Setekh Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Both me and my girlfriend play and love Skyrim, we both use adult mods and both get enjoyment out of them.
Thorham Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 if any woman tried to dictate how I am to play my games then I can tell you that relationship would end quickly. Yeah, people like that are exit real fast. Its only a game, that seems like insecurity to me and would be very irksome. Or some control freak. Jelousy is also possible.
Destroy Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Been together with my girlfriend for over an year now but Sexlab and the LL forums is some of the few cards I've been holding close to my chest throughout this relationship, any ideas how I can break the ice?
watwatwatwat Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I made my boyfriend delete his Fallout packed with kinks, I'm all the porn he needs, except for some xxx movies every now and then. And I play Skyrim but without any of the adult mods. that's pathetic on his side i let my gf play my skyrim sometimes she likes the armor mods, she's isn't a fan of the sex mods, she prefers to watch porn with me
SpleenSerene Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I made my boyfriend delete his Fallout packed with kinks, I'm all the porn he needs, except for some xxx movies every now and then. And I play Skyrim but without any of the adult mods. that's pathetic on his side i let my gf play my skyrim sometimes she likes the armor mods, she's isn't a fan of the sex mods, she prefers to watch porn with me As pathetic as four lies? Of course she does.
Taskmaster Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I made my boyfriend delete his Fallout packed with kinks, I'm all the porn he needs, except for some xxx movies every now and then. And I play Skyrim but without any of the adult mods. that's pathetic on his side i let my gf play my skyrim sometimes she likes the armor mods, she's isn't a fan of the sex mods, she prefers to watch porn with me As pathetic as four lies? Of course she does. You call that guy a liar, meanwhile you made your boyfriend delete his "Fallout packed with kinks", while posting on LoversLab; a site packed with kinks! Tally-ho.
shedidwhat Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 LOL we use sexlab to help choose a position to try.
Guest Mogie56 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 morality comes in all shapes, sizes and positions just don't rub it on too thick.
SpleenSerene Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 I made my boyfriend delete his Fallout packed with kinks, I'm all the porn he needs, except for some xxx movies every now and then. And I play Skyrim but without any of the adult mods. that's pathetic on his side i let my gf play my skyrim sometimes she likes the armor mods, she's isn't a fan of the sex mods, she prefers to watch porn with me As pathetic as four lies? Of course she does. You call that guy a liar, meanwhile you made your boyfriend delete his "Fallout packed with kinks", while posting on LoversLab; a site packed with kinks! Tally-ho. Nop, I didn't call that guy a liar, I just told him he doesn't need to prove anything to me.
5seasons Posted July 10, 2014 Author Posted July 10, 2014 Been together with my girlfriend for over an year now but Sexlab and the LL forums is some of the few cards I've been holding close to my chest throughout this relationship, any ideas how I can break the ice? How do you think she will take it? I'd honestly tell her in a cool fashion you think she's good for it. If you think she will see it as a negative then...... Seems like you should wait a little more. I guess it really depends how open minded she is to sex. My girlfriend is a freak so it didn't bother her at all. If your girlfriend has as freaky side you should make it surface and build on it. Then skyrim sex mods won't even be an issue.
RunicGray Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 LOL we use sexlab to help choose a position to try. Ha ha, like it! The Dovah-sutra. ;D
Guest airdance Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Been together with my girlfriend for over an year now but Sexlab and the LL forums is some of the few cards I've been holding close to my chest throughout this relationship, any ideas how I can break the ice? How do you think she will take it? I'd honestly tell her in a cool fashion you think she's good for it. If you think she will see it as a negative then...... Seems like you should wait a little more. I guess it really depends how open minded she is to sex. My girlfriend is a freak so it didn't bother her at all. If your girlfriend has as freaky side you should make it surface and build on it. Then skyrim sex mods won't even be an issue. Does she accept that you are a gamer first? Introduce her to that fact first. if she accepts it with no reservations, the slowly introduce her to the skimpy armours. If she accepts that show her one of the less kinky sex mods, etc. Remember if she thinks you are a freak for being a gamer, then perhaps you had better rethink the whole relationship. It is okay to give up something you love for the girl you love.
Setekh Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Anyone who thinks that being a gamer is a 'freak' these days is clearly living in the wrong century.
Guest Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Well I'm a girlfriend who games and actually I'm more of a gamer than most of my past partners have been, they mostly seem to fall into the FIFA/CoD camp....what I tend to think of as single celled gaming (actually that's not strictly true, my current partner is a registered member here) Sexlab...I'm really not morally judging anyone here, so please don't anybody feel they're being attacked by me when I say that a lot of it makes me cringe, and some of it makes me feel quite nauseous. I find quite a fair percentage of mods made for Sexlab so brain numbingly misogynistic that it verges on farcical - if I didn't find a way to giggle about them I'd probably have nightmares instead. Some of them are the sort of predictable stuff the tabloid newspapers delight in running scare stories about. Now, all that being said, I have a lot of admiration for the sheer cheeky audacity of it all - providing a framework for an adult gaming experience is definitely an audacious thing to do. I'm a fringe user of SL at best, but my Skyrim is all the better for a community like this where even my relatively tame kinks are catered to. I just wish for and hope to see more....maturity coming out of it in future, I dunno, something a little more sophisticated, maybe a little less rapey? Again, I mean no insult by that, it's not like I'm brimming with ideas or creative flair of my own. But I'd hazard a guess that most of you know where I'm coming from when I say that, right? edit: and just to add for the sake of balance (because my comments do seem more negative than I genuinely intended), I'm not some whiskery chinned feminist killjoy, tits, asses and dicks feature heavily in my game, and I have no trouble with sexual objectification, because like most of us here, I'm not some idiot who confuses fantasy with reality. the SL mods I have regularly used are awesome, stuff like Lover's Comfort in conjunction with Aroused and Hormones is gaming gold.
SpleenSerene Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Anyone who thinks that being a gamer is a 'freak' these days is clearly living in the wrong century. I know people in their middle age who play games!
SquallPT Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 The average gamer age is 30 and it tends to go up, so in a couple of years from now, playing video games in a nursery home is as normal as playing dominoes or cards
Destroy Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 Been together with my girlfriend for over an year now but Sexlab and the LL forums is some of the few cards I've been holding close to my chest throughout this relationship, any ideas how I can break the ice? How do you think she will take it? I'd honestly tell her in a cool fashion you think she's good for it. If you think she will see it as a negative then...... Seems like you should wait a little more.I guess it really depends how open minded she is to sex. My girlfriend is a freak so it didn't bother her at all. If your girlfriend has as freaky side you should make it surface and build on it. Then skyrim sex mods won't even be an issue. Does she accept that you are a gamer first? Introduce her to that fact first. if she accepts it with no reservations, the slowly introduce her to the skimpy armours. If she accepts that show her one of the less kinky sex mods, etc. Remember if she thinks you are a freak for being a gamer, then perhaps you had better rethink the whole relationship. It is okay to give up something you love for the girl you love. Thank you to both of your replies, it means truly a lot to me. For months I've been thinking to myself how I should tell her this. I've tried with small steps like: Created a character that somewhere was close to look like her. After she saw the picture she couldn't help but laugh, but quickly after replied with a "That is so sweet and thoughtful" etc. I made the breasts a little too big to make her notice the small dose of sexual content in Skyrim, which she noticed, but quickly died out. She hasn't been sitting down by my side watching me play Skyrim though. Now and then she brings it up and laugh a little bit about it, but she is totally cool with me playing video-games and as well spending so much time in front of my computer, but she has no huge interests in it. From my perspective I respect her interests and take a good amount of time getting into the world of her hobbies and interests, but she seem so "normal" with her interests, like horse-riding, going out and the common one "hanging out with friends" If she ever brought up something that she would categorize as a "special interest" I would dedicate time to see what it was about and be totally cool about it and cheer her to keep this interest of her going on. Since the LL community has been a big part of my life for the past year I feel like somewhere I should tell it to her so she can get a clear view where my interests lies. Not that I'm keeping a double life of course, she knows almost everything about me but... only almost. I think this is the last thing she doesn't know about me and it seems to be much more difficult to tell it to her.
vagonumero13 Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 It is as simple as this: if you would say she is a nymphomaniac (or something close to) and is not a possesive psychotic, tell her. Otherwise, there are a lot of probabilities of incomig drama. I had this girlfriend long ago that had higher than normal level of hormones, and I could tell her about everything I watched or played, and she could tell me her fantasies about being fucked by 5 guys and zero drama on both ends. If I saw on the streets a girl I liked, I could tell her "I want to fuck that girl", and she could say the same when she saw a guy/girl she liked. That's the kind of women that are really worth for me, but possesive psychotics with total lack of self-confidence are much more common. And this works both ways, lot of guys would get mad at their girlfriends doing or saying certain things too.
Taskmaster Posted July 10, 2014 Posted July 10, 2014 @Destroy: what kind of LL mods do you have installed exactly, though? I'm in agreement with b3ast1e, in that many of the mods here can be kind of disgusting - though I'm not a judgmental guy and respect all tastes, as I know it's grey area as we've all essentially crossed the line with any sex related mod, really. We're all enjoying the game in any way we like. Personally I only have Sexlab Submit installed, I like the grapple holds you can use in combat to make NPCs yield, and the sex propositions you can present to create or enhance whatever kind of relationship your character has with an NPC. I was kind of fortunate in a way, in that my ex-gf was already watching me play games like Oblivion and Fallout 3 with my character's titties all hanging out and whatnot, while we were in our early parts of dating. And she even showed interest in creating faces, when I asked her to. She basically showed interest in all of the games I was playing in some capacity, so that puts a lot of things at ease. Later when DA:O had came out we were both playing separate saves and would watch each other play at times. What really got me was that she was really interested in the sexual encounters at the "camp fires" or whatever than I ever was, and even convinced me to install those extended scene mods with the nudity and all. At that time I didn't even know of LL, but interestingly enough my Skyrim is set up as a better version of what DA:O had anyway. Story aside, she simply showed interest in my own hobbies and activities, while I also showed interest in hers(though boorring - but I did it for her and the relationship, it being boring is irrelevant. I was essentially showing interest in the things she was passionate about.). Destroy, since you've said you've shown plenty of interest in the things that she enjoys doing, it's expected that she would either show interest in your hobbies as well, or at the very least respect it because it's something that you enjoy doing. Just don't overwhelm her at first man. Maybe get her interested in trying to actually play the games first, if she sees you're pretty passionate about it, she might(and should be willing, imo) want to give it a try based on that alone.
5seasons Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 It is as simple as this: if you would say she is a nymphomaniac (or something close to) and is not a possesive psychotic, tell her. Otherwise, there are a lot of probabilities of incomig drama. I had this girlfriend long ago that had higher than normal level of hormones, and I could tell her about everything I watched or played, and she could tell me her fantasies about being fucked by 5 guys and zero drama on both ends. If I saw on the streets a girl I liked, I could tell her "I want to fuck that girl", and she could say the same when she saw a guy/girl she liked. That's the kind of women that are really worth for me, but possesive psychotics with total lack of self-confidence are much more common. And this works both ways, lot of guys would get mad at their girlfriends doing or saying certain things too. This is what a open minded and healthy relationship is. And this is exactly what I have also (Skyrim-couples that play together stay together)
Setekh Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 It is as simple as this: if you would say she is a nymphomaniac (or something close to) and is not a possesive psychotic, tell her. Otherwise, there are a lot of probabilities of incomig drama. I had this girlfriend long ago that had higher than normal level of hormones, and I could tell her about everything I watched or played, and she could tell me her fantasies about being fucked by 5 guys and zero drama on both ends. If I saw on the streets a girl I liked, I could tell her "I want to fuck that girl", and she could say the same when she saw a guy/girl she liked. That's the kind of women that are really worth for me, but possesive psychotics with total lack of self-confidence are much more common. And this works both ways, lot of guys would get mad at their girlfriends doing or saying certain things too. This is what a open minded and healthy relationship is. And this is exactly what I have also (Skyrim-couples that play together stay together) Heh, guess that's why me and mine have been together since Obl then.
chajapa Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 My wife asks, "Playing with your large breasted friends again?" and... "Are there any scantily clad men in that game?" (To which I replied, "I can make some for you if you'd like to play."..... she said, "No thanks.") We've been married going on 35 years. She doesn't know about ALL of the capabilities of the game as I have it modded now. So I tend not to play when she's hanging around. We watch TV together or go out on the screen porch and have coffee or dessert and listen to the birds and talk about the gardens. I'm reasonably sure she would not not approve.... possibly STRONGLY.... if she saw one of my female characters being ravaged by a troll or wolf (or horse or......) So.... some stones are better left unturned
RunicGray Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 My spouse came home yesterday as I was doing the Devious Devices Integration quest, stuck with a chastity belt. I did get a "Ooh, she looks good" before having to sheepishly admit the "undies" was a chastity belt. I got a "Oooh, right. Kay." And yet, with that nonchalant response, I still felt the need to follow and explain, "No, I didn't get the mod FOR the chastity belt - there's other stuff in the mod, but I gotta use it to get the other stuff, I swear! Please don't take this as a hint that I want one! D:" (To avoid offense, I do not have anything against chastity belts - they just don't do it for me. But a lot of the other stuff in DD does rev my engine, so I stared the questline.) <--- Lame-face, right here
Jay1646 Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 I would never tell my GF about my Skyrim or this site for that matter.... I'll keep this all to myself
5seasons Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 I would never tell my GF about my Skyrim or this site for that matter.... I'll keep this all to myself Sucks bro. But I understand. I hook wit with a church girl sometimes. She would never allow sex mods and nudity. She'd burn my pc if I was her boyfriend.
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