Anybody play mods like this with their signif other living with them?

[Nonsense667]

I can understand the meaning, the worth, the value, the logic, all of that behind the "put on a good show; show the right thing; introduce this, that, and this first; act this way about it" comments. I really can. Eh. I still say screw all of that. To me, it's just so much easier to not play the silly "game" that we all insist has to be played, and just be totally honest. Don't pretty it up, don't make sure you show the "good" side or the "soft" side, or make sure you act like it's a certain way before you show it. Just... be honest. Talk. Of course, in my opinion, this sort of strategy of mine works well when one already has an established pattern of "I tell the truth. Period." That way you know that someone will simply accept what you are saying as the truth, and that they are okay with you simply giving the truth, and not playing the "game." I know it's not for everyone. But still. I can't, in my heart, recommend anything other than saying "I do X with Y, because Z. That's how it is."

 

Of course... don't be that simple. Be glorious. Be eloquent and enthusiastic, overflowing with warm, inspired passion on what you speak. Get involved in adequately portraying the joy that something brings to you to another, letting them see what it means to you. And if they can not accept that, then where it goes is up to you. Because there can be many kinds of rejection. Sometimes, it's simply a judgmental, cruel, hateful rejection out of personal malice for the subject, with no regard for your own feelings. Of course, some times, the person simply feels a certain way, and as much as they might like, they can not accept something. This latter part is the more complicated, and simply requires you to further your development of a relationship. But there is nothing wrong with that. Quite the opposite. So just be honest. 

[Ark of Truth]

Just for the record a significant other doesn't have to be a GF, I have a significant other but technically she is not my GF.

 

But then again she was playing these mods before I was

[Dagimpyman]

That may be so, but the default referential meaning of "significant other" in the English language is usually that person with whom one has established a monogamous union. So unless someone specifies further like you did, I don't think we should be surprised that when a guy refers to his significant other, people are going to assume she (->heteronormativity) is his girlfriend.

[Mordyn]

If you know him/her, you'll know where to set the limit between what you want to share and what you want to keep for yourself.

In every couple/family/whatever, you need to keep some things private, and that's normal.

[ratrace]

Nonsense667 is right, I think. Just be honest, but don't slap it in her face. But also don't beat around the bush, be trustworthy and true. Don't hide it.

 

And consider trying to broaden her horizon on sex things. What I want to say is that it could be a warning already if Skyrim sex mods can be a problem. Do you never watch porn? What do you think she would do if catches you doing that? And, should she be catching you, or should she just know it and cope with it.

 

Are you two still very young? For younger people sex is often connotated with all kinds of things that simply don't belong there. Sex is sex, not an obligation, nothing to use as a means to control the other one, no sin, no religious nonsense. Gland to gland, fun, and possible inside and ouside steady relationships.

 

Having a relationship does NOT automatically mean that you are obliged to sexually focus on the other one exclusively. Everything in a relationship is subject to negotiation, because everyone thinks and feels differently about living together with a significant other. What it means, what it allows and what it does not. That should all be clear before it comes to unpleasant situations. "Negotiations" - tThat may sound hard and cold, but not telling each other what one expects in a relationship is one of the root causes of them ending in tears, hate and hassle. And this concerns all kinds of things, not only sex. It starts with simplest things like who will be doing the chores and goes on to more delicate things like watching porn or even having sex outside the relationship.

 

One more thing that may sound strange: Don't always sleep in the same bed. "Visit" the other when you feel like sleeping with her, and give her the same freedom. Keep it a bit special. Everyday life can be a tension killer for a couple.

[Rabblerouser]

There should be a "Panic button" mod for skyrim. lol.

[wayra]

Yeah pretty much what mogie56 said, she's your gf you should spend some effort to learn her personality. If she doesn't let you look at porn, then you gonna have a bad time.

[gvman3670]

I do and she doesn't mind at all.

 

Then again, if we go to the store together she points out hotties and says something like "Whatcha' think about that?". She's a good girl. She knows that if I didn't at least look anymore I'd have to be dead or something. LOL

[Arizona_Steve]

Mine doesn't approve of my Random Sex modding activities, but I still "test" my latest builds of the mod while she's around.

[Arizona_Steve]

There should be a "Panic button" mod for skyrim. lol.

 

Would be cool if Ashal could add that to SexLab.

[calranthe]

When I met the girl who was later to become my wife one of the first nights together we talked about all our sexual fantasies and desires, while her interests went towards velvet, lace and hardcore chains and violence mine edged more towards D/s, tentacle sex, and bondage, taking a right turn at erotic hypnosis.

 

Honesty really is the best way, before she got ill she used to go looking for naughty mods to surprise me with on my games, hell she was the one who introduced me to cyber sex on muds, damn woman had  a harem of men and women while I was still playing original elder scrolls lol.

 

15 years later even though she is doesn't have the energy for anything like that she still likes to "vet" any girl I am considering having fun with.

 

[jbezorg]

I don't live with my boyfriend, but I made a custom follower designed and named after him, and one of my characters after me. Sometimes I show him SexLab-related screenshots and tell him "look what we are doing in Skyrim!"

So, he is aware and softened for when/if we live together. The follower part really helped, because he felt... needed/missed/desired.

 

You may try something similar.

 

That.

 

Is fucking brilliant.

[CoxcombCornking]

Everyone's girlfriend / boyfriend / significant other is understanding, totally gets you, compassionate, your soul-mate, bla bla.......

.....until you break up.

 

Next day, every silly thing you've ever done is pasted all over the social media that you two former lovebirds have been using to tell everyone what an amazing couple you've been.

 

Two days later, your boss / aunt / dentist asks you why you had Shlongs of Skyrim and My Little Pony mods in your load order together.

 

 

[Guest corespore]

My little pony....Schlongs edition. Yes, yes i could see many amusing and disturbing moments in such a mod. And there is merit to CoxcombCornking's point. The person you spent all those gentle moments cuddling with (and\or spanking) isn't the same person you get in the end, no, you get heir evil doppelganger. Their bitter dark mirror image from another universe that has only one purpose in existence, to make you hurt more than they hurt.

Love is a fickle thing and there's no telling how long a relationship will last, but I know this. In the end the one thing that won't get all butt-hurt and bail on you is your PC. Indeed it excepts all your pervy fantasies without judgement and that is a wonderful thing. 

[dinomagick]

I'm single since it seems no men can handle my personality but either way I wouldn't really care if my Significant other saw me playing a game with adult mods, being with someone means accepting everything about them even their hobbies and one should never have to change themselves to suit another.

 

I found someone, and he's very supportive..  helps me troubleshoot things and though he may not play 70+ hours a week like I do, he enjoys the adult mods...  He accepts my personality (calls me Uber-Bitch) some times... I have to remind him to add the Queen part in front of it...

[itt1968]

My Ex couldn't wait for me to download a new sexy mod or clothing/armor mod... she played and enjoyed them as much as I did. My current gf doesn't play Skyrim (she is a shooter nut) but, she loves my characters and says she could watch my screensaver for hours (all pics of my characters, about a third are sex pics).

[Mebrilia]

Eh i have a little story to share

 

My gf was at home with me she was watching peacefully the tv i was playing skyrim and during a sex scene she told me...

 

"oh that's a new adult mod?....can i play sometime?"

 

I was a bit startled at the beginning when she spoke catching me in a middle of a riding scene in sexlab XD

 

In the end now she play it too and she enjoy it so much that sometime she even call me when she play

[AKM]

I was talking to an old friend once about old girlfriends or somesuch.  His wife was in the room, listening, I think, and he made no bones about just who and how many he'd had sex with.  My reaction was rather "I can't believe you'd say those things with your wife here!"  His response?  "She's my wife.  There are no secrets."  That's the way it has to be.  But I do think there are limits to what you should tell someone from the get go.  You certainly don't hand over a list of your perversions on a first date!  Or maybe you do.  It depends really.  On who you are and who they are.  My latest attempt at a relationship ended quite abruptly when she noted the possible direction it was going in and said "Hey, I'm way too old for the stupid games people play when they're younger.  I'm just not in a good spot right now for a relationship."  The truth, unvarnished, and I agreed as quite frankly, I'm in the same boat... which is why we seemed to get along so well.  Ah well and anyhow.