marriage bugged? Please help

[dongobongo1]

i can't figure this out for my life but one of these mods is fucking up my marriage quest so my spouses just don't move in or leave here's my load order please help

Skyrim.esm=1
Update.esm=1
Dawnguard.esm=1
HearthFires.esm=1
Dragonborn.esm=1
EFFCore.esm=1
Lanterns Of Skyrim - All In One - Main.esm=1
Paradise_City_RESOURCES.esm=1
Mango.esp=1
FNIS.esp=1
XPMSSE.esp=1
Miqo'te Follower.esp=1
Lagertha_CharPreset.esp=1
RealisticWaterTwo.esp=1
TrueStormsSE.esp=1
Populated Lands Roads Paths Legendary.esp=1
Eli_Breezehome.esp=1
PaleMarsh.esp=1
Unique Uniques.esp=1
Dracos Hearthfire Homes Lakeview.esp=1
LorkhanMoonlightGreatswordPack.esp=1
beltfastenedquivers.esp=1
Cassandra Frost Witch.esp=1
R18Pn - Ritter Armor - Heavy.esp=1
LABikiniSSE.esp=1
JS Armored Circlets SE.esp=1
BBD_NereidPirate.esp=1
Tembtra Thief Armor.esp=1
El_WayfarersCoatSSE.esp=1
BetterMagicLights.esp=1
Gwelda Red Riding Hood.esp=1
Seraphim - Vanilla Armor and Clothing Replacer.esp=1
Alternate Start - Live Another Life.esp=1
immersive patrols ii.esp=1
YurianaWench.esp=1
capes&cloaks.esp=1
isilnarsil.esp=1
barenziahquestmarkers.esp=1
Uriellefollower.esp=1
BeadsBikini-MTM.esp=1
RichMerchantsSkyrim_x2.esp=1
Skyrim Flora Overhaul.esp=1
Footprints.esp=1
Paradise_City_Merged.esp=1
Vivid WeathersSE.esp=1
Vivid Weathers - Extended Rain.esp=1
Brighter toggleable Candlelight and Torches.esp=1
Andromeda.esp=1
Abigail The Maid.esp=0
VeronicaFollower.esp=0
Weathered Road Signs.esp=1
Immersive Wenches.esp=1
ElysiumEstateSSE.esp=1
HeljarchenFarm.esp=1
WindstadMine.esp=1
MultipleEnchantments.esp=1
Aesthetic Elisif.esp=1
Housecarls_By_Asherz.esp=1
S_mink.esp=0
FlowerGirls SE.esp=1
EFFDialogue.esp=1
OK_Followers.esp=1
My Home Is Your Home.esp=1
Populated Cities Towns Villages Legendary.esp=1
Relationship Dialogue Overhaul.esp=1
Custom Family Home.esp=1
 

[Sladen2019]

Is there a good reason you are not using USLEEP ?