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My blemish? Not being like mama Ivy!


Evaloves4

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Everything returned to normal again. Silvano agreed that he will be our bodyguard available 24h a day. First 12 hours are his working hours and other 12 hours, according to the need. Although he didn’t want him to do it, Antonio increased his salary because of that. He will pay him extra for every overtime work. He will be on the duty from the morning when he will practice martial arts with my luvs, until the evening when he will do it again. If he stays on the duty during the night, we are obligated to accommodate him. It isn’t a problem since he is practically a family.

 

My Prince decided to have very serious conversation with my dad and Zdenka. It bothered him that they always supported him when everything is under control and fine, but when there is a crises, like the recent one, they always change their minds and press on him hard. He told them that he would like them to support him, but if they can’t, they shouldn’t attack him either because having them on opposite side makes him sad, stressful and disappointed. The conversation didn’t go well at the beginning because both of them accused him again for recklessness that endangering the family. But, when 4 of us (me, my Ivy, my mom and dad Boss) defended him wholeheartedly, they capitulated. My Ivy addressed them very direct and sharp speech:

- I am having enough of your attacking my husband. If you are cowards, don’t resent him for not being like you. Your changing the sides has to stop now! (My dad wanted to react, but my Ivy didn’t let him) – With all respect, dad, you said what was on your heart. It is my turn now. Our husband is doing things that police and every normal person should do, but they don’t for various reasons. He won’t stop being him just because you don’t like it. Yes, his job is dangerous sometimes, but that comes with the package of doing right and good things. I love the way we live. I am not scared. My husband is very capable to protect us and I will do all in my power to help him. It is crucial that you fully and unconditionally support us. If you can’t, you better keep your mouth shut because we don’t want to listen to your stupid comments and nagging. If you keep being persistent in attacking him, you might come to our house only to be with your grandchildren. Our life will not be your concern and you won’t be allowed to comment it. So, it is up to you now.

 

My Ivy sat in my Prince’s lap and wrapping her hands around his neck she showered his face with kisses. My dad and Zdenka firmly realized that my Ivy was serious and they promised they will not oppose him if they can’t support him. The next day Antonio and the chief of the police came to our house to talk to our parents too, while we were at the work. They encouraged them saying that they will do everything in their power to protect him and every single one of us, especially our children.

 

Life goes on and we started to organize Precious’ birthday party. She’ll be fully 2 in several weeks. She is my little princess, beautiful and smart. Since we are separating some amount of money as children’s allowance, we asked Mikey what he would buy to his sister for her birthday. He made us laugh when he shot like from the canon: the Hulk t-shirt. Now, I explained to him that girls mostly doesn’t like the same things as boys. He made me laugh saying:

- How about mama Ivy? She loves everything tata does.

I explained to him why mama Ivy loves same things like his tata. Then he asked me this::

- Why don’t you like tata as mama Ivy?

Oh my, I tried to explain to him that I love his tata with all my being, but I simply don’t not like some things he does because we are different while his mama Ivy and tata are very alike. It took me a while until I managed to explain our differences and similarities to him. Just as I thought I did a great job, you know what he said to me?

Mikey: I wish you will be like mama Ivy. She loves tata more than you do.

I gave up from further discussion. It was pointless since he is idolizing his father. Everyone in the family should be like him. But he is still a little child (almost 3) and he will learn by the time that love has many faces and that loving his father differently than his mama Ivy isn’t bad love, lesser love or blemish.

 

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Giving up was the best thing you could do! I know this one, and you cannot win! ))) My son and husband are bonded in such a way that you can not tell them apart, except that my husband is taller. I think that if my husband said eating tree bark was his favorite, my son would run outside and start eating trees!

 

My son's only wish is to be exactly like his father. For my husband, it was the same when he was our son's age. All is done to impress the man they view as next to God... invincible and immortal.

 

Even as his father has been gone for several years, my husband says he often asks himself, "What would dad do?" I think that both our sons have good examples to follow. )))

 

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:classic_laugh: He has the rare advantage of two mamas.

It will still take a few years for him, but I think it will give him a much deeper understanding to value different personalities who are still bound in the same family.

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Now, I explained to him that girls mostly doesn’t like the same things as boys

Better try to explain him that different people do often like different things.

 

Grandparents and grandgrandparents can be very good for explaining that, too.

They did that, when I couldn't understand what my parents tried to tell me.

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I do miss them all :cry:

 

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6 hours ago, LadySmoks said:

 

 

Giving up was the best thing you could do! I know this one, and you cannot win! ))) My son and husband are bonded in such a way that you can not tell them apart, except that my husband is taller. I think that if my husband said eating tree bark was his favorite, my son would run outside and start eating trees!

 

My son's only wish is to be exactly like his father. For my husband, it was the same when he was our son's age. All is done to impress the man they view as next to God... invincible and immortal.

 

Even as his father has been gone for several years, my husband says he often asks himself, "What would dad do?" I think that both our sons have good examples to follow. )))

 

> I guess there is something in being like their fathers among the boys. The girls have that too, but not so intense as they boys. I am glad Mikey wants to be like his father for my Prince is excellent model of the man in almost everything. He isn't perfect (who is?) but he is doing his best in everything he does. Mikey will see by the time that I love his father like his mama Ivy. :)

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4 hours ago, Jay-Omms said:

Oh Mikey... You will have to have his Tata explain. :sweat_smile::heart:;):thumbsup:

> I thought of asking my Prince to do that, but I changed my mind. It might have opposite effect. I let it go for now, until he grows little bit older. ;)

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3 hours ago, worik said:

:classic_laugh: He has the rare advantage of two mamas.

It will still take a few years for him, but I think it will give him a much deeper understanding to value different personalities who are still bound in the same family.

Better try to explain him that different people do often like different things.

 

Grandparents and grandgrandparents can be very good for explaining that, too.

They did that, when I couldn't understand what my parents tried to tell me.

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I do miss them all :cry:

 

> I explained that to him but he filtered me through my Ivy. His conclusion was: if you love my tata, you'd do the the way mama Ivy does.

> I will not involve our parents in this yet. He is still very small and he doesn't see the whole picture yet. But if they see that "problem" by themselves, I won't stop them from talking to him. :)

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12 minutes ago, Evaloves4 said:

he doesn't see the whole picture yet

Each person is an individual being, with all likes and dislikes.

 

I think I understood that, when they (the big ones) took their time to point me to the differences

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2 minutes ago, worik said:

Each person is an individual being, with all likes and dislikes.

> Very true. :) My Ivy is very different form me and yet, we still crazily love each other :)

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4 hours ago, Evaloves4 said:

> Very true. :) My Ivy is very different form me and yet, we still crazily love each other :)

Relations are strange. Sometimes, opposites attract, as they say. Other times, people find others who are like thought clones.

 

My husband and I share some commonality, and have many differences... that we then share with each other, and grow. ) I took him to Odessa opera. He forced me to jump out of an airplane... I mean that he took me to experience the thrill of skydiving. 🤒 We have gone to see several operas since. Jumping out of airplanes, not so much!

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16 hours ago, LadySmoks said:

Relations are strange. Sometimes, opposites attract, as they say. Other times, people find others who are like thought clones.

 

My husband and I share some commonality, and have many differences... that we then share with each other, and grow. ) I took him to Odessa opera. He forced me to jump out of an airplane... I mean that he took me to experience the thrill of skydiving. 🤒 We have gone to see several operas since. Jumping out of airplanes, not so much!

> I have read somewhere  awhile ago about the theory that there is a difference between the human character and his nature. Character is changeable, but the nature isn't. According to this theory my Prince and Iyy influence so much on each other that they became very alike. I did also transformed according to his image to some extent, and we shared many similarities until she took him under her "care" :D

Ivy:

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I bambini oggi sono molto intelligenti e vedono, o almeno pensano che saranno quello che sono.
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