Troubles running FO3 with various sex mods

[Shinseiryou]

So i tried using FO3 GOTY edition and FOMM, FOSE .etc to run a few mods like ashmedai's sexout for FO3 and animated prostituion, but either using FOMM or following the readme's, despite all the signs that the mods are installed where they should be, having them active at all causes fallout 3 to crash before even reaching the main menu until I delete them. 

I understand it's probably a tired query, but what am I doing wrong, because this seems to be more than just a nonfunctional mod, it's making the game literally unplayable.

[Dmouse52]

you need to show your load order. I'm pretty sure that's the problem here because CTD before main menu usually mean a dependencie is before it's master or a master is missing