Carpet and drapes should match and how do I get them to wear clothes after sex?

[MrGrey]

Just that. 

I want the head hair to match the pube hair, or maybe 1 shade darker. Is the only way to do that is to dye it? 

I recall a dress up after sex setting in WW settings. They all become nudist without this, and that's not what I want. Naked should be special, not routine. Where do I find that setting? 

BONUS POINTS:

A trait where if you're in a room with your preferred gender is naked, the sim with a penis gets an erection. 

Yeah, I too miss the feature where a sim could get aroused by a sim of their preferred gender wearing something sexy.