why do some people find it harder to make friends

[Emily]

One of emily main regrets in her life is giving considerable thought to inconsiderate people.

 

She burn Bridges for them.

 

Be prudent, our life is too long for regret and too short for inconsiderate people.

[Vulon]

 people that have few freinds or none   expect a lot of others (they are more closed mind that they think).  They do not dare or they are shy  nobody realy cares it is a wrong point   stop thinking to much (if, if, if , and if)  stop looking for a perfect freind   be more tolerant accept others how they look, think and often they will surprise you.  Just think at a present time and try to have a good moment (you do not need to have the same hobby, knowlege, or way of thinking to appreciat somebody else).

 

^ Nope. This is just your own misconceptions regarding introverts. You make it out like extroverts are better people than introverts simply because they're sociable. That's rubbish.

 

I'm not sure what it's like for the majority of introverts out there, but I don't really consider myself antisocial or shy in the slightest. A bit on the weird side, definitely, but I can function, I don't have any particular self-esteem issues, nor do I suffer from any of the other common misconceptions of introversion. I just prefer to be alone most of the time. As far as I'm concerned, a night out with friends every other week or so is all the social interaction I need. 

 

I've had friends over the years become concerned if I don't stay in touch every week, if I don't keep everyone up to date on my daily shenanigans via various social networking platforms, etcetera. My particularly extroverted friends seem incapable of comprehending that I don't need, or want, to be around people all that often. 

 

So, as it pertains to the subject at hand, mine is more of a conscious choice to not associate with a large number of people. Having lots of friends doesn't appeal to me. Quite the opposite, actually. I'm sure we've all experienced those days when, for whatever reason, it seems like a number of people are all contacting you at once. Friends wanting to hang out, people just wanting to talk, family checking in...those types of days can easily drain my energy and leave me feeling irritated. I can't imagine being in contact with so many people on a daily basis. I'd never get anything done. It's the same reason why I take my sweet time texting people back. Unless it's urgent or I'm trying to make plans with someone, I'll take my sweet damn time and do something else in the meantime. I'm one of those guys that people who text back instantly probably can't stand. 

 

Whereas an extrovert draws energy and inspiration from the company of others, as an introvert, I'm the total opposite. I'll sometimes wake up early just to guarantee myself a good hour or two of silence so I can do what I want. By that I don't mean I get up and just lie in bed in silence for upwards of an hour...I mean, I'll spend a good while doing something on my own before saying a single word to anyone. Nothin' like getting up when it's still dark out and spending some quality time on a game, or reading, or whatever. Quiet mornings give me inspiration and leave me feeling productive and creative. There are times when I just really don't want to talk, to anyone at all, sometimes for the entire day. Sure, I've probably given a few people the wrong impression over the years, but it's not like I shun people away left and right. I give people the respect and attention they deserve, when warranted, and like to take my time getting to know them. But, above all else, I never really feel all that lonely when I'm my own. I'm constantly thinking, finding something to occupy my time, writing out long, questionably useful and perhaps unnecessarily personal posts, or otherwise enjoying my daily routines. So that's why I, personally, don't have a very large circle of friends.

[DIYDeath]

One thing not covered is misanthropy.

Misanthropy is a general dislike of people. This can occur for a multitude of reasons, for me its because I'm disgusted with most of my generation so I only keep a few friends at a time, I'm open to having more and to being more sociable (I can mimic being a extrovert if I try but it feels totally unnatural so I avoid it when possible) but I put a great emphasis on quality over quantity.

[javamonsoon]

The only time when I'm lonely is when I'm a group of people. I prefer to be alone, though I'm taking care not to become reclusive. Generally though, when I talk a person for five minutes, I've topped off my social-need. Maybe it comes it with age, but people hardly have anything new to say and they're nowhere near as interesting as they were when I was a young man.

 

It's also a matter of convenience. The less people that bother me, the less complicated my life is.

 

That said, I don't find it hard to make friends even though I'm in the world not really an approachable person. It's just that I don't. I have a perfectly fine life without a large social circle and 10.000 friends on FB. I dare say that much of my personal happiness and well being is directly contributable to the fact that I have almost no friends to speak of.