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The Basics of BDSM, Consent


Leon0803

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s thread is created to make one point clear most porn, games or stories display wrong.

 

 

Dont get me wrong, i understand the thrill some may have at this "domination + rape" fantasys.

 

 

I just want to make Clear here, that BDSM is Consentual play, like every Sex should be and not a form of Rape as some media may show.

 

 

BDSM is build on multiple systems, the most commen used is S.S.C:

Safe

Sane

Consentual

 

safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health

sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible frame of mind

consensual: all activities should involve the full consent of all parties involved.

 

 

Its a thrill to think about having total control of someone, specially if they cant defend theirself. Thats why its such a whidely spread fantasy. There are also many members of my local BDSM community who show interest in "Fake Rape" where Partners that know another since a very long time (and know what their partner likes, dislikes, where their limits are) just randomly grab them and do whatever they want with them.

 

 

This is still done with Safewords tho.

 

(for everyone who doesnt know what Safewords are, in the spoiler below i will try to explain it)

 

Spoiler

In BDSM , a safeword is a code word, series of code words or other signal used by a submissive or bottom to unambiguously communicate their physical or emotional state to a dominant or top, typically when approaching, or crossing, a physical, emotional, or moral boundary. Some safewords are used to stop the scene outright, while others can communicate a willingness to continue, but at a reduced level of intensity. Safewords are usually agreed upon before playing a scene by all participants, and many organized BDSM groups have standard safewords that all members agree to use to avoid confusion at organized play events.

 

So i can totaly understand anyone having Rape fantasys, there is nothing wrong about them. Its just important to seperate those fantasys from real life BDSM, otherwise misconseptions will be created and already exist, 50 shades for example, which  already caused bodily and mental harm to multiple people i know and to myself.

 

I hope this thread explained some things for people new to BDSM

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Well, as an observer I find your post interesting ; as most people external to BSDM may look a it from « news stories » (one man died in germany a few monthes ago from practices labeled BSDM) and fantasy point of view. It's not every day we get to read a structured point of view coming from an insider. :)

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1 hour ago, Tirloque said:

Well, as an observer I find your post interesting ; as most people external to BSDM may look a it from « news stories » (one man died in germany a few monthes ago from practices labeled BSDM) and fantasy point of view. It's not every day we get to read a structured point of view coming from an insider. :)

Thank you for the comment, yes i heared about that too and its not been the first time i had people hurt theirself both mentaly and physicaly thanks to wrongly displayed BDSM, the best example for that was a young girl that tried "BDSM" with her boyfriend after pausing 50 shades and applying a knot like they did there.

 

She had serious nerve damage at her left arm which isnt gonna heal either.

 

I have some more material to be able to make a blog entry once a day for a entire week, i dont think it would get me that much if i posted them all now.

 

 

Ofcourse everyone can feel free to suggest topics i could talk about, which they are curious about

 

or you just ask in the question asking section of my club ^^ https://www.loverslab.com/clubs/14-bdsm-club/

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