Why and when do we lie?

[Guest]

10 minutes ago, wutpickel said:

You have quite interesting topics, i have to say.

 

So what about lying.

I think that lying is a defense mechanism that we have. Thinking of situation where you would always tell the truth could be embarrassing and lead to people not respecting you or loosing friends.

If we are in relationships, honesty is virtue. This is the place, the person, you want to be honest. There maybe still things you do want to be too much forthcoming as they maybe hurtful to the other.
But if you are in the real world, lying may aid you. Depending where you live, it maybe a necessity.

 

To be brutal honest will make you vulnerable to others.

 

I used to be very open if someone asked me about things like my past, parents etc.. But i never got the same depth of openness from the other. So i am learned to not share that much anymore.

Today i think that people want to take advantage of me if i give them information about my self.

So i'll be honest to other people but do not share everything about my self. In that is a lot of obfuscation as i need to hide some aspects of myself.
This is different with a partner where i want to be honest and vulnerable because the person is important to you.

 

And saying nothing maybe ok. This is better than lying. Am i obligated to share everything to everyone if asked? I think this is a difficult decision.

 

 

> There was situations when I was asked for honest opinion. Since I knew that my opinion would hurt them, I said: "You don't want to hear my opinion. Trust me." Well, this statement was less painful than honest answer. Those persons were little bit angry at me but only for short time.

[Heroine HoneyCrotch]

2 hours ago, EvalovesEP said:

 

>That is true. My mom and dad always told the true to each other. I grew up in such environment and yet I knew how to lie although I didn't have opportunity to hear the lie.

Minus Santa Claus breaking into the house Christmas Eve my parents were real honest. 

 

Babies learn when they cry they get attention. This is where they learn to lie. I don't like wasting energy so unless it's a cop asking if I got the weed on me I don't ever lie, takes my energy to lie than tell the truth, it also fucks with your brain when you lie to much,no good

[Guest]

23 minutes ago, EvalovesEP said:

 

> There was situations when I was asked for honest opinion. Since I knew that my opinion would hurt them, I said: "You don't want to hear my opinion. Trust me." Well, this statement was less painful than honest answer. Those persons were little bit angry at me but only for short time.

This sounds like a good response.

I am very bad in lying. Just my face will sometimes be so revealing. That's why i think your approach is better. Its still honest.

[jinsitsu]

Well I lied a lot too in my life well I think it's because we're just human beings and we're not all perfect. People lie for a lot of reasons which most of it are not intentionally hurtful.

[Guest]

18 hours ago, jinsitsu said:

Well I lied a lot too in my life well I think it's because we're just human beings and we're not all perfect. People lie for a lot of reasons which most of it are not intentionally hurtful.

> Well, just as hearing the truth about yourself is hurtful, telling the lie is hurtful too especially when a liar is exposed.

[beefers]

it's very simple, we lie when we do not want to face the truth.  The 'why' we don't want to face the truth may be a complicated answer but that's a different question.