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The Harm done to me and beloved ones due to Fifty shades of Grey


Leon0803

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Today i would like to fully cover a topic i have mentioned a lot of times during my blogs, Fifty shades.

 

Today i want to open the eyes to anyone who believes that 50 shades Displays BDSM

 

Let me start by qouting some scene from the 50 shades darker book real quick

 

 

"I wondered what your bedroom would look like," he says.

I glance around it, plotting an escape route, no - there's still only the door or window.

 "Well, I thought I should come and remind you how nice it was knowing me."

Holy crap. I stare at him open mouthed, and his fingers move from my ear to my chin.

"What do you say to that, Miss Steele?"

[...she says nothing...]

I take pre-emptive action and launch myself at him. Somehow he moves, I have no idea how, and in the blink of an eye I'm on the bed pinned beneath him, my arms stretched out and held above my head, his free hand clutching my face, and his mouth finds mine."

 

he bends and starts undoing one of my sneakers. Oh no... no... my feet. No. I've just been running. "No," I protest, trying to kick him off. He stops. "If you struggle, I'll tie your feet too. If you make a noise, Anastasia, I will gag you."

 

(He slaps her during intercourse.)

 

Afterward when he leaves, she says this: "But now I feel like a receptacle - an empty vessel to be filled at his whim.[...] I have an overwhelming urge to cry, a sad and lonely melancholy grips and tightens round my heart. Dashing back to my bedroom, I close the door and lean against it trying to rationalize my feelings. I can't. Sliding to the floor, I put my head in my hands as my tears begin to flow."

 

Romantic huh?

 

 

Christian Grey is nothing more then a rapist, that was wrapped in a presentbox.

 

 

 

 

 

I would like you to check out my Thread on Bondage, which covers the fact that the 50shades movies caused multiple persons to harm theirself througth wrong applied bondage.

https://www.loverslab.com/blogs/entry/5705-sane-bdsm-pressurepoints-and-safeareas/

 

 

 

 

 

Now id like to mention some things i experienced in my life, that have been affected througth 50Shades

 

 

i had people who tried to copy the totaly inaccurate bondage in the movie, which put rope without reversed tention directly on pressure points for it looking good,

caused people i know to have sever nervedamage on their hands/beeing unable to use them as much as they could before

 

I had people who have been raped or atleast abused because they thougth the behaviour shown in the movie is normal and therefor people hid their sick rapist interests behind pretending to be into bdsm

then they offerd those people i know to have a sexual experience (after they drugged them with lots of alcohol) they did playmethods  the partner was totaly new to, ignored safewords and rewarded total obedience regardless their personal feelings about the situation.

 

furthermore both some people i know and myself have been victims to the effects the movie had on people, the most harmless beeing that friends who get to know in what kind of relationship me and my Sub live, ask clichee or simply wrong questions that base on "ohh but they did that in the movie"

 

 

 

the most extrem i had yet was a neighbour of mine calling the Police on me and my Sub several times because shes convinced my Sub is victim of abuse, which ofcourse i appreceiate if it really was the case, that someone would stop it. But in this case after the 3d time, the Police had my Sub talk to a Psychologist and he agreed that everything we do seems to be in her consent.

She still treats me like a rapist tho and gives that opinion onto her children, while her oldest Son really is a nice fellow, he chills at our place sometimes playing some videogames with us when he`s bored. He didnt believe into the things his Mother said and rather stood in our door oneday, asking if i could explain what exacly me and my Sub do that outrages his Mother.

 

Once again it turned out at the dinnertable she uses "facts" she saw and read in 50 Shade

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Back when Film Theory did their video on the 50 Shades of Grey cult indoctrination thing, I wound up posting this as a comment:

 

'It's sad that Fifty Shades is going to tinge some of the views on BDSM for a few generations- it really isn't a good example of BDSM or kink in general as it's close to a horror story of a very bad dom.'

 

Even after all these years, it still horrifies me about the impact these will have on generations of kinksters, and will forever cement my personal despise for both 50 Shades and the Twilight novels, because they are not only so far off base, but they will color people's ideas. And I thought the fact that Second Life has an active Gorean community was sickening, and I feel sorry for the shit you had to go through because of this. And this is coming from a person who hasn't had any real-world experience with any of it yet.

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4 minutes ago, Kelinas said:

Back when Film Theory did their video on the 50 Shades of Grey cult indoctrination thing, I wound up posting this as a comment:

 

'It's sad that Fifty Shades is going to tinge some of the views on BDSM for a few generations- it really isn't a good example of BDSM or kink in general as it's close to a horror story of a very bad dom.'

 

Even after all these years, it still horrifies me about the impact these will have on generations of kinksters, and will forever cement my personal despise for both 50 Shades and the Twilight novels, because they are not only so far off base, but they will color people's ideas. And I thought the fact that Second Life has an active Gorean community was sickening, and I feel sorry for the shit you had to go through because of this. And this is coming from a person who hasn't had any real-world experience with any of it yet.

Thank you for the kidn words.

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I really agree about what's being stated here about 50 shades. But, on the other hand, it's > really < easy to get relevant information about bondage just by watching videos on the web, including safety procedures, common mistakes and dangers, what kind of ropes to/not to use, and so on.

I've been self-learning from such videos, and been tying my subs for years, before taking any real shibari lessons, and there the teacher actually had video tutorials posted on the web as well. So, altho I don't like the so-said bdsm content of 50 shades, I'm not sure it should take all the blame either. What would u say ?

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First of all I never read Fifty Shades and I don't think I ever will given what I heard of it. Tell me if I am wrong but I am guessing it is too boring to be a BDSM fantasy and too illogical to be anything like a guide or anything of that nature. Given Fifty Shades's reputation as a Twilight fan fiction + mommy porn it is no wonder why people hate it. I still cant help but feel a large part of it is the fact that it is mainstream meaning people who have no right associating with BDSM have easier access to it. Obviously people are going to be stupid no matter what. So what can you do?

 

Given my belief that history must be preserved I would rather it not go away but be served as a reminder of what not to do or a guilty pleasure. I won't judge.

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