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Phlegmatic vs Sanguine


Evaloves4

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I will start this diary with wonderful news: Boss’s wife had uterus surgery last Thursday and all went well. The doctors removed the tumor and managed to save her uterus. She recovers very well and she has the second surgery tomorrow; removing the tumor from the brain. We are all positive that it will end well too.

 

 

My luvs had no problems at work, but we had it at home. That’s why this diary is about. Namely, those who follows my diaries and Prince’s threads and posts knows that he is extremely against the people who prioritize their pets before other human beings. He reacts the same on it as he reacts on bullies. You had chance to read about his reaction on the act of our president who adopted the dog from the shelter, but in the same time she ignored the people who expected her help. That’s why she came to Virovitica city. That news really made him outraged. He swore loudly, called her names and bumped the table by his fists. When Ivy and I calmed him and had serious conversation about the possible consequences on our baby of his yelling, swearing and bumping once it will be born, he realized that his behaving isn’t appropriate and he apologized to Ivy and me, asked for forgiveness and promised he’ll behave.

 

 

And he tried, but he unwillingly broke his promise yesterday and it emotionally crashed him. So this is what has happened: we enjoyed in each other yesterday afternoon after excellent sex laying on the sofa in the living room and cuddling. We watched TV and I felt sudden desire to have large ice cream. My Prince jumped on the feet and he happily said he’ll make a big ice cream cups for Ivy and me. While he was in the kitchen our series ended and Ivy and I watched regional news. After the news from our city there was a special reportage about abandoned and runaway children in age 8-12 in our capitol. My Ivy and I cried watching poor kids living on the streets that are stealing, drinking and fighting. Their faces were blurred and voices changed so that they won’t be recognized. We completely forgot on our Prince. It was too late to change the channel when there was reportage about the 8 years old kid whom his parents drove away from home and who rather kept their dog pet then him. According to the journalist the kid was good in the school, not problematic, but he was unwanted child and his parents “simply” didn’t love him. When the boy said that their dog was treated and loved better then him, my Prince, whom we noticed too late, went soooo mad that he smacked plasma TV by his fist, took it into his hands and bumped it against the wall few times. Then, loudly swearing, he crushed it on the floor yelling he’d kill kid’s parents if he’ll see them. My Ivy and I didn’t react. We couldn’t. We were in the great shock, frozen and everything happened very fast. When he accidentally looked at us; our stunned and shocked faces, he froze for couple of moments and then he run to our beach and he jumped in the sea to cool down.

 

 

My Ivy and I didn’t go after him but we talked about him and how can we help him. We tried to find the cause of such behaving so that we may find some answers and help for him. During our conversation I remembered very dramatic and sad stories he and his uncle told me about his dad who grew up in the orphanage. Prince’s father wasn’t problematic child in the sense of causing and starting troubles and violence. When he did something bad it was his actual call for love and attention. It is not the rule but many kids are violent and problematic because they have been neglected, rejected and unloved by their parents. My Prince was loved by his parents. Well, his dad loved him unconditionally while his mother was always after him like the secret service punishing him for every single mischief or error. Talking about Prince’s dad character and analyzing him, I have concluded that he was 70% Sanguine and 30% Choleric. My Prince is his character clone. (I have no time to write about those character now and if you want to know more, google it). In general, Sanguines are emotional, passionate, social, good leaders, compassionate, sympathetic, musicians, poets, speakers, has strong sense for justice and right, and so on and so on. Cholerics are intellectuals, politicians, hard will, stubborn, scientists and so on and so on, people. So, in my Prince’s case, Sanguine is his stronger “side”. That explained a lot about his reactions. Add the raising influence of his father to it and there; you have my Prince and you can understand why is he react the way he reacts on certain things.

 

 

Let me tell you something: My Ivy and I know some people who are (in general) totally phlegmatic about everything, anything and anybody. They simply don’t care and nothing can move them to react on injustice and “god forbid” protecting someone’s life. We rather love our Prince as he is (Sanguine/Choleric) than being phlegmatic who cares only for himself. We felt sorry for him. We know he was overpowered by his oversensitive side for justice and we didn’t judge him at all. We already learned that he is good in his heart, gentle and caring and those bad sides of Sanguine character prevails sometimes. There is still hope for him for he IS trying to change and believe me; he’s busting his ass to change so he could be better husband and future father. His reaction on the news broke him and when my Ivy and I finished talking, we went to the beach to comfort him and to tell him that we love him and that we understand his reactions which we will try to correct it together. I know he will change because he loves us and he is totally crazy about our baby. Wow to those who will try to harm it. He won’t let it happen and if it happens, I know I wouldn’t like to be in the skin of that person.

 

 

Anyway, when he saw us watching him and waving him, he swam to us and he started to cry and to apologize saying he is very sorry. We showered him with kisses, hugs and “love yous” saying that we understand and that we will help him to put this problem under control as he did it with his “Hulk syndrome”. He was very tensed and Ivy and I relaxed him gently cuddling him and making love with him. We had very good conversation before we went to sleep. He already made decision he will stop watch the news when we buy new TV in Saturday. Beside that he is very aware that he must change before baby comes to the world. He didn’t give many promises but the tears in his eyes, shaken voice and deep long moans and breaths when imagining our scared and crying baby spoke for itself.

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That's an impulsivity issue. I've seen some guys have those problems, yelling and hitting their own cars windows when another car driver did something offensive for example. The good news is that it can be worked upon when they realize its stupid to hit oneself or his own possessions when being mad. This kind of anger doesn't serves any purpose. The guys I had in mind were very different in nature, yet both of them dealt with their fits of anger. With time and motivation, I'm sure Prince can. The key is to think before reacting. :classic_smile:

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5 hours ago, Tirloque said:

That's an impulsivity issue. I've seen some guys have those problems, yelling and hitting their own cars windows when another car driver did something offensive for example. The good news is that it can be worked upon when they realize its stupid to hit oneself or his own possessions when being mad. This kind of anger doesn't serves any purpose. The guys I had in mind were very different in nature, yet both of them dealt with their fits of anger. With time and motivation, I'm sure Prince can. The key is to think before reacting. :classic_smile:

My dear friend. You are absolutely right. :)

Must say something in his defense: seeing how people daily distance from each other, turns to their own egoistic way of living and caring much for secondary relevant things, breaks his heart. He was left by his mother twice: the first time when his father was irrecoverably ill and second time when we became love triangle and she met and married Kurt. That's why I understand his reactions on people's treating each other and replacing the basic philosophical theses that humans are social beings with something that is not imprinted in human nature since their existence. That thesis is fading away with every single day.

 

I agree with him that human race is treasonous, selfish, corrupted in its essence, but still, he loves people. As I said many times: he is VERY unique person and I never me anyone like him. Most people loves him and he easily makes friendships although many do not understand his way of thinking and living. Three things "breaks" his heart and makes him extremely aggressive: bulling, raping and rejecting own child. He is aware that he must control his reactions when he hears about such things and I'm very positive he will. One thing is for sure: our child will be extremely loved by him and that comforts and melting my heart. :)

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That's right :classic_biggrin: The other day me and a coworker were moving product off the truck and it fell over and we couldn't really see the full extent of the damage because it was still in the truck. We were both mad and the second it happened I was filled with so much anger that when I suppressed it, it hurt my throat so bad I almost choked.? But I've been learning to control my anger and to think before reacting.;)     

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9 hours ago, Jayomms said:

That's right :classic_biggrin: The other day me and a coworker were moving product off the truck and it fell over and we couldn't really see the full extent of the damage because it was still in the truck. We were both mad and the second it happened I was filled with so much anger that when I suppressed it, it hurt my throat so bad I almost choked.? But I've been learning to control my anger and to think before reacting.;)     

You were always a great example of self control to all of us. :) Just as Trilog. We learned a lot from both of you although I disagreed with him many times. He is still wise man and you are too.  Trilog's and mine disagreement became traditional ;) Sometimes we just disagree to stay in "touch" :D

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9 hours ago, EvalovesEP said:

You were always a great example of self control to all of us. :) Just as Trilog. We learned a lot from both of you although I disagreed with him many times. He is still wise man and you are too.  Trilog's and mine disagreement became traditional ;) Sometimes we just disagree to stay in "touch" :D

It hasn't been always like this. Had some issues as a little child, and last year with some quite frustrating situations. That's why I know it can be worked-upon. :classic_wink:

 

Btw, you're welcome to be disagreed with in the future. As a gentleman, this is the least I can do. :classic_biggrin:

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19 hours ago, Tirloque said:

It hasn't been always like this. Had some issues as a little child, and last year with some quite frustrating situations. That's why I know it can be worked-upon. :classic_wink:

 

> I assumed you had some dramatic experiences in past because only people who experienced something can brilliantly merge the knowledge and experience and support their ideology with good (but unacceptable for me sometimes ;)? ) arguments. :)  

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