Some of you knows how badly we felt when seeing Spy's Stranger/Cassidey blog entries deleted. He wanted to make it as separate story, but nobody knew his plan. Well he wasn't obligated to inform his followers about his plans, but some people thought something terrible happened in his RL or he had some unpleasant encounter(s) on LL. My Prince and I were very sad. We love his stories very much. We decided to take a break from LL. You see, some of us are very attached to our Skyrim characters. For instance, my Prince is attached to his wood elf that he inherited from his father who loved elven race and archery. I loved his character too. If he wouldn't have his father's wood elf, he would play as a redguard for he loves that race the most, especially females. LOL. Anyway, seeing Spy's back and his blog reuploaded, we were very happy. Beside many bloggers, we highly respect Spy. He is a model to my Prince and Ivy in everything: ENB setup, spotless facial expressions, poses, humor and eye for details. I just wanted you to know that although virtual friendship isn't same and equal as real ones, we still value our LL friends. But, that's not the main topic of this diary. It's Nick's and Adriana's first big marital crises.

After spending some time with her mom and dad they visited us. We could see on their faces that something is very wrong and bad. Adriana asked my Prince if they can go somewhere to talk in private. She needed his opinion about Nick for he knows him the best. So they went to our cafe and talked. Nick wasn't willing to talk to us about their problem, but since my Ivy knows him well too because they dated, she convinced him to talk to her in private. I was with Mikey in that time. Here is what happened. My Prince's story first in shorten version.

Prince: When we arrived to our cafe, we sat in "Our spot". Adriana started to "fire" the things that pisses her off at Nick. She said that Nick is rarely home since he works with few Croatians that have bad influence on him. They drink on the work and he started to drink too and goofing again. But, his goofing was more offensive and irritating than funny. He spent more time with his new friends after the work than with her. She talked to him about it, but it always ended in quarrels. She said she loves him very much but she is at the edge of breakdown. I listened to her and I promised I'll talk to him about it.

Nick's version he told my Ivy:

Nick: I made some new friendships. Several people from our country work in the same factory. They called me out for a drink few times and whenever I wanted to go, Adrianna made a problem out of it. I asked her to come along, but she didn't want to. She wants me to be home all the time. You know I don't like to be "locked" in job/home relation and that I love companies. Since she didn't want to come with me, I went alone, but when I returned home, she couldn't stop nagging. When I invited my friends home after the work, she was more hostile to them than friendly. You know me, Ivy. I can be a fool, joker and I can quarrel, but I can never hurt my wife. So, when she didn't and couldn't stop behave like a bitch, I came home drunken for I couldn't get through her. We became very bitter on each other ...

My Ivy told him that she understand him, but she understand her too. Adriana is very different from him who wants more peaceful family life. Drinking with buddies as a way of escaping from marital problems isn't solution. So, they have to find some compromise. She said she will talk to my Prince first and both of them will talk to them. My Prince and Ivy told each other their stories and they discovered that both of them fell in old classic trap: "I'm right, you are wrong." So, they confronted them. In short: My Prince told them that they will never stop quarrelling unless they stop to blame each other and start to work on themselves individually trying to change themselves, not each other. Tolerance is the second thing they have to work on because it leads to compromise, compromise lead to agreement and agreement leads to acceptance and acceptance leads to understanding and so on and so on. Nobody is 100% compatible especially when it comes to opposite sexes. Males thinks and behave different than females and trying to inbuilt those difference into very good and stable relationship isn't easy. It requires a lot of effort and work. But, he told them that there is no perfect marriage and there will never be because every individual is different. That differences seeks to be accepted 100% while in the same tame, they are incapable to accept other side 100%. There will always be differences that will annoy your partner, but until they start to work on themselves first and practice tolerance, conflict and quarrels will always be the first choices. He told Adriana that she has to give more freedom to Nick who is very friendly and open and who easily makes new friendships. He is very sociable person while she is more introvert person. He also said to Nick that he should listen to his wife and stay home sometimes, no matter how much he is in the need to go out. Each of them have to make a first step toward each other instead of stepping back from each other or wait the other side to make the first step, because, their relationship will get colder and colder and by the time it might end with divorce. He told them about our example and the way we handle our disagreements and differences. We don't have perfect and ideal marriage (nobody does); we aren't 100% successful in everything, but we are far from being bitter or distanced from each other because each of us work hard on keeping our marriage applying the qualities my Prince told them about. He finished with is father's saying as a best formula for successful marriage that isn't easy to achieve but it's not impossible: "It's not important what I want and makes me happy, but what you want and makes you happy. If three of can do it, you could do it too because you love each other. Love is base, building and the roof of the house. That's why our marriage works and advance for we love each other more and more with every single new day." When he finished, I confirmed his words saying that Ivy and I learned forgiveness and humbleness from him. He is always first in asking forgiveness and in forgiving. Nick and A. thanked us for helping them see things they couldn't see. They hugged, kissed and asked forgiveness each other. We were very happy for them. We celebrated their reconciliation with Scottish whiskey, hugs and kisses. I was very and I mean very proud at my Prince. If anyone was competent to "lecture" them about true love and marriage, it was him.