On our way to my parents’ house for family lunch in Sunday, we stopped by the flower shop and bought nice bouquets of flowers for our moms. Just as we rang the door bell my dad opened the door and took Mikey into his arms, kissed him first, then us and carried him inside prattling to him in Italian. When moms saw us, they did the same. All their attention was on Mikey. Nobody asked my Ivy how she feels and how is her baby. This is happening for some time now. Her pregnancy is not that visible yet, but it doesn’t excuse them for they know she is pregnant. Mikey became the family “star”. I didn’t like our parents’ behaving. I’m sure my Ivy noticed their behaving too, but she never said a word. I knew I have to do something and I waited for the right moment.
Dads wanted to play cards with us. My Prince and Ivy played against them. I observed them holding Mikey in my arms. Dads addressed few nice words to Mikey several times during the game and none to my Ivy and her baby. She was sitting in my Prince’s lap kissing him often and they both laughed when lost the game. She looked happy, but I wasn’t. I was sad and angry. When Mikey was about to sleep, everyone kissed him and I took him to our room and laid him in his bed. When I returned to the living room my Ivy was in the need for “dose”. My Prince carried her to the bedroom. She giggled and lightly bit his neck. I used their absence to “wash” our parents.
Me: May I have a moment of your attention, please …. I must tell you what pains me although I know you are not doing it intentionally …. I am glad you love my son, but don’t you think you have neglected Ivy? …. She also carries your grandchild and all of you hardly pay any attention to her and her baby lately …. When did you tell her last time you are happy for her and that you hardly wait for her baby to be born? ….. You don’t treating her fair ….. Did you forget that she let me have a baby first ….. Will you treat me the same way as you treat her now if she will give you the firstborn? ….. She never complained, but I’m telling you: if you would treat me as you treat her, I would be very hurt ….Think about it …..
I couldn’t hold my tears and I went to the bathroom and I cried. When I calmed, I fixed my makeup and I returned to the living room. My dad asked me to sit in his lap and he said to me:
- You were right, Eva. We haven’t noticed we behaved unfair toward Ivy and her baby. We are sorry and we’ll change it.
He hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. I thanked him and I went to check on Mikey. My luvs joined us after quick shower. Everyone behaved much better toward her. She looked at me with “I know what you did.” look. I just whispered: “I love you, Ivy.” We had great time together. When Mikey woke up, my Prince changed his diaper, I fed him and we returned home.
During the driving, she held Mikey and she told me:
- What you did today, Princess is very nice of you and I appreciate it. However, I must tell you something …. I really don’t mind me and my baby being not in the family focus. Yours and Prince’s love for me and our baby is what matters to me. I would be sad and hurt if you two will neglect us, but both of you loves us and that’s makes me happy.
My Prince (who was driving) confirmed her words and said we love her very much and that we’ll love our children equally. Mikey is firstborn but he will not be loved more than our daughter. I deep kissed her and said I’ll always be there for her and her daughter as her wife and baby’s second mother. Anyway, when we arrived home I called my Fran who was spent a day with Dante to watch on Mikey. When he arrived, he played with Mikey while we took a shower and made love.
Today is our “Family mourning day” and 4 years anniversary since Prince’s dad passed away. (His dad passed away 18th of this month but since my Prince will be absent tomorrow, the whole day, we held it today). The whole family, except my Prince went to cemetery early in the morning to avoid heat, paid respect to our family members and my Ivy and I returned home with Mikey while parents stayed to clean tombs. They came later to make “Memorial lunch” (meals that our loved ones loved the most). My Ivy and I didn’t like idea that my Prince went alone for he was already very sad. He went to honor them the way he is doing every year: visiting the places he and his father used to go. Mikey was very cranky and he constantly cried. We didn’t know what’s wrong with him and we called house doctor. He checked him and said he is fine. Little mouse missed his daddy. He was in the need for him today more than usually. My Prince came home when we finished our lunch during which we talked about our loved ones. His eyes were swollen and red from crying and he was very tired because of the heat. He kissed us all. Seeing his daddy, Mikey screamed in joy and shook all his body. My Prince showered him with kisses and “Love yous”. When he went under the shower Mikey cried again. Coming out of the bathroom, he took him, went to the bedroom, placed him on his chest, kissed the top of his head and they both slept. When everyone left, we joined my Prince and Mikey in the bedroom. They were soooooo cute. Mikey was laying face side on his chest sucking pacifier, making content sounds and having his arms spread across Prince’s chest like he was saying: “ I love you this much, daddy.” When we tried to take him to his bed, he cried, so we put him back. When they wake up, we’ll have our “Memorial” and good sex afterwards. The “lesson” about our parents’ behaving toward my Ivy in Sunday was productive. They pay more attention to her and her baby. I was very happy to see them changed.