Leilana Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Does it still exist? Inquiring mind wants to know.
ButchDiavolo Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Well, when I was young, dating consisted of hitting the person that strikes your fancy over the head with a wooden club and dragging them back to the cave. These days that is apparently frowned upon. Other than that, I am entirely clueless about dating traditions.
Darkening Demise Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Old School Dating Traditions? Wasn't it you smoke some random plant, take some random pills, snort some random dust and listen to Jimi Hendrix at Woodstock and wake up next to some random hippie bimbo? Seriously what's old school dating traditions? Today you just go to any place, wait for some random brawd to approach you for a quickie in some public toilet and then get an AIDS test. Dating isn't exactly common anymore, I think I see more Dodo Birds today than dating. XD Oh and you must look like Magic Mike. Can't forget the objectifying men face from women but nope we're more focused on how Barbie makes little girls kill themselves because they can't obtain a 'fantasy figure' for some reason.
Jazzman Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Ol' school dating traditions? You mean sitting on the rooftop of the local church under a pale moon, sizing up the big game that comes to dinner? Maybe, maybe not. Just watch out for the scary screeching of the night owl... that might be her - the winged demon that wears nada, legend has it.
BlaineSensei Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 dating practices in my country have been pretty dormant , public obscenity is actually looked down upon here so we never had any dating tradition for teens and students to begin with unless you were a marital.
Nasseliten Posted August 18, 2016 Posted August 18, 2016 Old school dating tradions in my country is basically, get drunk, make a move, make out, make love. finished. It's rare to find a guy here who hit on a woman while sober.
gregathit Posted August 19, 2016 Posted August 19, 2016 Old school: Finding out someone's name the next morning, if they were still there.........
Cynical Misanthrope Posted August 19, 2016 Posted August 19, 2016 You mean, going to bed with a brunette, and wake up with a blonde?
gregathit Posted August 19, 2016 Posted August 19, 2016 Hair color is the least of your worries when waking up to next to someone.........
Comrade Isbariya Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Looking at all the comments really answers that. xD But, just as a small reminder, you know... Things like: Taking the girl out for dinner. And I mean DINNER, not Mc Donald's! Helping her out of her jacket and pulling her chair in place. Tell the waiter to get some candles there asap and pay the food afterwards. Helping her into her jacket again and bring her home safely WITHOUT expecting 'a coffee' at her place. Maybe sharing a first kiss... Taking her out to the cinema, and off course paying, and bring her home again, finding a beatiful place and going for a walk somewhere in the nature where you would also have a little privacy, holding hands, all that stuff! And that doesn't have anything to do with getting drunk and stuff but yeah... I rather pay for my own stuff so I do not owe anyone anything. Yes, I'm paranoid, and I like to be independent. But apart from that all... 'dating' traditions are not about playing all the stuff or something like that, I think what a lot of people are missing recently, is to 'feel' the other one really care about them.
Jazzman Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Looking at all the comments really answers that. xD But, just as a small reminder, you know... ... Of course you are right. Courtship rituals are hardcoded. However, this is the internet, the parallel world where almost everything is topsy-turvy and everybody equipped with a tailor-made super villain/-ess costume, irresistible, magnificent, awesome... as in the dating line commercials where people jump into bed as if by command. Who could say 'no' to a virtual superman/-girl, the fucker of the month, huh? Well, in reality we all have to make our tea with water of uncertain quality. Thus dating boils down to the great trial-and-error adventure it always was. Still leftover? More luck next time, perhaps. May the chemistry be with you.
d2unite Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Yes, it does. It depend on who you guys are and what you are looking for. Most people don't look for a serious relationship directly and it's not worth taking someone to a really fine restaurant unless you are sure you two have a thing, usually 2nd or 3rd date for me. I try to be a gentleman but also I like to see how they handle themselves too, I don't want someone who relies on me for everything. Last time I did formal dating was probably in June. Saw the same lady on the train several days in row, started talkign to her on the 4th day and asked her out at the end of it. We met the same day went for a nice dinner, got a bit tipsy and yeah. Not dating her but it was fun and I like that she didn't want me to pay for her, "I will leave if you try to do that" I feel like a lot of people on communities like this might have people looking down on "the normal people" -- nothing wrong with using tindr, snapchat, kik, facebook and what not to get laid or meet someone. Nothing wrong with wanting a quick fuck and not wanting a relationship but you can also find relationships on these sites.
nonusnomeni Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 datings are usually a waste of time, energy and money and nerves. Especially if you're not serious about the relationship. just to correct you
AKM Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Looking at all the comments really answers that. xD But, just as a small reminder, you know... Things like: ...Helping her out of her jacket and pulling her chair in place... Taking her out to the cinema, and off course paying... ...I think what a lot of people are missing recently, is to 'feel' the other one really care about them. There's a basic fault with your statement per being modern (yes, I know, this asked about old school habits), and that is that you better get to know the woman first, because some of them (the "independent" type) will go off on you if you try to do things like be chivalrous (pulling out chairs, opening doors, etc). On the other hand, the last one I went out with did the exact opposite. I drove quite a distance to her, I paid, I drove back. Then when she was in the area: "Well, I get off at X time, stick around and we'll find something". Got off work early, called her, she'd already gone back home, ridiculous excuse in hand. Obviously, she wasn't as serious about it as she thought she was. Then, it's: "Come visit me". HA! Thus ended that and I haven't tried since. ...Not dating her but it was fun and I like that she didn't want me to pay for her, "I will leave if you try to do that"... I feel like a lot of people on communities like this might have people looking down on "the normal people" -- nothing wrong with using tindr, snapchat, kik, facebook and what not to get laid or meet someone. Nothing wrong with wanting a quick fuck and not wanting a relationship but you can also find relationships on these sites. Where else do you find them like this??? Yeah, gotta keep my eyes open for that! I'd have to make a strong guess that after school (18 for some, 22-23 for others), the actual meeting of people by chance to date is minimal, and that the sites you mentioned have become the norm for meeting people. Unfortunately, there's the fact that as someone said, such sites tend to lead to being overly picky, and not giving time to get to know someone before moving on. Oh, and how is it that you get this site as a dating site? I don't understand that. However, I do understand quite well the problems of having specific interests that are not mainstream that are dangerous to bring up if you wish to still have the relationship. One of the difficulties of off mainstream interests, the other side of that being, you could take a ho hum relationship and turn it into pure awesomeness. P.S. +1000 to nonusnomeni's statement above. But I thought that was just common sense.
Cynical Misanthrope Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 Decided to answer this one in a more serious tone. But let me tell you, I'm no expert in dating per say and I have no idea what you are "supposed" to do, or what is "correct". Which in a way, I don't give a fuck about. When I find someone I fall for (and the feelings are answered back), and it's time for dating, I don't let society dictate me what you are "supposed" to do and what "rules" to follow. I will do my things, because I enjoy doing them. So what do I talk about? Well, when it comes to dating and romance, I am actually kinda old-school. Taking the girl out for dinner/movie, help with jacket, help with chair, and pay for the whole thing (unless she tells me she wants to pay for it herself or similar) and then make sure she gets home safe. In short, being an gentleman and make her feel special.
d2unite Posted August 22, 2016 Posted August 22, 2016 ...Not dating her but it was fun and I like that she didn't want me to pay for her, "I will leave if you try to do that"... I feel like a lot of people on communities like this might have people looking down on "the normal people" -- nothing wrong with using tindr, snapchat, kik, facebook and what not to get laid or meet someone. Nothing wrong with wanting a quick fuck and not wanting a relationship but you can also find relationships on these sites. Where else do you find them like this??? Yeah, gotta keep my eyes open for that! I'd have to make a strong guess that after school (18 for some, 22-23 for others), the actual meeting of people by chance to date is minimal, and that the sites you mentioned have become the norm for meeting people. Unfortunately, there's the fact that as someone said, such sites tend to lead to being overly picky, and not giving time to get to know someone before moving on. Oh, and how is it that you get this site as a dating site? I don't understand that. However, I do understand quite well the problems of having specific interests that are not mainstream that are dangerous to bring up if you wish to still have the relationship. One of the difficulties of off mainstream interests, the other side of that being, you could take a ho hum relationship and turn it into pure awesomeness. P.S. +1000 to nonusnomeni's statement above. But I thought that was just common sense. It's easy to let the world close up around you after graduating university/college. It's harder to meet "new people" and get to know people unless you make a real effort to try to get to know strangers at any opportunity. That is the world we live in and that is love too, our attentionspan is shorter than ever it seem and we can't wait several weeks of dating as we can just hook up with someone else. It's the same for most of us and even the guys who dream of perfect relationships would do the same if they had several girls messaging them, as most girls have a lot of men flirting with them. Being sexually compatible is important but can be overcome in most cases by just being open and taking things step by step. I also seen people who had very specific fetishes end up throwing them away as soon as they got a taste for pussy/cock and realized that it was enough for them. Girls who talk about having hardcore BDSM sessions and then realizing that it does actually fucking hurt and then become more vanilla etc. Though no lie, you'll have pretty difficult time if you're a furry or have a fetish that is a big part of who you are. Dating is difficult but no matter how weird you are, I do think you'll find someone of the other gender that is just as weird. Just have to actively look for someone and not hope that she/he'll magically drop down on your lap. </dont even know why I wrote all this....
AKM Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 </dont even know why I wrote all this.... It's called reiteration, and it's perfectly fine. Just another addition to the ongoing debate about the process of finding a mate. I couldn't even begin to figure how many different threads there have been just on this site on the subject. All varying to different degrees, yet getting down to the same basic questions - and usually answers. Never know, maybe with a few of us if we hear it often enough, we might actually start to believe a little of it.
arpaschad Posted August 23, 2016 Posted August 23, 2016 Looking at all the comments really answers that. xD But, just as a small reminder, you know... Things like: Taking the girl out for dinner. And I mean DINNER, not Mc Donald's! Helping her out of her jacket and pulling her chair in place. Tell the waiter to get some candles there asap and pay the food afterwards. Helping her into her jacket again and bring her home safely WITHOUT expecting 'a coffee' at her place. Maybe sharing a first kiss... Taking her out to the cinema, and off course paying, and bring her home again, finding a beatiful place and going for a walk somewhere in the nature where you would also have a little privacy, holding hands, all that stuff! And that doesn't have anything to do with getting drunk and stuff but yeah... I rather pay for my own stuff so I do not owe anyone anything. Yes, I'm paranoid, and I like to be independent. But apart from that all... 'dating' traditions are not about playing all the stuff or something like that, I think what a lot of people are missing recently, is to 'feel' the other one really care about them. hmm...did that to someone once 4 years ago...didn't work out between us after a year and a half...her sleeping with her co-worker when we were supposed to spend time together on that day didn't contribute well either... but if ever I have the chance to be a gentleman like the things you mentioned, I would...kinda tedious in this fast-paced technological world but making a little effort to know that someone is wanted is what separates us from base animals...IMHO...not to diss all the guys who forgo courting and spend more time fucking
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