I couldn’t stop thinking about my “conversation” with Trilog in my last diary. The more I thought about it, more I was burdened. He presented his arguments way better than me and I had a feeling I’m selfish, stupid, stubborn, must-be-my-way bitch. My luvs noticed my condition and Mikey felt it. My Prince asked me what is bugging me. Since he doesn’t read my diaries I told him about. Not wanting to conclude prematurely, he asked me to print the whole diary entry and our conversation. He read it very carefully three times in the row and then he said to me:

- Honey, no offense, but he nailed you. I am surprised you presented your arguments so badly. His arguments were three times stronger then yours and made more sense.

Me: I know, and I apologized to him …

Prince: Honey … listen …. You are very smart but I can’t believe you answered to him being so unprepared; he nailed you because your arguments were weak and I would say the same to you as Trilog because that was the only way readers could understand your points ….. You should wait, work on your arguments and answer to him later….

Me: But … he is very intelligent and I expected him to read between the lines and  ... and I thought he will know what I want to say since he knows me by now.

Prince (sighing): Honey … honeeeey …. Your arguments were based mostly on emotions, not upon the reason and you know very well that written words can be interpreted differently then spoken words in face to face. Nevertheless, I ask you to be more careful in the future ….. Let me give you two tips: first, never ever respond to anyone rashly and without strong support of your views and second, you made “unforgivable” mistake; you talked to a male about female things. We, men would never fully understand why you doing and saying some things that are typical for your “race” just as you could never fully understand us. There was, is and always be great different between our genders because we see and do things differently, plus, we can’t comprehend and cope with women because we have no pregnancy and contraception experience except condoms and pills from lately …. He studied this material and he presented his arguments spotlessly …. But, honey ….. regardless that, they were mere theories based on personal unempirical studies ….. No one knows how you felt during the pregnancy and labor. We can only sympathize with you imaging the intense of the pain, but we would never know how it truly looks until we go through them ….. The only thing I resent to his arguments is putting “all apples in the same basket” when he talked about contraception. You can pick all apples from the same tree and yet some of them will be more sweeter then others and you may find some tasteless apples too. He should know that no matter what big percentage of women said about their contraception usage, what statistics and medical studies says too - it doesn’t mean that it is 100% applicable for all. Let's say it works for 99% of women… What if you do not belong to 99% group but to 1%. That's why those publications generalizing. For example: I would be very wrong if I would expect you to be like Ivy or her like you. Although both of you are women you are different in “million” things …. I never liked “What is good for me, MUST be good for you” approach …. I would rather go with: “what is good for me MIGHT be good for you, but it doesn’t have to.” ……. Now, what is done is done ….. I don’t want you to see him as your enemy, rather someone who cares for you and us because all he said was based on that. Let me just say one thing to you and Ivy: be careful and avoid applying “one for all” formula when you deal with people. Always have in mind that the person you talk to is different then you because we are not identical copies. (laughingly) – Am I not best example of being extremely different than others?! … So, my witches ….. watch, observe and learn before you say and do anything. If you aren’t prepared for any type of discussion, don’t start it. Rather wait until you “organize” your thoughts and arguments. And most important: admitting failure and ignorance is not defeat and it is less embarrassing than stressing out lame and poor arguments.

My Prince amazed me with his wisdom. He played fair and he didn’t took my side because I was wrong. I kissed him and thanked him for such wonderful reminder. Just before I wanted to go to check up on Mikey although mom Boss and mine were there he stopped me saying:

- Princess …… Trilog was right when said we don’t know the future. People are changing, we are changing  ….

I interrupted him saying: Honey, if you think I will ever stop loving you and Ivy, you are WROOONG!!!!

Prince (calmly): It’s not what I wanted to say. Let me finish …… All of us or some of us may regret our decision about having no more children but our present decision must be built upon the unavoidable fact: whatever we say or do or decide now, may have heavy consequences in the future. Don’t think you will be ready to face them when they shows up. You must be ready now although it’s hard to predict how will you handle them. You must be ready in every sense for the possibility that, as Trilog said, we might lose our son, because life is the unpredictable bitch. Deciding to have no more children again might make you heavily regret it ….. So, Princess …. You still have two more weeks before you will be ready to have sex to think about your decision ……. I give you those two weeks as minimum time to go through this subject again, but more deeply and widely reweighing all pluses and minuses. If you need more time, take it. When you make your final decision, come to me and tell me what have you decide ….. If you and Ivy still don’t want to have more children, I will do vasectomy. Your happiness, health and peace of mind is more important to me then anything else …. As I said to our parents: I don’t know now if I want more children in the future or not. Maybe I will, maybe I won’t …. But I know one thing: No matter how hard I might regret my decision I will never blame you because I love you …… I could live with having no more children, but I can’t live without you ….

He made my Ivy and me crying  hard. We had no doubts in his words because he is the man of his words and he will keep them. I promised I will go through it again approaching to the subject from every angle. He showed his high maturity in love relationship again and I relearned a valuable lesson again.

The best comes at the end. MY very dear and close LL friend, @dharvinia also had baby due three days ago. She gave a birth to gorgeous little girl. She told me that baby girl was born 53.34 cm big and with 4.59 kg. The doctor says she looks more like a 1 month old than a newborn. She also said the because both parents are tall the child will most likely be tall too.

Please, congratulate her and make her happy knowing that LL is the forum whose members are like a family