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Fighting about Halloween


Evaloves4

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Our children loves morning and evening teeth brushing with us. Since we have only one washbasin in the bathroom, we let boys do it first for they are faster. We need more time since there are three of us. (“Sure you do” as my Prince would say sarcastically). Anyhow, our boys roar like Hulk after brushing the teeth making various faces which Mikey really loves to do, while we, girls, make smiles and different poses in the front of the mirror. Precious always wants us to “fix her face” as she heard me and my Ivy saying to each other, which means putting up makeup on her face. We do it, only lightly and not every time. She’d have enough time for makeup when she grows older.

 

 

Everything is ready for Halloween in the Hotel. If the government allows us, we gonna have Halloween party in the Hotel for our workers and their children and for our guests. Those who are following my diaries knows that my Prince doesn’t celebrate any holidays but he participate in them because of us. Well, he accepted Christmas, Valentine and Easter, but he never accepted Halloween. He HATES everything about that holiday especially pranks and dressing in the costume. This year, my Ivy “changed the side” and she joined him. I talked to them saying that all family will participate, even our children (who will be dressed like Hulk and Tinker Bell), and that she should do it too. Nobody ever resented my Prince for not participating because he was like that even before we get to know him, but we didn’t expect my Ivy to do that. She was very persistent not to participate saying that she doesn’t enjoy it anymore. My Prince surely didn’t have direct influence on her since he is not such a man. The three of us started to fight about it. I told them that they aren’t a good example to children who might stop participate in holiday because of them. My Prince said that if the children loves it, they will not stop enjoying in it, but he doesn’t see the point of forcing my Ivy doing something that she doesn’t like anymore. He reminded me that he never forced us on anything. Since we couldn’t find middle ground or compromise, I was angry with them and I cried. All I wanted from us was to enjoy in Halloween as a family. My mom and my Fran told me that I am wasting my energy and time insisting on something that is impossible to change. They opened my eyes saying that I am pushy again, and if I continue to do it, I might make him angry which will result him being cold toward me. That means, he will sleep in children room, talk to me minimally, no sex and he will be avoiding me. My Ivy will do the same. Thinking of it made me stop pushing my will. You see, my Prince differently reacts on our quarrel from when I am being pushy. If we quarrel, he quickly and easily cools off. If he was wrong, he apologize to us and everything is normal again. But he can’t stand when we are pushy. It reminds him on his mother who constantly did that to him and he hates it with all his being. She was pushy in order to break his will and make him absolutely obedient and submissive to her will.

 

 

My luvs gathered our children. I was very thrilled how wisely he approached to them. He asked them if they like Halloween. When they said they do, he explained to them why they should participate in it. After that he explained to them why he and mama (Ivy) wouldn’t participate in Halloween. On my surprise, the children had no problem with it. There was only one more thing I had to do: I had to settle some things with my Ivy. I talked to her in private and I asked her if she’s trying very hard to be like my Prince or is it naturally because I can’t believe how much she became like him in everything. She told me that she stopped trying being like him long time ago. She simply sees things with his eyes that makes sense to her and she feels she should do the same. I accepted her answer for she never lies. Then I asked her if she loves him more than me. She got angry with me for asking her that. Slapping my ass she said how she still crazily loves me and that she loves me and my Prince equally but differently, just as he loves us. I was very happy hearing it and she and I made very passionate love. No, I wasn't disturbed by possibility that she might love him more then me, rather, I was afraid that she would love me less than before. Later on, the three of us had excellent reconciliation sex. Anyway, they will do the same as they do every year – they will buy 10kg of various candies and 10 kg of fruits to orphanage. Halloween will be little bit different this year, but it didn’t divide us as family.

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"> English is not my native language and I apologize for (bad) grammar and occasional typos. I adopt and translate my diaries from original diaries I write in my first language which is not always easy thing to do. Thank you for reading my diaries.  ?❤️"

 

I never noticed this before. When a person "apologize" that English is not native language, I remind them that many Americans write and speak as it is not their native language also!!! Never apologize for making effort to communicate and share!!! ?

 

Halloween is a strange holiday. Some adults enjoy parties and wearing costumes, some believe it is silly, and have long outgrown it. For me, it is fun... my husband no. But, he will do anything to make our son happy, and so helps with Halloween and all holidays. Still, if he did not, I would not push him too much about it. That one parent is involved for children is sufficient. 

 

Holidays are never a good time to push anything. I would NOT do this now, as Prince and Ivy have made their decisions, and to continue may leave them to see you as a nagging wife, but in future, simply say that holidays do not come often and we parents might do things only for our children, even if we do not enjoy. )))

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1 hour ago, LadySmoks said:

"> English is not my native language and I apologize for (bad) grammar and occasional typos. I adopt and translate my diaries from original diaries I write in my first language which is not always easy thing to do. Thank you for reading my diaries.  ?❤️"

 

I never noticed this before. When a person "apologize" that English is not native language, I remind them that many Americans write and speak as it is not their native language also!!! Never apologize for making effort to communicate and share!!! ?

 

Halloween is a strange holiday. Some adults enjoy parties and wearing costumes, some believe it is silly, and have long outgrown it. For me, it is fun... my husband no. But, he will do anything to make our son happy, and so helps with Halloween and all holidays. Still, if he did not, I would not push him too much about it. That one parent is involved for children is sufficient. 

 

Holidays are never a good time to push anything. I would NOT do this now, as Prince and Ivy have made their decisions, and to continue may leave them to see you as a nagging wife, but in future, simply say that holidays do not come often and we parents might do things only for our children, even if we do not enjoy. )))

 

> Thank you for sharing your thoughts. :)

 

> One of the reasons why I apologize for my English it is because sometimes the things I say in English have different meaning in my first language and I have been misunderstood or wrongly interpreted. :) This way I am saying to the readers that some undefined and uncleared statements are product of my insufficient knowledge of English. :)

 

> You and your husband does a good job as a family. My Prince does everything in his power to make us and our children happy. He believes in family and he puts us in the front of everything and everyone "investing" all he can in us. My father wasn't even half as good in parenting as my Prince is. He lives according to his father's motto: "It is not important what I want and what makes me happy, but what you want and what makes you happy." There is something in Halloween that he really hates with all his guts, so that even our children aren't powerful stimulation to make him participate in it. I thought they would be and I "played" that card, but it didn't work.

 

> Halloween and going to the cemetery are two things he wouldn't do for anybody no matter how much he loves someone. He was very close to his father, but when he died, he didn't attend the funeral. When he doesn't want to do something, he simply doesn't do it. And I don't see it as his lack of love. Yes, he is very interesting and unique person, hard to understand sometimes, but my Ivy and I love him with all our being. :)

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3 hours ago, EvalovesEP said:

> One of the reasons why I apologize for my English it is because sometimes the things I say in English have different meaning in my first language and I have been misunderstood or wrongly interpreted. :) This way I am saying to the readers that some undefined and uncleared statements are product of my insufficient knowledge of English. :)

I understand why, but it is apology that I feel is wrong. ))) Simply, "English is not my native language and I use electronic translator. I apologize if the translator translates something that is misunderstood, or offends. It was okay in Croatian language." ))))))))

 

I understand that your Prince is firm on this. But, if that is only thing, I guess it is easy enough to get over. )

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8 minutes ago, LadySmoks said:

I understand why, but it is apology that I feel is wrong. ))) Simply, "English is not my native language and I use electronic translator. I apologize if the translator translates something that is misunderstood, or offends. It was okay in Croatian language." ))))))))

 

I understand that your Prince is firm on this. But, if that is only thing, I guess it is easy enough to get over. )

 

> No, I am not using any translator, only a dictionary from time to time so I could know how to spell some words. :)

> Yeap, I already gave up. I think I wouldn't be so persistent if my Ivy didn't join him. I was pushy more because of her. Anyway, that unpleasant event is behind us now. :)

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7 hours ago, LadySmoks said:

OY! I remember using dictionary to study English. 

> >Yeap, I have to use Eng. dict. Beside speaking Croatian, I speak Italian every day as my second language.

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Mikey Hulkey :mrgreen:

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Happy Halloween!

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Prince and Ivy could of dressed up in their body guard outfits and just say they were on duty and not celebrating Halloween. ;)

I don't celebrate Halloween anymore either and haven't been for years ever since knowing some people poison the candies. It's a pain looking for signs of tampering of each candy you get going door to door. :sweat: I also dislike people glorifying horror movies. I don't find them amusing at all watching the suffering and despair of others it boils my blood to see killers running around like that not to mention sick people being influenced by those movies to go out and make their own real life horror. :sweat: 

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