Using SexLab and Matchmaker should be enough.
MatchMaker it self doesn't has any options, but as far as I know both features you mentioned are implemented in SexLab.
I installed everything, SexLab/MatchMaker works good.. but:
I will continue to use SexLab, but it has some deficiencies, defects, which should be reviewed in prosssime versions, one of them is the animation of masturbation is considerably less than the two animations standing and lying are present in Show Adult XXX mod, which are really excellent!
another thing I do not like about it is that you can not SexLab return to the previous step of the animation and not have variants, which instead has SexiS and remains top of this, we hope that in the future SexLab add these things, the time in SexiS continue to use it in alternation,
while the animations of ASX masturbation, I found the files in that standing here: http://www.loverslab...e-masturbation/
here's the ASX animation on the ground, but I do not know if it is identical to the latest 1.6 of ASX mod: http://skyrim.nexusm.../download/31158
this last ASX animation, to make it work, you have to run (LB on 360 controller) and bumping NPC.
Was thinking to place the two ASX animation (standing and ground) in some of the phases of SexLab, in order to create a mix of animation Sexlab and ASX
would be a possible solution although always a compromise?