying being none the wiser and thoroughly entertained while I just shrug my shoulders. You see what I mean? Ignorance is bliss and I've always pretty much known that. My brother and I used to joke about it because we really didn't have a choice. Understanding is a burden and the burden of truth isn't just some silly show- it's about proving there is more to life than we know.

a very old wisdom "what I do not know, makes me not hot"!
it means not to know everything, what happens in the world or which thong my female neighbor is currently wearing.
it prolongs your life immensely, what do you think why my grandma became 104 years old? She was not interested on gossip and gossip.
and do you know, I hate media that pull other people through the cocoa *to talk bad about a person*!

[KoolHndLuke]

23 minutes ago, winny257 said:

a very old wisdom "what I do not know, makes me not hot"!
it means not to know everything, what happens in the world or which thong my female neighbor is currently wearing.
it prolongs your life immensely, what do you think why my grandma became 104 years old? She was not interested on gossip and gossip.
and do you know, I hate media that pull other people through the cocoa *to talk bad about a person*!

Ich mochte Klatsch nicht wirklich. Ich versuche, die Privatsphäre der Menschen zu respektieren und nicht in ihre Geschäfte einzusteigen. Das macht mich natürlich auch morgens mit der Kaffeemaschine nicht sehr beliebt, lol. 

 

Hmm....some things in English don't translate well into Deutsch.

[winny257]

13 minutes ago, KoolHndLuke said:

Ich mochte Klatsch und Tratsch eigentlich immer nicht. Es hat mir und meinen Zwecken in keiner Weise gedient. Das macht mich natürlich auch morgens an der Kaffeemaschine nicht sehr beliebt, lol. 

you are compassionate, writing in German for me.
it is always a agony for me if I write, because I do not know what the translator translates! 
 

[KoolHndLuke]

4 minutes ago, winny257 said:

you are compassionate, writing in German for me.
it is always a agony for me if I write, because I do not know what the translator translates! 
 

You copy/paste it back into the reverse translation. I often have phrases that do not translate well, so I need to check them and re-write if necessary so I'm not telling you to fuck your horse or something, lol.