Guest Posted September 20, 2021 Posted September 20, 2021 Im not a full on weeaboo otaku shit or anything like that, just a lonely dude who never really had any close friends during all of high school. Ive been thinking about joining anime club since its like the only club that has an interest that I like but Ive only heard cringe stories about it. Plus I suck at socializing so maybe Id actually be alright in a club with antisocial people?? Idk I just want a friend
AKM Posted September 20, 2021 Posted September 20, 2021 The nice thing about clubs like that is that you show up, see what the vibe is. If it's your thing, you show up again. If it's not, you leave and find something else. It's unlikely that those who remain will make fun of you for not being the level of 'a full on weeaboo otaku shit' they are, as it's probably a pretty niche group. Also, if you only show up once or twice, no one's likely to remember you anyway. Besides, you never know, you might be one of those who doesn't know what they really are, and find their people. Example: I once heard someone insist that "I'm not a Pegasister or anything but..." with regards to My Little Pony fandom. It was very interesting to hear this, as only those who are interested in that stuff would likely know, never mind use, the term 'Pegasister' ([adult] female MLP fan) to begin with. Most just call themselves 'Bronies' regardless, male or female. Someone had a serious case of denial!
Guest Posted September 20, 2021 Posted September 20, 2021 Yeah, thats probably the best way to go about it. Hopefully the vibe is chill then
XL5000 Posted October 22, 2021 Posted October 22, 2021 Whoever you are, be proud of yourself. I, for example, am a celibate anime fan. I told my wife that i will fulfill her expectations regarding the housework and other chores and towards our adopted kid as much as possible. Other than that, let me enjoy my life in peace. We made this agreement long before getting married and that's why such arrangement between us is so successful. Many religious-type people around me think me a weirdo that will certainly go to their version of hell but I couldn't care less. Living my life to get some sort of validation or certificate of excellence from others is not my way of living. Also, meetup is always there for us who are looking to find people with very specific tastes. Sometimes it costs a bit, sometimes its free. But, in conclusion, its much much more easier to meet others with similar interests nowadays, all thanks to the internet.
donttouchmethere Posted October 22, 2021 Posted October 22, 2021 44 minutes ago, XL5000 said: Many religious-type people around me think me a weirdo that will certainly go to their version of hell but I couldn't care less. Living my life to get some sort of validation or certificate of excellence from others is not my way of living. You got it all wrong! The others are the weirdos and they should respect you for finding AND going your own way. I guess that's the hidden wisdom Zombie TV Series want to tell us.
XL5000 Posted October 22, 2021 Posted October 22, 2021 5 minutes ago, donttouchmethere said: You got it all wrong! The others are the weirdos and they should respect you for finding AND going your own way. I guess that's the hidden wisdom Zombie TV Series want to tell us. Neither i am wrong nor they are right. Everyone deserves to live their life, the way they personally want, but without intruding and disturbing someone's precious private space. That's all there is to it.
coolfreaky Posted October 22, 2021 Posted October 22, 2021 1 hour ago, XL5000 said: Everyone deserves to live their life, the way they personally want, but without intruding and disturbing someone's precious private space this is utopia !!! you want to be left alone or be a guru . as the need of social life increase you need to let people intrude your privacy : they need to know you as you need to know them . ( it is called trust ) now the acceptance is different because people judge and interfere in the life . ( everyone think what he says is better and act differently ) . it is mostly lies and a show ; just sanctimonious .
XL5000 Posted October 22, 2021 Posted October 22, 2021 5 hours ago, coolfreaky said: this is utopia !!! you want to be left alone or be a guru . as the need of social life increase you need to let people intrude your privacy : they need to know you as you need to know them . ( it is called trust ) now the acceptance is different because people judge and interfere in the life . ( everyone think what he says is better and act differently ) . it is mostly lies and a show ; just sanctimonious . That's why i have a family of my own, otherwise i would be living in some forest by now, all alone. However, trusting others is a very complicated process. As human history has proved far too many times, you cannot take anything for granted, and sense of crisis is crucial to survive. I see many people who went abroad to Japan, Korea to fulfill their cravings of anime and k-pop. As a visitor, surely its fun but, to live there permanently, is hell. So much stress, so much pressure. Its a blind race to be on top and the ones that feel they are left behind give up on their life so easily, even though life is precious, something actually worth enjoying with family. And that's why we cannot spend life like some anime character. Contracts, agreements do sound mechanical, yet, they are crucial to live a happy life. Whether you are creating or purchasing a new house, or marrying someone, mutual, written agreements are always essential.
coolfreaky Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 5 hours ago, XL5000 said: ... to Japan, Korea ... ... give up on their life so easily ... ... trusting others is a very complicated process ... granted ... agreements do sound mechanical, yet, they are crucial to live a happy life. ... agreements are always essential. i agree with you . just i do not know about Japan and Korea their educational and parenting staff . but i do know that parents believe their kids to be the new ' De Vinci ' pushing them to fulfil their own dreams . for me it is all matter of dreams and to get there you need to be pushed or push things all around ( motivations ) . one needs to know what he really wants and what he is ready to do to get there . generally those agreements are tacit agreements when you start knowing each other , love and caring make it easier to accept a different way of view and need . i believe you are a lucky man .
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