Define me

[Guest]

Yesterday, during the supper I talked to my luvs and my Fran. We came to the subject of our personalities. We openly talked about each other’s flaws and good side. When we talked about me they said that I am very beautiful and intelligent, but my flaws are following: I am bitchy, too emotional, egocentric, pushy and hard. Well, since you don’t know me personally, I thought you might define me from my posts. I really wish to know how do you see me? Since this poll is not public, do not worry about my reaction on your answer.

[Idyll]

To be honest with you, what's considered "good" and "bad" are purely subjective. It's all in degrees, of course but here are some ideas.

 

Some might like people telling what's on their minds which could include what most consider excessive complaining (aka bitching, unless the definition you employed was rather about being a horrible person that attacks everyone viciously, of course, then it's another meaning.)

 

Some might enjoy people standing their grounds (aka pushy/hard); some might prefer that people are true to themselves and are self-centered (aka egocentric.)

 

People are what they are and changes too drastic might make one someone else, in my opinion. If you seek change, I hope you take your time. ?

 

As for how I see you, from your posts alone, you seem to me to be a lady firmly set in her perceptions, her convictions. Abiding by your professional duties and familial obligations, dedicated to your lovers and open-minded though with limits you yourself deem reasonable, which may at times create some sparks but nothing grave. You also seek pleasure and entertainment hence enjoyement in life, often forgetful of your circumstances yet making up for it soon after.

[Guest]

You come off as sensitive, weak, emotional and uninteresting.

[Guest]

Thank you both for your comments.

[RohZima]

I have no idea about you personally but those traits that you mentioned can all be reduced to 'attachment.' If someone is attached to certain results around them then they will be constantly struggling with events happening in their sphere - which will come off as anxious or domineering behavior or whatever; dependent on the persons temperament and type of energy, experience, etc. Of course, none of those things are inherently bad - it's just humans going through their daily struggles. I wouldn't call them 'flaws' because they are just ways that your desire for control is manifesting. Some people can see them as positive because they might benefit from you being that way - like a shy person who relies on you to stick up for them, for instance.

 

For an experiment, you could pick one thing in your life that you are generally caught up in and decide to not care what happens, and just let nature take it's course. Be neutral. Then just see what happens to you.

[Impulsion]

Penso che tu, Eva, sei una persona meravigliosa. Nessuno è senza difetti, e questi difetti sono parte integrante del nostro carattere. Solo chi è arrogante e presuntuoso dirà cose molto cattive sugli altri (su di te) perché vuole essere migliore di loro, ma in realtà è molto miserabile.

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Impulsion said:

Penso che tu, Eva, sei una persona meravigliosa. Nessuno è senza difetti, e questi difetti sono parte integrante del nostro carattere. Solo chi è arrogante e presuntuoso dirà cose molto cattive sugli altri (su di te) perché vuole essere migliore di loro, ma in realtà è molto miserabile.

> Thank you very much. My luvs think the same as you do.