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That’s what wife does …

Evaloves4

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This morning my Ivy and me had exams. I passed with “A” and she passed her exam from psychology but she almost failed. I was sitting in the Master’s college café answering on some important mails when she called me. I asked her why she almost failed and she said:

- Oh, Princess, you should see some questions …. Not only stupid but so unreal that I couldn’t resist to not to make funny answers. I didn’t fail thanks to the chairman of the board who realized I was joking and he, after warning me, gave me another chance to answer them properly. … And I think he liked my legs for he couldn’t stop staring at them. Hahahaha …. Meeeen …..  See you later, Princess. Love you.

I “love youd” her back being glad that she passed because if she failed she has to pay the exam again. It’s not that we don’t have the money for it, but it will be wasting of time and the money for the course is very expensive. We already had to pay for the course and extra money for “speed course” thanks to Antonio. If Ivy failed because she didn’t take her exam seriously, my Prince wouldn’t like it. It will be money “blew in the wind”. He understands when person fails exam because of lack of concentration and other emotional and psychological reason, but he has no understanding when one failed the exam because he wasn’t taking the exam seriously no matter how stupid it looked. She has one more to go and I have three more to go. So, after the answering the mails I briefly came to the Hotel to treat my luvs, boss and friends with beverages. I saw everyone, but my luvs who were busy in the hotel restaurant having meeting with the chief and few of the workers. I returned home to write this dairy.

 

 

My Prince is workaholic. He simply doesn’t know when to stop or to say “no” when it comes to work. The additional difficulty to his “workaholism” is that he loves his job and it keeps him in motion because he is in the need to be active. Without external help and intervention, he wouldn’t know when to stop or should he stop working. That’s why my boss had to forbid him to come to the work several times. And some people using his weakness and they calling him for help even when they can do it alone. He doesn’t recognize when people are using him, just the same as he doesn’t recognize when he has been seduced. My following act was a big risk for good relationship between him and me. Seeing the opportunity to find good replacements for him in Saturday and Friday after 14:00 for I have been missing him and Ivy a lot, I talked to reliable Hotel workers from his larger team and they agreed they will do assigned tasked instead of my Prince. Since we are working in different places I can’t spend so much time with him like my Ivy. They are constantly together wherever they go because he is her boss and she is his assistant. Now, I’m NOT JEALOUS on their time being together. I’m just saying I wish I have more time with both of them. So the weekends are our only days in the week when we can be together all day.

 

 

Here is the problem: I knew if I ask him to let me organize his substitutes or ask him to find his substitutes, he wouldn’t do it or let me do it because he has oversensitive conscience when it comes to the work. He doesn’t think that others won’t do good job, but he feels highly responsible for the tasks that were entrusted him and he is not slacker who just wait to pass his obligations to the others. So, I didn’t ask him none of above but found his substitute yesterday afternoon before the end of my shift. I didn’t tell him anything about it until this morning during our morning coffee tradition. I was afraid that he would react negatively and I tried to use the best way to tell him that. I was glad that I was wrong about him. He looked at me with love in his eyes and said:

- Thanks luvs. You know I can’t ask others to replace me without having good and justify reason…… But, Princess, I just wish you talked to me about it first.

I deep kissed him and said:

- Honeeeeeeey, I didn’t talk to you because I knew how difficult for you is to ask others to do your job and to refuse to help! I’m 100% sure that if someone calls you right now and ask you to come and help, you will go. You simply don’t know to say “NO” …… (cuddling his face) – My love, ….. that’s why I did it instead of you ….. Honey, I miss you and Ivy. The time we have for ourselves after the work isn’t sufficient for me. I wouldn’t mind if you will be absent tomorrow for few hours, but the whole day is too much. That’s why I did what I did so we’ll have at least free weekends ….. You don’t have to be available to everyone 24 hours a day any more. You have trust worthy members in your team that can carry your job …. Please, think about this ……. Honey, I want you to have full trust in me. I will never do anything that will jeopardize your carrier, reputation and authority …… And I’m in the period when I need you and Ivy more than usual. Please, make me happy and accept free Saturday that I made available for you …….. If you decide to go to the work tomorrow, I will be sad and I will miss you, but I will love you no less.

 

 

My Prince looked at me with tears in his eyes. He gently placed hand on my face and kissed me very passionately. Then he whispered:

- My god …….. you are sooooo amazing …… I’m not worthy of you, Princess.

I hugged both of my angels, showered their faces with kisses and said:

- You know you can always count on me just like I can count on you.

My Ivy had “great finale” saying:

- So …… since you messed up with our plans and we are free tomorrow ……. Princess, your ass is ours ………

My Prince and I blasted in laughter. We had a great time laughing, kissing and tickling each other until our parents arrived for morning coffee.

 

 

My dear readers, I will not lie: I’m proud at myself for being the wife my Prince needs. Doing the things instead of him which he isn’t capable to do because it’s not in his nature makes me happy. That’s what wife does for her husband. I didn’t and I don’t want to change my Prince. I’m not called to do it. There are some things that will never change and I accepted them. He will do the same for me in the areas I’m weak or incapable to do. Being supporter and supported makes wonders in marriage.

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Jay-Omms

That’s what wife does … Damn skippy that’s what wife does :classic_biggrin::mrgreen::thumbsup:

 

skippy from what I hear in movies meaning - 'of course';)

 

It would bother me when coworkers complain to the Boss or other coworkers rudely about the work they were asked to do politely I would think oh just shut up and do the work you don't see me complaining. Some coworkers called me a mexican because I would be the only one cleaning the floors in the shop.:classic_laugh:

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Thank you, very much.

I was glad my Prince accepted my help in finding the substitute and I was happy that no one rejected to replace him when I asked them.

 

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Some coworkers called me a mexican because I would be the only one cleaning the floors in the shop.

LOL. You know what is "funny" in our country. Any type of physical work, especially cleaning is considered as low job and great majority of people avoiding it because they are ashamed of being seen doing it. My Ivy and I never had a problem with it. Especially my Prince. He did very dirty and low jobs and he didn't care about "reputation". He will have great respect for you for doing cleaning job. He appreciate much more those type of people that those who are fake intellectuals. :)

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Regarding Ivy's exam... I think unless she considered the time and money dedicated to her studies as a joke, she should consider herself lucky to have found an chairman understanding jokes. They're not known for that kind of attitude usually. What would she have told to Prince if she had had a regular chairman ? ?

 

About you finding a work-substitute for Prince, as long as in the future you think at talking him about it when needed, that does seems like a quite romantic wifey behavior. I hope you'll enjoy the time spent together.  Smiley_jap_HFR.gif

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Some coworkers called me a mexican because I would be the only one cleaning the floors in the shop.

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Regarding Ivy's exam... I think unless she considered the time and money dedicated to her studies as a joke, she should consider herself lucky to have found an chairman understanding jokes.

> This is the cultural thing. Our professors, in general, aren't so strict as they are in the West and Ivy doesn't attend the faculty or any higher educational institute. It is the board formed of the people who are working in their professions and they are paid for doing exams. Well, of course, if the students fails exam it means more money for them and they probably crush some of them. My Ivy is little bit *"luckasta" (*luckasta=female, luckast=male), but she is aware of the consequence of her behaving. Her problem is that she has no "hair on the tongue" as we would say in our language and she always speak her mind very openly. My Prince and I are trying to make her more diplomatic in communication area and she is progressing. Slowly, but surely. :)

 

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What would she have told to Prince if she had had a regular chairman ?

> If she failed the exam, she will tell my Prince the truth. She never lied to us. What will happen if she failed? My Prince will be angry at her, he will lecturing her, he will forgive her and make her promise to get serious. In the case she fails again because of the same reason, my Prince will find the way to discipline her and believe me, although it's nothing physical, it is soul painful and she wouldn't risk to do it because she is crazy about him and she worship him.

 

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About you finding a work-substitute for Prince, as long as in the future you think at talking him about it when needed, that does seems like a quite romantic wifey behavior.

> We finally came to the "disagreement point" ;)

Let me ask you something, mere allegoric: What would you do if your love one is disturbed by female neighbor's noise, but she has no courage to go and tell them to stop it? Wouldn't you go to you neighbor and talk to her? Or you will ask her to let you go and talk to her? (My apology for simplification and rawness of the argument but at the moment I have no better one).

 

I did the same for my Prince. I did for him what he isn't able to do it. His male pride was hurt a bit (that's what I think) for not asking him first, but he and I both knows he isn't able to make decision about this particular issue and talking to him about it has no sense. I know you will disagree with me because you are male and as an alpha/patriarch, you always want and expect certain level of submission and subordination. I have no problem to be submitted to my Prince. He proved as very capable head of the family and our marriage and I do not question his decisions, except in cases when he is wrong. It still doesn't mean I have no respect for him because I do.

 

So there are few areas in our marriage where preceded talk makes no point and three of us are very aware of that. I'm talking about complementing each other where action speaks more the "words" and my action showed to my husband: "I love you, honey, that's why I did it".

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8 hours ago, EvalovesEP said:

> This is the cultural thing. Our professors, in general, aren't so strict as they are in the West and Ivy doesn't attend the faculty or any higher educational institute. It is the board formed of the people who are working in their professions and they are paid for doing exams. Well, of course, if the students fails exam it means more money for them and they probably crush some of them. My Ivy is little bit *"luckasta" (*luckasta=female, luckast=male), but she is aware of the consequence of her behaving. Her problem is that she has no "hair on the tongue" as we would say in our language and she always speak her mind very openly. My Prince and I are trying to make her more diplomatic in communication area and she is progressing. Slowly, but surely. :)

 

> If she failed the exam, she will tell my Prince the truth. She never lied to us. What will happen if she failed? My Prince will be angry at her, he will lecturing her, he will forgive her and make her promise to get serious. In the case she fails again because of the same reason, my Prince will find the way to discipline her and believe me, although it's nothing physical, it is soul painful and she wouldn't risk to do it because she is crazy about him and she worship him.

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8 hours ago, EvalovesEP said:

> We finally came to the "disagreement point" ;)

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8 hours ago, EvalovesEP said:

Let me ask you something, mere allegoric: What would you do if your love one is disturbed by female neighbor's noise, but she has no courage to go and tell them to stop it? Wouldn't you go to you neighbor and talk to her? Or you will ask her to let you go and talk to her? (My apology for simplification and rawness of the argument but at the moment I have no better one).

 

I did the same for my Prince. I did for him what he isn't able to do it. His male pride was hurt a bit (that's what I think) for not asking him first, but he and I both knows he isn't able to make decision about this particular issue and talking to him about it has no sense. I know you will disagree with me because you are male and as an alpha/patriarch, you always want and expect certain level of submission and subordination. I have no problem to be submitted to my Prince. He proved as very capable head of the family and our marriage and I do not question his decisions, except in cases when he is wrong. It still doesn't mean I have no respect for him because I do.

 

So there are few areas in our marriage where preceded talk makes no point and three of us are very aware of that. I'm talking about complementing each other where action speaks more the "words" and my action showed to my husband: "I love you, honey, that's why I did it".

I think that if it's something regarding professional area, I'd probably ask her before indeed, or at least inform her that I'll do it. Because I think that bypassing repeatedly the judgment ability of someone would be insulting that very ability, and that I wish my decisions to have minimal impact on others' freedom. So it's out of respect in fact, and the very contrary of a patriarcal... or matriarcal authoritative attitude... which is to decide by oneself without prior discussion. :classic_smile:

 

That being said, I think you have more couple experience than I do, and you definitely know Prince better than I do. So you're still in the best position to judge about those matters regarding your trio. Smiley_jap_HFR.gif

 

 

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I think that if it's something regarding professional area, I'd probably ask her before indeed, or at least inform her that I'll do it. Because I think that bypassing repeatedly the judgment ability of someone would be insulting that very ability, and that I wish my decisions to have minimal impact on others' freedom. So it's out of respect in fact, and the very contrary of a patriarcal... or matriarcal authoritative attitude... which is to decide by oneself without prior discussion. :classic_smile:

> Make sense. Regarding this I have to say that every love relationship is unique because of difference in characters and what works for one couple, doesn't necessary has to work for other couples. Certain adaptations are required but in general, proper and time tempered communication is very essential for healthy and good love relationship.

 

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That being said, I think you have more couple experience than I do, and you definitely know Prince better than I do. So you're still in the best position to judge about those matters regarding your trio. Smiley_jap_HFR.gif

> This is something that I like about you. You are objective and you said very deep wisdom here. We know each other: our weaknesses and strength and we act accordingly. I did several mistakes in my judgment about my Prince because he is unpredictable, but I know him and Ivy that much that I'm sure what I could and should do or shouldn't do. Believe me when saying that I would never willingly do anything against him or that will hurt him or her. :)

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