Queen Bee's Random Thoughts

[Queen Bee]

I once dated a girl who was in college and ten years younger than me. We actually didn't know the age difference until after we started dating. She assumed I was younger, and I assumed she was older. We didn't really care, but every once in a while it would hit me, "holy shit, I was driving a car when she was in the first grade."

 

Is it bad that it was kind of a turn on?

[nonusnomeni]

Not a mom yet' date=' though it makes me feel weird when I find myself attracted to girls I'm technically old enough to have given birth to.

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Or the reverse like when someone young enough to be my daughter wants to date me! Granted, they really did think I was closer to their ages, but even after telling them... (My last job was on a college campus where my self proclaimed temporary celibacy was put to the test.)

i hope then you fail the test

and what is wrong if she go to high school

soon enough (to soon) she will be ol' granny of 20+

and oh yes

incest is the best :D

[Queen Bee]

Yeah, tbh, as long as they're legal, why not? I wouldn't want an 18 yo for a long term relationship, but I think they can benefit greatly from an older, more experienced partner to teach them a thing or two. I've had flings like that, and it was all about me guiding a pretty young thing as they discovered their sexuality. Some were just experimenting with lesbianism, others really were gay, but I was always respectful and took things at whatever pace they needed, and we always had fun.

 

I think that's the key difference between a sexual mentor and a dirty old pervert. I wasn't doing it just for myself. I was doing it for them.

[thesapien]

It's funny, when I was a young pup, I was often very attracted to much older women, sometimes moms of my friends, but also very intimidated by them!

[Queen Bee]

Random thought of the day:

 

One thing that's weird about the baseball metaphor for sex (ie getting to first base, second base, etc) is that men automatically put themselves at bat. This means they don't see themselves as pitching. They see themselves as the one having balls thrown at their face.

[Guest GingerTom]

Random thought of the day:

 

One thing that's weird about the baseball metaphor for sex (ie getting to first base' date=' second base, etc) is that men automatically put themselves at bat. This means they don't see themselves as pitching. They see themselves as the one having balls thrown at their face.

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:D:D

[thesapien]

Baseball was always strange to me as a sport and profession. Never felt like my culture.

[Guest GingerTom]

Baseball was always strange to me as a sport and profession. Never felt like my culture.

 

thesapien, are you sure you're not my long lost twin?

[Queen Bee]

After rewatching the movie 300 with some guy friends, there's something I have determined.

 

Now, before I say this, let me first explain that I really do like this movie. Wild historical inaccuracies aside, it's an exciting, artistic movie that never fails to amaze me. And while I'm not too fond of their child rearing practices, I admire the ancient Spartans for their military skill and their "no retreat, no surrender" attitude.

 

However...

 

It came to me as we were watching the scene where the Greeks mobilized to fight the Persians meet the 300 Spartans. You know the scene:

 

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And what I came to realize is that potter there, the one at the :37 mark, is braver than even Lionidas himself.

 

Think about it. Spartans are raised as warriors from birth. They eat, breathe and sleep war. They train every day to be the best, to ignore pain and welcome a "beautiful death" in battle. Meanwhile, that potter is just some guy. His life is full of baking clay and painting decorative filigree on flower vases. He's probably never held a sword in his life before that day. For that man, this is the pants-wetting-scariest day of his life. For the Spartans, it's Tuesday.

 

Now don't get me wrong, the Spartans are brave as shit. They know what's at stake, and they know they're most likely going to die. But the Spartans have military training and brute force behind them, while the only way that potter's skill might come in handy is if the Persians sent an army of clay. You can see it in his face; he's useless, he's going to die and he knows it, and he grabbed a sword anyway.

 

Because he knew what was at stake as well, and he felt the same way the Spartans did. He was willing to give his life, just like any of them, to preserve the freedom of his people. But he was a mouse standing against lions, and that takes balls of solid rock so big, I'm surprised they didn't get in the Spartans' way.

 

The bravest man in that movie was a weakling who wouldn't kneel, even in the face of death. Can you honestly say you'd have the guts to do the same?

[Guest GingerTom]

That's a 'yes' from me also--I've been in situations were the only thing that saved me was that I wasn't afraid to die. (But the other guy was.)

[thesapien]

So the person who is most afraid is the bravest?

 

People who are fearless are without bravery?

 

 

If I think to myself that I may be thinking too much, what do I do?

[thesapien]

Yes, provoke, and play the fool. I dunno. My head feels filled with riddles, today.

[Queen Bee]

Thesapien, I wasn't saying those who are fearless are not brave. But now that you mention it...

 

There's a quote from Third Rock From The Sun I really like. It goes, "To be brave, you must first learn to be afraid, for true bravery comes from overcoming your fear, not from it's absence."

 

I think that's essentially true. Because a lack of fear suggests you don't understand the danger you're in, or you're insane, or both. The Spartans knew fear, I'm sure. Their faces in the movie at least suggested it. But they turned that fear into fuel, burning through it rather than letting it consume them. They didn't banish fear; they conquered it.

 

I think my main point was that the potter had more fear to overcome. Being a trained warrior means you know you at least have skill and physical strength on your side, and that can give you great confidence. Confidence is key in overcoming fear, and the Spartans had it in spades. That potter, however, had no such skills, which means he was lacking in confidence. When he agreed to go fight the Persians, he went with the knowledge that in a fight against a skilled soldier, he'd die in a second. And yet he still went. And that makes him braver than any Spartan.

[Guest GingerTom]

he went with the knowledge that in a fight against a skilled soldier' date=' he'd die in a second. And yet he still went. And that makes him braver than any Spartan.

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Actually it just makes him stupid. He would have been of more use behind the lines--instead he just got in the way.

[Queen Bee]

I'm not debating whether or not he got in the way. But would things have been any better had he not come? The 300 still died. The point wasn't to win, but to delay the Persians until the vote to go to war was made, as well as send them a message that they would not kneel even on pain of death. Besides, the "brave amateurs" did pretty well when it was their turn, facing off against Xerxes' Immortals and surviving.

 

But let's say that potter died at the outset. Isn't it more important that he died with a sword in his hand rather than roll over and give up? It wasn't stupid for him to go, any more than it would be stupid for an unskilled man to fight a home intruder to save his wife and children. Stupid would be looking for a fight when it's unnecessary, especially if you don't know what you're doing.

[Guest GingerTom]

Isn't it more important that he died with a sword in his hand rather than roll over and give up?

 

It's more important that he 'helps' usefully than that he gets in the way. It's also a movie and if you say based on fact then I would remind you that it's a movie. Wouldn't want the facts to get in the way of the movie now would we?

[Brucealso]

He should of stayed behind and shot rockets at the enemy....im bad...lol i couldnt resist. Sorry

[Guest GingerTom]

He should of stayed behind and shot rockets at the enemy....im bad...lol i couldnt resist. Sorry

 

At the worst he should have stayed out of the way. So I raise my sword to smite the enemy and this 'potter' steps in front of me. Oh, yeah--he's a big help.

[Queen Bee]

*Sigh* way to miss the point entirely, Tom. He was brave as shit. Move on.

[Guest GingerTom]

*Sigh* way to miss the point entirely' date=' Tom. He was brave as shit. Move on.

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He was a character in a movie--he wasn't brave at all because he wasn't real.

[Queen Bee]

Eh, that's fine. None of this really matters, I was simply voicing an opinion that you apparently strongly disagree with. We could go around and around in circles for days until we dissolve to calling each other names. And I've got better things to do.

[Guest GingerTom]

Eh' date=' that's fine. None of this really matters, I was simply voicing an opinion that you apparently strongly disagree with. We could go around and around in circles for days until we dissolve to calling each other names. And I've got better things to do.

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My point is that real people are brave and we need to stop worshiping the 'heroes' of movies.

[thesapien]

Did you two get married, and I missed the wedding?

 

 

Random Puddle Jump:

What if LoverSlab exists in an alternate webiverse at loverslab.com? Aren't you glad you're not in that webiverse? [shudders]

[Guest GingerTom]

Did you two get married' date=' and I missed the wedding? [/quote']

 

[shudders] Don't give her anymore ideas.

[Queen Bee]

Yeah, don't give the poor boy nightmares. He probably thinks I eat my mates after sex, and that's totally...

 

Well anyway, he's not my type.